Ask Me For Advice

Now, I do realize that there is the "HELP!" section, but I guess this is for easier stuff. If you need advice on anything, no matter how trivial, ask away! I love giving people advice, or at least putting in my opinion. If it's something really important, I suggest that you would also post a topic in the "Help!" sub-forum, but feel free to do it here as well.

If (as the topic progresses) you have a question that you want me to answer, but don't want people to know you asked it, just PM it to me, and I will quote it anonymously.

Now, you may wonder.. "Why does your opinion count? What kind of merits do you have?". In all honesty, I don't have any. But people constantly tell me I have great advice to give, and can work out many different ways to solve a conflict or situation. So I figured I'd give it a try.

Ask away, about any topic, just try to keep it somewhat clean, or if you're not going to keep it clean, censor yourself somewhat.

How do I fall asleep faster, and dream recall and and and how do I get more lucids and I think that is about all I can think of...for now.

Well, this is "Off-topic" discussion, so I mean.. I guess it wouldn't be fitting for me to really answer that, since there's a world of answers in the other boards, but... surely.

Falling asleep faster is quite funny actually. Everyone has their different ways to fall asleep quicker, besides just being flat out tired. I suggest making sure your room is at a comfortable temperature, and you're as comfortable as can be in your bed. Basically, just start thinking about something very vividly (have your eyes closed, of course). Just, perhaps... let a scenario play out in your head.

Let's take for instance, you're at a mall, in a clothing store. Just imagine yourself buying clothes, trying them on, etc etc. Eventually you walk out of the store, and see an old friend. So you and your friend decide to go walk around the mall. Imagine yourself talking to them. Be sure to think about things in real-time. If you're walking for 15 minutes in the mall scenario in your mind, you should be laying there for 15 minutes. The point is, the more you immerse yourself into this situation, the more your body becomes relaxed, and you take your mind off the subject of falling asleep. You will eventually start to daze out, and fall asleep. But be sure to not think too hard. Just let the scenario play out, and if your mind happens to wander to something else, let it. If you work your brain too hard, you'll remain awake. Just... think very calmly about something. I'm sure that will work.

Next question.. dream recall. Write down everything you can remember from your dreams when you wake up, in a journal. Honestly, that's it. It would help to add tracking information, like dates and times, the feelings of the dream, and locations (like I do in my dream journal, look it up if you want). But other than that, record your dreams, and then feel free to live out your life. Eventually, the dream will leave your mind, and a week or so later, go over your dream journal, and it will trigger that memory. Helping out the part of your brain that stores your memories of the dreams. There you go.

As far as getting more lucids goes... just be sure you have a technique that suits you. WILD is not for everyone, same with MILD, DILD, FILD, whatever. If something isn't working, go onto another method. Honestly, there are way too many subjects to cover in here. Seriously, take a trip over to the "Attaining Lucidity" sub-board, and look at all the stuff there. There's different foods you can eat, sleep patterns... honestly, everything except for the kitchen sink over there.

Besides all that, just don't give up! Enjoy your time in the dream world.

Im sorry it was off topic but no one else answered my post...
Thank you...
I will try your advice.

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Originally Posted by EchoSun13

Im sorry it was off topic but no one else answered my post...
Thank you...
I will try your advice.

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Cool beans!

Anyone else?

What can I do to make sure I keep in touch with someone who is lovely to be around?

Why do you try so hard?

:)

Duty. My mentality on friendship and love is that it is based on a responsibility.

I have lost friends in the past, and easilly replaced them. I find that if I want to think of people as special and amazing I have to keep them in my life.

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Originally Posted by apachama

Duty. My mentality on friendship and love is that it is based on a responsibility.

I have lost friends in the past, and easilly replaced them. I find that if I want to think of people as special and amazing I have to keep them in my life.

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Till death do you part.

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Originally Posted by apachama

What can I do to make sure I keep in touch with someone who is lovely to be around?

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Well, ClouD... thanks for being so understanding.

xD

Anyway, the best I can tell you about this...

"Keep in touch" is a phrase that can be taken in several ways. Now, if they are moving away, you should definatley ask for phone numbers, screen names, emails, the whole shi-bang.

If you just like a girl, and want to hang out with her more, the easiest thing I've found is just to ask her for her number. If you don't want to come off as obviously trying to pick up her digits, throw it in the conversation somewhere. It helps if you have a mutual friend.

Example:
You: Oh, You're friends with *insert mutual friend* too? We should all hang out sometime.
Her: That'd be fun!
You: Here, give me your cell phone number so I can text you with plans.

That usually works. Although one time I did flatly say "This is my phone, and your number is going to be in it." I think she kind of found that sexy. xD

Regardless, don't be shy. That's about all I can tell you. The best way to keep in touch with someone, is to keep in touch with them. Although that is like, ass backwards, that's just what you have to do. Get their contact shit.


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How do I meet people?
I have not alot of friends..Im quite timid.

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Originally Posted by EchoSun13

How do I meet people?
I have not alot of friends..Im quite timid.

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Ah, the age old question.. "How do I get more friends?"

Well, it all depends on your current social situations. Meeting friends through school is quite easy! The first way you can start meeting new people, is by finding common ground. Take school for instance! You see a new person in school, or around campus ground. Perhaps one of your acquaintances or friends is talking to them. Contribute to the conversation by making note of something a common student would know.

Example:

You: "I just got out of *insert class name*, *insert teachers name* is so *insert trait or quality*"
Them: Oh, I know!
You: Yeah, oh well! At least I'm learning something, I guess!

But if you aren't in a school, or something like that.. always rely on current friends. Try to arrange (or just make mention) a time where you and your current friends, can hang out with friends of your other current friend. That's how I met most of my friends. A friend of a friend.

Example:

You: Hey *insert current friend's name*, we should go to the movies or something. Bring along some of your friends, I'm up for meeting new people. And any friend of yours is a friend of mine, eh?

That usually works.

But overall, make sure you believe in yourself. Most timid or shy people are afraid of rejection, or afraid of being looked at in a negative manner. You have to look at it this way. The world is composed of people, of different ethnicities, qualities, and personalities. You are just another fish in that sea. You have unique traits that other people may not have. Be a friendly and kind person, and people will naturely be friendly and kind back to you. And if people think you are weird, or reject your friendship... so what?! You are you, and you shouldn't have to change for anyone. What you do, makes who you are, and who you are, determines what you do. Even though that sounds kind of backwards, it's true.

There's a million fish in the sea. There's got to be people to befriend you. The universe tends to unfold as it should.

And if it means anything, I'll be your friend! :D

Despite sounding somewhat silly, this is a serious question: what's the best way to clean my room? Also, what's the best way to get motivated to do housework that needs doing?

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Originally Posted by Man of Steel

Despite sounding somewhat silly, this is a serious question: what's the best way to clean my room? Also, what's the best way to get motivated to do housework that needs doing?

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Ah, cleaning the good ol room. I found that, if you section it off, it's much easier to do.

Looking at it like "Oh, I have to clean up ALL of this", it's kind of bad. Just be like, "Okay, I'm going to clean my desk."

When you're done with that, move onto the next major thing you need to clean. Also, remember how nice it will all look when you are done. And the sense of accomplishment you will have. Also, depending on how long you've had your room un-clean, look through some of the stuff. I find that fun sometimes. Like, you have a bunch of papers or something, just look through them.. read them and such. You're cleaning, and being distracted at the same time.

As far as other housework, same rules apply. Section it off, and don't feel bad if you just want to take a break. Treat it like a game. See how fast and efficiently you can clean certain sections of your house, but try not to break anything.

Enjoy!

And if it means anything, I'll be your friend! :D[/QUOTE]
Did I just make a friend?

Yay!

And MoS to clean your room, ask mom.
Thats what I do when I feel like it is to big of a mess for me...but I usauly keep it clean.:)

Okay Amaze, answer this one:

What's the best way to relieve stress at work?

I think the easiest way to clean a room is to KEEP IT CLEAN. ;)

Seriously though, if you clean things up on a consistent basis then it won't need cleaning!

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Originally Posted by EchoSun13

Did I just make a friend?

Yay!

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You sure did! :D

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Originally Posted by CoLd BlooDed

I think the easiest way to clean a room is to KEEP IT CLEAN. ;)

Seriously though, if you clean things up on a consistent basis then it won't need cleaning!

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Haha, very true. No reason to fix a problem if there isn't a problem in the first place!

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Originally Posted by Guerilla

Okay Amaze, answer this one:

What's the best way to relieve stress at work?

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Yeah, it seems that you're always making posts about work, and how it's really getting you down.

Since I assume you work at a computer/desk job (from your other posts), it's all about the restrictions of your office. I mean, you could always just play a flash game, or draw a little picture in MPaint, to distract yourself, but then again if your office doesn't allow that, you're kind of out of luck.

I don't know exactly what you do, or what your position is, so it's kind of hard to answer. A construction worker could relax in different ways than a lawyer could, you know?

Besides simple breathing techniques (In through the nose, out through the mouth slowly), and just closing your eyes and thinking of something or someone you really like, I couldn't tell you what to do since I don't know exactly what you do.

If you could tell me that, I could better help you!

Thanks!

The mercury bath for my time machine doesn't seem to be cooling the core unit enough. Any advice?

Thanks, btw you double posted, lag?

Anyways, I test software, my job is very tedious, but it is a GREAT job, imo...but it does get you down, and bored and frustrated, I will try breathing more meditatively I guess, And I COULD play flash games but, my cubicle is open next to 3 others, so im limited to games when they go out to lunch or something lol...

I only come here on DV when they aren't at their desks, I don't want to appear as a lazy worker, although I do get my work done, always...I do goof off but, my work gets done so I think thats okay right?

Amazeo, the best adviser every.
I think thats how I spell it.;)

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Thanks, btw you double posted, lag?

Anyways, I test software, my job is very tedious, but it is a GREAT job, imo...but it does get you down, and bored and frustrated, I will try breathing more meditatively I guess, And I COULD play flash games but, my cubicle is open next to 3 others, so im limited to games when they go out to lunch or something lol...

I only come here on DV when they aren't at their desks, I don't want to appear as a lazy worker, although I do get my work done, always...I do goof off but, my work gets done so I think thats okay right?

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Yeah, double post because my internet hiccuped and I was trying to add something to the post.

Yeah, usually any kind of testing job is tedious. Breathing is always very very good, especially since you're in a small workplace. Sometimes, just get up and take a walk. You can say you have to go to the bathroom or something (only if that doesn't cost you a break). Flash games and whatnot can be fun, but sites like Dreamviews, and other community forums are probably good too! Most importantly, don't get too fed up with work. Just remember that you're getting paid. They wouldn't call it work if you didn't have to work.

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The mercury bath for my time machine doesn't seem to be cooling the core unit enough. Any advice?

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Yeah, use more mercury and add a little liquid nitrogen. That'll cool it off.

Could you tell I answered your obviously retarded question with a equally retarded answer?

How do I conore hiehgt fears?

I tried jumping off a bridge..I did(into water) But I could do it today...I was so affraid!

help Amazeo!!!

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Originally Posted by EchoSun13

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And if it means anything, I'll be your friend! :D

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Did I just make a friend?

Yay!

And MoS to clean your room, ask mom.
Thats what I do when I feel like it is to big of a mess for me...but I usauly keep it clean.:)

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Heh, she's the one telling me I need to get it clean. Plus I'm sick and tired of looking at it. :P

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Originally Posted by CoLd BlooDed

I think the easiest way to clean a room is to KEEP IT CLEAN. ;)

Seriously though, if you clean things up on a consistent basis then it won't need cleaning!

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Yeah, I usually do. It's a pain when I let it pile up...

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Originally Posted by EchoSun13

How do I conore hiehgt fears?

I tried jumping off a bridge..I did(into water) But I could do it today...I was so affraid!

help Amazeo!!!

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Just to add to what AmazeO will say, but I greatly helped my fear of grounds (it's not the height that hurts, it's the ground at the bottom of it) by jumping off a bridge in a lucid dream. I stuck myself waist-deep in a log, splinters were everywhere. Then I blasted out. :D It helped a lot.

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Originally Posted by EchoSun13

How do I conore hiehgt fears?

I tried jumping off a bridge..I did(into water) But I could do it today...I was so affraid!

help Amazeo!!!

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MoS was on the right track. If you're able to fully control lucid dreams, you could use that as a way to get rid of your fear. Otherwise, there's not much to do besides to face your fear.

I mean, not like you should be jumping off of high places... but... go bungie jumping, go skydiving, jump off the high up diving board at the pool. Sometimes, you have to just close your eyes, take a deep breath, and face your fear.

Sorry I couldn't be of more help darling.