Tell us about your "relationship" status

Hiya.. I'm bored and a conversation in another thread triggered this post.

Since not everyone feels that they can contribute to "lucidity" posts.. here is an opportunity for everyone to tell a small bit about themselves! YIPPEE!! :banana:

So tell us about your "relationship" status.

Your choices are:

a) Just casually dating
b) In a serious relationship
c) Living with someone
d) Married under 10 years
e) Married over 10 years
f) Married with children
g) None of the above

Ok.. I'll start.

I've been happily married over 10 years (second times a charm) and I have one son.

Your turn!

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I've been happily married under 10 years (about a year and a half now, since October 2005). First and only marriage for both of us, and we don't have any kids. Not sure if we'll ever want kids. So we have our animals - Titus (brown tabby cat), Cloud (Tonkinese cat), and Red XIII (red/rust Doberman dog).

19 years this year. The bliss just keeps getting blissier.

(And I don't mean even the slightest hint of sarcasm there. I never dreamed it could just keep getting better... but it does.)

Erm... with children - but didn't see that option on the poll.

I can unhappily say none of the above :(

I'm a pitiful, lonely loser... Umm, I mean single guy. I've been engaged once and "unofficially" engaged once. I always end up falling victim to cheating, unfaithful women. I've all but completely given up on the concept of not being hopelessly lonely.

I have a roommate so I'm not "lonely" but, in the romantic sense, I'm completely lost and abysmally discouraged and frustrated.

However, I'd love to be married. Now accepting applications.

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Originally Posted by Oneironaught

I'm a pitiful, lonely loser... Umm, I mean single guy. I've been engaged once and "unofficially" engaged once. I always end up falling victim to cheating, unfaithful women. I've all but completely given up on the concept of not being hopelessly lonely.

I have a roommate so I'm not "lonely" but, in the romantic sense, I'm completely lost and abysmally discouraged and frustrated.

However, I'd love to be married. Now accepting applications.

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"Now accepting applications." LOL!!

Seriously though Oneironaught, snap out of it! :bslap:

You may be alone but you're not a lonely "loser" and you should never think of yourself that way :nono: (I honestly believe that what you think.. you can bring about)!

On the real though, maybe you need to rethink your method of selecting women to date if you always end up with cheating unfaithful ones. I don't know you so I don't know what you look for in a woman (i.e., looks, brains, looks, personality, looks.. :bigteeth: ) but try and broaden your horizons and you may be pleasantly surprised with what you'll find. Just my 2 cents!

NeAvo, you're only 17 per your profile.. so you've got LOTS of time to experience all the happiness and heartbreaks of a relationship... it'll happen!

Oh and pj, I did notice that I forgot to add "married with children" on the poll but it wouldn't let me go back and edit the poll information. :? (and I agree with you.. when you're with the right person.. it does get blissier) :content:

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Married to the same wonderful woman for 23 years. Dated exclusively 3 years before that.

After all this time she still makes me feel funny! :p


Two kids, one in HS and one in College.

Well I was in a relationship for 2.5 years and I made the choice to end it. :( :( :( Must be for the best, right... if instead of just thinking about breaking up I went ahead and did it??

And right now I have a, errr, loverrrrr with whom I shall be shortly traveling with to Austria. :banana: :banana: :banana:

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Originally Posted by Clairity

"Now accepting applications." LOL!!

Seriously though Oneironaught, snap out of it! :bslap:

You may be alone but you're not a lonely "loser" and you should never think of yourself that way :nono: (I honestly believe that what you think.. you can bring about)!

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Well, I don't consider myself a "loser". That was just a way of saying that I don't do well with the ladies. It's funny, back in my band days I had the women throwing themselves at me (I could never understand what's so appealing about musicians) and I turned almost every one down. Why? Because I don't like "that kind" of woman. Women out "on the prowl" scare the hell out of me. They never seem to be the kind you can trust in many ways. They're either out screwing everything they can or they're meth addicts, or both. I'm sick of the games.

Anyway, I'v e never gotten into a serious relationship with anyone I've met in that manner. I'd rather be single than waste my time with those who don't share my values and priorities in life.

But, even the non-bar girls have managed to screw me over. Even more discouraging is that I treat my woman (when I have one) with great love and consideration. I'm a giving guy. In many respects, I'm very selfless. I'd rather give than receive. That's how I've always been. It all comes down to I have no idea what the hell woman want and I'm tired of worrying about it. I give my all and it's never enough, apparently.

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On the real though, maybe you need to rethink your method of selecting women to date if you always end up with cheating unfaithful ones.

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Therein lies my hindrance. I never go to where the women are so I have a near-impossible time meeting people. The women I've asked out in the past few years have all been "taken". I actually have found that they were indeed not single so at least I don't feel lied to or just plain brushed off. But, there again, it seems as though every good woman is already spoken for, leaving only those I avoid for me to pick from. That's promising :rolleyes:

So yeah, I've given up. It's easier that way.

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Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

Well I was in a relationship for 2.5 years and I made the choice to end it. :( :( :( Must be for the best, right... if instead of just thinking about breaking up I went ahead and did it??

And right now I have a, errr, loverrrrr with whom I shall be shortly traveling with to Austria. :banana: :banana: :banana:

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ha-ha I have not long been back from Austria, where abouts are you going?

I am currently single, having been left for someone else after 3 years :(

Adam, you've been to Austria?? Can you tell me about it.. I'm too lazy to read up on it. :? I'm going to Vienna and Salzburg.

Oneironaught, that's exactly how I feel about men! ;) That all the good ones are taken. But logically I know that's not true.. it's just a little disheartening sometimes to see couples left and right holding hands on the street.

Sometimes I feel like I've made a mistake by ending the relationship because I've lost that sense of security.. but, usually I'm pretty optimistic that there is SOMEONE OUT THERE (who could do to HURRY UP AND GET OVER HERE). :D

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Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

Oneironaught, that's exactly how I feel about men! ;) That all the good ones are taken. But logically I know that's not true.. it's just a little disheartening sometimes to see couples left and right holding hands on the street.

Sometimes I feel like I've made a mistake by ending the relationship because I've lost that sense of security.. but, usually I'm pretty optimistic that there is SOMEONE OUT THERE (who could do to HURRY UP AND GET OVER HERE). :D

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Amen to that.

And thus the DreamViews matchmaking service was born...

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Originally Posted by pj

And thus the DreamViews matchmaking service was born...

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I'm happily single (but browsing.) Got out of a bad relationship a few years ago, and became a single dad for about 3 years. I haven't been really looking for anything serious, lately, but have been open to anything. After the last relationship, I've become kind of picky while 'browsing,' (able to see where Oneironaught is coming from.) I'm coming out of a bunch of big changes in my life and just starting to get back on my feet, so I've been a little more serious about looking for another steady relationship. I'm in no hurry, though, because I'm doing a lot of good things, for myself, that I don't think I'd have the time to do, if I was seriously involved with someone.

I've been with T for about 11 years, living together about 10. Three cats and three dogs. Three different states. Recently, a leaky toilet that we changed the seal on three times before we realized it was really leaking from the tank. Now that takes true love to get thru. (I did make a discovery--heating the wax up with a blow-dryer makes it much easier to scrape off--I didn't see this tip anywhere in our research.)

Gh, don't be discouraged. I had to go thru a few before I found T too. As you get older it does get harder to find people that you like (age seems to be inversely proportional to the ability to overlook someone's flaws), but when you do find someone, they are more likely to be the right person for you and you are more likely to be able to stick with them. And I'm sure there should be a favorable available woman:man ratio at your age, which should only get better as time goes on. Not that a lot of time is going to go on before you find someone...

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Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

Adam, you've been to Austria?? Can you tell me about it.. I'm too lazy to read up on it. :? I'm going to Vienna and Salzburg.

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I've been to Austria, in the area between Salzburg and Innesbruck, VERY beautiful country!

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Originally Posted by Oneironaut

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I'm happily single (but browsing.) Got out of a bad relationship a few years ago, and became a single dad for about 3 years. I haven't been really looking for anything serious, lately, but have been open to anything. After the last relationship, I've become kind of picky while 'browsing,' (able to see where Oneironaught is coming from.) I'm coming out of a bunch of big changes in my life and just starting to get back on my feet, so I've been a little more serious about looking for another steady relationship. I'm in no hurry, though, because I'm doing a lot of good things, for myself, that I don't think I'd have the time to do, if I was seriously involved with someone.

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I just remembered I have to post that lucid dream date thingy Seeker did a long while back. I think I had those dreams about... a year ago :o . Anyway single, and don't want anyone :mad: . Maybe...

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Originally Posted by Oneironaught

I'm a pitiful, lonely loser... Umm, I mean single guy. I've been engaged once and "unofficially" engaged once. I always end up falling victim to cheating, unfaithful women. I've all but completely given up on the concept of not being hopelessly lonely.

I have a roommate so I'm not "lonely" but, in the romantic sense, I'm completely lost and abysmally discouraged and frustrated.

However, I'd love to be married. Now accepting applications.

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In the seduction world you would be called an AFC (Average Frustrated chump). Don't feel alone This is a North american wide phenomena.

I have a thread for people just like you in this section called "ask me/tell me about social dynamics." feel free to join in on the discussion!

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Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant

Adam, you've been to Austria?? Can you tell me about it.. I'm too lazy to read up on it. :? I'm going to Vienna and Salzburg.

Oneironaught, that's exactly how I feel about men! ;) That all the good ones are taken. But logically I know that's not true.. it's just a little disheartening sometimes to see couples left and right holding hands on the street.

Sometimes I feel like I've made a mistake by ending the relationship because I've lost that sense of security.. but, usually I'm pretty optimistic that there is SOMEONE OUT THERE (who could do to HURRY UP AND GET OVER HERE). :D

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Was staying an Bad MIttendorf and visited Bad Ausse and surrounding areas. Been twice this year. A friend of mine has some properties out there, a house and just bought a new hotel too so get to go a lot!

Its a lovely country! So peaceful, and really clean! The people have full respect for each other, when I damaged my shoulder snowboarding, I had to go to hospital and EVERYONE said hello and goodbye to each other! It was incredible! You don't get people like that here in the UK!

p.s Not all the good ones are taken!!! ;)

Also, pictures here: http://www.dreamviews.com/community/...237#post428237

Well, i've been happily living with my boyfriend who i met on here for the last three months. We've been together two years in september, he still gives me butterflies. I was worried that seeing him every day would take the shine off it, but it doesn't. There's nothing better than loving and being loved, i say.

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Originally Posted by irishcream

Well, i've been happily living with my boyfriend who i met on here for the last three months. We've been together two years in september, he still gives me butterflies. I was worried that seeing him every day would take the shine off it, but it doesn't. There's nothing better than loving and being loved, i say.

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That's wonderful. If only I could be so fortunate.

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Originally Posted by irishcream

There's nothing better than loving and being loved, i say.

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Re-quoted for profound truth.

Well, I'm single and not unhappy! (I can also say I'm happy but not do to this)

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Originally Posted by NeAvO

I can unhappily say none of the above :(

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aww *hugs.* Don't worry you're not alone *sniff*

I am, in a relationship with a girl who I want to marry, lived with for a few months but then she moved 1600kms away (1000miles) to do a practical experience job for her chefs course. So shes been there for 6 months, and I've been here, living with her parents. Which is a bit weird. But cool.

So that's my story. We're going on a working holiday in Europe next year january, and we'll see what happens from there.

I'm "casually dating". Me! :banana: But I don't enjoy it. It's just that I've been alone for so long I make do with anything! I feel bad because he's a nice chap but there's no way I'm going further with him. :?

None of the above! Single and happy! :p

I'm single. I had a fairly serious long-distance relationship with a friend of mine for about three years. We hooked up my senior year of high school (and he was the first to ask me to a dance... and ask me out) and he came to my univeristy after he graduated (as he is two years younger than me), though not just because of me. However, my junior year, the year he came, I came to the conclusion that I just did not see myself with him in the future and decided to break it off before he thought otherwise. I'd just be devistated to have someone propose and have to say no.

So now I'm back home living with the 'rents... not paying rent. :D To be honest, I'm okay with being single right now mainly because I know that there is no one in this town that's for me. I'm biding my time until I can get out.

In a complicated dating-type situation.

Okay, so I'm always either single or in a complicated dating-type situation. That's only because guys don't want to have to deal with me very long. Some of them only like to look...don't want to actually care. Pfft, but I get what i can.

LOL!!!

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ohhhh man, welcome to teh interweb!

Married three years and loving it. Actually, this is my second marriage, but we don't count the first one. :D

None of the above. Single, and up 'til recently quite happy that way. Now I'm beginning to rethink that.



I've begun to crave female companionship. Thing is, I don't have the opportunity to get out much, not having a car, and still stuck with my learner's license. So no real way to meet anyone. Poor, pitiful me . . .

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Originally Posted by Man of Steel

I've begun to crave female companionship. Thing is, I don't have the opportunity to get out much, not having a car, and still stuck with my learner's license. So no real way to meet anyone. Poor, pitiful me . . .

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I used to think like that before i got my licence and got use of a car. The truth (at least for me, it might be more optimistic for you tho) is a car doesn't change much, yeah it's convienient, but it's not going to solve your female problems. I used to think "oh yeah, it'll be no problem, once i get a car i'll be able to meet people and all", but if you aren't meeting people already, you're screwed.

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Originally Posted by Man of Steel

Single, and up 'til recently quite happy that way. Now I'm beginning to rethink that.

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That's actually where I'm at. It's cool being single, don't get me wrong. But after awhile it does start to get lonesome.

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Originally Posted by skysaw

Married three years and loving it. Actually, this is my second marriage, but we don't count the first one. :D

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You've had what my boss likes to call a "practice marriage". ;)

I'm single, not unhappy. I've never really worried about girls much (except grade 10, I got screwed over every time).

I think grade 12 is going to be my year. I need my first girlfriend.

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Originally Posted by trigotron

I used to think like that before i got my licence and got use of a car. The truth (at least for me, it might be more optimistic for you tho) is a car doesn't change much, yeah it's convienient, but it's not going to solve your female problems. I used to think "oh yeah, it'll be no problem, once i get a car i'll be able to meet people and all", but if you aren't meeting people already, you're screwed.

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Oh, I'm under no real illusions that having a vehicle will suddenly open up whole realms of opportunities formerly closed to me. It will give me transportation, though, so that if I want to go on a date, I won't have to have my sister drive me...

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Originally Posted by Oneironaught

That's actually where I'm at. It's cool being single, don't get me wrong. But after awhile it does start to get lonesome.

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Indeed. Indeed it does. Somehow a dog, though a faithful companion, just isn't the same.

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Originally Posted by Man of Steel

Indeed. Indeed it does. Somehow a dog, though a faithful companion, just isn't the same.

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I've actually been single and content with it for some years now. But I have been looking for the past year in a half though. I'm quite rusty after so long (in more ways than one).

I've been happily, blessedly married to Chris for 13 years, and together with him 16. We've experienced hard times, stress, and good fortune, too. The years just increase my love and respect for Chris.

I recently had a medical emergency and nearly died. It was then I realized just how much he loved me and the depth of his loyalty.

I hope all of you out there who are single but wish to be married are able to choose well and find this type of relationship. There is simply no substitute for a faithful, loving, long-term partner.

I want what EagleEye is having. Hell, yeah.

It's nice that so many of our married members express such happiness and loyalty when referring to their marriages and spouses. That is so cool.

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Originally Posted by EagleEye

I've been happily, blessedly married to Chris for 13 years, and together with him 16. We've experienced hard times, stress, and good fortune, too. The years just increase my love and respect for Chris.

I recently had a medical emergency and nearly died. It was then I realized just how much he loved me and the depth of his loyalty.

I hope all of you out there who are single but wish to be married are able to choose well and find this type of relationship. There is simply no substitute for a faithful, loving, long-term partner.

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Glad you are all right, and you had him to be with you.

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Originally Posted by EagleEye

There is simply no substitute for a faithful, loving, long-term partner.

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No truer words were ever written.
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I cant believe 65% of people here are not dating. We should set up a single room :lol:

I'm sort of single.

I am so alone!

Me and my girlfriend Sarah are going strong :) We've been going out for over a year and a 1/2 and I love her a lot.

http://i30.photobucket.com/albums/c3...Sarahmoon2.jpg

Barnsey, what a sweet picture!
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I'm always involved with someone lightly.

And every few months I get involved heavily.


Am just trying people out before finding the ultimate.















I'll keep tellin myself that.

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Originally Posted by Oneironaught

I've actually been single and content with it for some years now. But I have been looking for the past year in a half though. I'm quite rusty after so long (in more ways than one).

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Yyyyyeah, about that... The sooner I come to grips with the fact that there is indeed no one out there for me the sooner I can get back to my life of being a sad, lonesome - albeit at least somewhat content - loser.

You know the cruel irony of it all? I've kind of developed an attitude the past few years that maybe no woman could live up to my standards. But, with every failure I chalk up, the truth comes around to slap me in the face. The deficient one is me. I should have known that all along. I suppose I'm not worthy.

Well, I know my place now. Life goes on as usual.

Oneironaught, that is a terrible, despicable attitude to have. Rid yourself of it immediately.

If you, for some reason, feel that you yourself are the problem, figure out how to go about fixing it. Don't just give up on relationships altogether. Seriously, you're beginning to sound downright scary with this whole, "I suck" thing. Realizing that you have issues is one thing -- if that is indeed the case -- but taking it out on yourself is another thing entirely.

Cheer up; they say there is an average of four females for every one male on this planet. Out of all those, at least one is your perfect match. Logistics say she can't be too far off. Just be patient, and don't give up.


And if you keep up with this self-depreciation crap, I'm gonna chew you out again, buster. Up one side and down the other. From all that I've seen of you on this forum, you're one hell of a great guy, one I sure as heck wouldn't mind calling friend. Whatever lucky woman makes you hers will be just that; lucky.

Chin up. Tomorrow's a new day. One in which, hopefully, one of those couple billion spare women will discover that you're just what she's been looking for all her life.

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Originally Posted by Man of Steel

Oneironaught, that is a terrible, despicable attitude to have. Rid yourself of it immediately.

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You're right. I was pretty damned depressed for the past week but, I'm working through it. I'll be alright, just needed somewhere to vent my frustrations and feel sorry for myself.

*slowly raises chin*

Yeah oneiro, ur a good guy, no doubt about it, you just have to remember that. I recently went though one of those times in my life, but what i discovered is that failure is a great motivator, i just had to learn how to use it.

Well, my status is now single but looking :D

Sorry guys, I just needed to vent off some built-up steam earlier but I'm ok now. I've been counseled by a very good friend here to have a whole new, brighter perspective.

Thank you, friend.

I'm so lonely. I'm awaiting a Thai Bride that cost me £400 on eBay

Hehe, I almost dated a Thai girl once but it fell through.

you're missing the "I'm an emotional wreck and ca'ne hack it noo more" option

Happily married for three years!