Thread: Ask Me For Advice

Now, I do realize that there is the "HELP!" section, but I guess this is for easier stuff. If you need advice on anything, no matter how trivial, ask away! I love giving people advice, or at least putting in my opinion. If it's something really important, I suggest that you would also post a topic in the "Help!" sub-forum, but feel free to do it here as well.

If (as the topic progresses) you have a question that you want me to answer, but don't want people to know you asked it, just PM it to me, and I will quote it anonymously.

Now, you may wonder.. "Why does your opinion count? What kind of merits do you have?". In all honesty, I don't have any. But people constantly tell me I have great advice to give, and can work out many different ways to solve a conflict or situation. So I figured I'd give it a try.

Ask away, about any topic, just try to keep it somewhat clean, or if you're not going to keep it clean, censor yourself somewhat.

How do I fall asleep faster, and dream recall and and and how do I get more lucids and I think that is about all I can think of...for now.

Well, this is "Off-topic" discussion, so I mean.. I guess it wouldn't be fitting for me to really answer that, since there's a world of answers in the other boards, but... surely.

Falling asleep faster is quite funny actually. Everyone has their different ways to fall asleep quicker, besides just being flat out tired. I suggest making sure your room is at a comfortable temperature, and you're as comfortable as can be in your bed. Basically, just start thinking about something very vividly (have your eyes closed, of course). Just, perhaps... let a scenario play out in your head.

Let's take for instance, you're at a mall, in a clothing store. Just imagine yourself buying clothes, trying them on, etc etc. Eventually you walk out of the store, and see an old friend. So you and your friend decide to go walk around the mall. Imagine yourself talking to them. Be sure to think about things in real-time. If you're walking for 15 minutes in the mall scenario in your mind, you should be laying there for 15 minutes. The point is, the more you immerse yourself into this situation, the more your body becomes relaxed, and you take your mind off the subject of falling asleep. You will eventually start to daze out, and fall asleep. But be sure to not think too hard. Just let the scenario play out, and if your mind happens to wander to something else, let it. If you work your brain too hard, you'll remain awake. Just... think very calmly about something. I'm sure that will work.

Next question.. dream recall. Write down everything you can remember from your dreams when you wake up, in a journal. Honestly, that's it. It would help to add tracking information, like dates and times, the feelings of the dream, and locations (like I do in my dream journal, look it up if you want). But other than that, record your dreams, and then feel free to live out your life. Eventually, the dream will leave your mind, and a week or so later, go over your dream journal, and it will trigger that memory. Helping out the part of your brain that stores your memories of the dreams. There you go.

As far as getting more lucids goes... just be sure you have a technique that suits you. WILD is not for everyone, same with MILD, DILD, FILD, whatever. If something isn't working, go onto another method. Honestly, there are way too many subjects to cover in here. Seriously, take a trip over to the "Attaining Lucidity" sub-board, and look at all the stuff there. There's different foods you can eat, sleep patterns... honestly, everything except for the kitchen sink over there.

Besides all that, just don't give up! Enjoy your time in the dream world.

Im sorry it was off topic but no one else answered my post...
Thank you...
I will try your advice.

Originally Posted by EchoSun13

Im sorry it was off topic but no one else answered my post...
Thank you...
I will try your advice.

Cool beans!

Anyone else?

What can I do to make sure I keep in touch with someone who is lovely to be around?

How do I convince someone I don't love them?


AMAZEO...Care to tell me?


LOL!

Tell them you don't.

Originally Posted by xXSomeGuyXx

Tell them you don't.

I did...He doesn't seem to understand!

Oh, then he's probably just playing.

Originally Posted by xXSomeGuyXx

Oh, then he's probably just playing.

There's your answer!

How do I become a better rapper?

Originally Posted by EchoSun13

How do I become a better rapper?

Expanding your vocabulary, finding cool flowing phrases, and just generally rap more out loud.

Soon, I'll be changing schools. Should I got to a school event at 6:00 (which is 40 minutes away my time) to 9:00, or should I do my homework. The problem here is that I really don't wanna do my homework Sunday. I was planning on playing Spore all day tomorrow. Some of it's completion work so I just have to write down a bunch of gibberish.

Fuck me, I did the responsible thing and stayed home.

Well, I guess you already made that decision. I would have said School function.

Originally Posted by AmazeO XD

Well, I guess you already made that decision. I would have said School function.

I should have gone to the school function... I didn't even do my homework.

Originally Posted by AmazeO XD

Expanding your vocabulary, finding cool flowing phrases, and just generally rap more out loud.

Thanks, Im not into rap but it would be amazing to be able to do it.

Originally Posted by EchoSun13

Thanks, Im not into rap but it would be amazing to be able to do it.

I'm not either,
it's just like writing a song,
and you mention hoes or something,
and you talk about their thongs.
Lyrics are lyrics,
regardless of the beat,
whether you sing in the studio,
or sing it on the street.

Amaze...drugs, sex, or rock and roll?

Any advice?

Originally Posted by AmazeO XD

I'm not either,
it's just like writing a song,
and you mention hoes or something,
and you talk about their thongs.
Lyrics are lyrics,
regardless of the beat,
whether you sing in the studio,
or sing it on the street.

Ha, because it is not rap with out hoes and thongs...Wait you forgot money.

I would like to ask for your advice about this issue I have. My bf and I broke up after 6 and half years. We broke up once in between. That break up was out of anger and wasn't a big fight either. This break up for me was a shock because we had a big arguement before I left for a trip for a month. Before I left for my trip, I said to him I don't feel he loves me enough. He didn't have time for me and didn't make me feel I am accepted into his family. He gave me a hug so tight that I felt he wasn't going to let me go. He said he will show in action. With that hug I felt he meant it and I left. When I return from the trip, we only get to see each other for 15 mins. As he was working over time that week.


That week I came back I felt something strange happened as he didn't make effort to call me as much and mostly spoke on msn. He didn't even have the urge to see me. I know he was having his exam soon, but still. So I messaged him and ask to see if he is ok. At the beginning of the conversation, I felt he was trying to break up with me, so I ask him if is. He said no I am not. I just want to have space as I can't breath. I need time to change. Then in the afternoon, my god mom called assuming he broke up with me and told me the news. He went to her house to tell her to take care of me that he won't see me for some time. The story on that half an hour has changed since she told me few times (the order sometimes is different). Anyways, she doesn't want him to hang on to me so ask him to make the decision. She is a concelor as well. She ask him 2 questions. He answered he loves me but don't see future. He can't see his own future as he is still studying and feel his job is not stable. So she said lets all talk about it after his exam and see if he can change his mind. THen after the conversation extra..he change the answer to not love me and no future. My god mom asked him when he will contact me. He said 1.5 years. She told him not to find me till after 5 years. I understood what he meant because that's when he finish his stuides. After that I didn't find him. He was having his exam as well at the time of the break up so I didn't bother to go find him. I want him to finish his exam. Also I was taking a course as well. Anyhow, i just I felt i love him and realize that so I don't want to bother him with more stress. I left the issue alone.

After the break up, he messaged me and still shows he cares. I tried not to message him because he said he wanted space. Also, I don't want to make him feel i care or think of him. Yet we chatted more last month and I can see he cares if i have a perm Job. We did kind of talked a little bit of the past. He felt he can get through to me now more than before. As I wasn't blinded and just focus on the bad i guess. We work together once a week in this school. He works up stairs while I work downstairs. We can bump into each other. First few weeks he would take another way to his room. After we spook on msn, he would past by my room and look at what I was doing. even my coworker notice how he walk by my room for few weeks. They also feel there is still love there from the conversation we had. He was trying to make sure i see him and say hi to him. The msgs, the concerns and he tries to say hi to me made me feel confused. My parents and my god mom of course felt he was irresponsible how he left me. They hate him. My parents, especially my dad felt he will come back after his studies since he never say break up to me. They feel if I have a permentant job he will return back to me as He just wants me for my job. My job does have a good pension, yet his job is not bad either. I really dont' feel he comes back c'uz of my job. I think is more I won't be a baggage to him. My friend also feel there is something still as she heard what went on this few months.

I don't want to expect anything. I want to get over him too. I don't want to wait for him but I know i still have feelings for him. Yet I don't want to loose him from my life. I know I should just focus on work. I am doing that and I feel is getting better. Yet I still have that tiny hope in me. What should I do? I'm not young anymore. I just turn 30. I am trying to heal and getting back on my feet. I join activities and do things I want to do. I took up violin and learn to knit. I can't get my mind off. In front of people i am copping and doing well. Yet I know deep down is not that great. He is my first serious relationship. I never felt that sad in my life. I don't want to give myself any hope. Yet i don't want to close my door. Is this normal? What do you think of this? I feel so stupid as there are better guys out there. I don't know why, i feel he is the one for me. Even though we had so many issue. Drives me insane! Help!

I need some advice too...
There is a group of girls I used to hang out with nonstop; I even dated one (remember Alice?). I fell in love, like REAL love I'm sure. We were great together. Well, one of the friends, who happens to be the monarch of the group decided to hate me, for no apparent reason, and this led to the demise of my happy relationship. So, none of them tallk to me anymore, and my ex, who I still love, doesn't seem to care. At all.

Well, I see my ex everyday, and we don't talk, at all. It hurts. Do you know of any way to easilly get over someone? It's been three months...I can't keep feeling like this. Every time I see her, I just want to jump out a window (don't worry, I'm not seriously thinkking of suicide).

Also, what should I do about the other group?
Along with all that school crap, I've been seriously questioning life and time. It seems that there are endless, monotonous days of nothingness. It's very depressing. I won't remember this day, I won't remember the memes I posted today. Why does it matter? Why should I get out of bed in the morning, and work my ass off only to forget everything later? When will these endless weeks get some kind of spice in them? Why does it seem like the world is working against me, and I'm stuck in a for(; loop?

I'm not able to get a therapist to talk to, so...AmazeO, you cease to amaze me. Please, help man.

Originally Posted by Akarli

I would like to ask for your advice about this issue I have. My bf and I broke up after 6 and half years. We broke up once in between. That break up was out of anger and wasn't a big fight either. This break up for me was a shock because we had a big arguement before I left for a trip for a month. Before I left for my trip, I said to him I don't feel he loves me enough. He didn't have time for me and didn't make me feel I am accepted into his family. He gave me a hug so tight that I felt he wasn't going to let me go. He said he will show in action. With that hug I felt he meant it and I left. When I return from the trip, we only get to see each other for 15 mins. As he was working over time that week.


That week I came back I felt something strange happened as he didn't make effort to call me as much and mostly spoke on msn. He didn't even have the urge to see me. I know he was having his exam soon, but still. So I messaged him and ask to see if he is ok. At the beginning of the conversation, I felt he was trying to break up with me, so I ask him if is. He said no I am not. I just want to have space as I can't breath. I need time to change. Then in the afternoon, my god mom called assuming he broke up with me and told me the news. He went to her house to tell her to take care of me that he won't see me for some time. The story on that half an hour has changed since she told me few times (the order sometimes is different). Anyways, she doesn't want him to hang on to me so ask him to make the decision. She is a concelor as well. She ask him 2 questions. He answered he loves me but don't see future. He can't see his own future as he is still studying and feel his job is not stable. So she said lets all talk about it after his exam and see if he can change his mind. THen after the conversation extra..he change the answer to not love me and no future. My god mom asked him when he will contact me. He said 1.5 years. She told him not to find me till after 5 years. I understood what he meant because that's when he finish his stuides. After that I didn't find him. He was having his exam as well at the time of the break up so I didn't bother to go find him. I want him to finish his exam. Also I was taking a course as well. Anyhow, i just I felt i love him and realize that so I don't want to bother him with more stress. I left the issue alone.

After the break up, he messaged me and still shows he cares. I tried not to message him because he said he wanted space. Also, I don't want to make him feel i care or think of him. Yet we chatted more last month and I can see he cares if i have a perm Job. We did kind of talked a little bit of the past. He felt he can get through to me now more than before. As I wasn't blinded and just focus on the bad i guess. We work together once a week in this school. He works up stairs while I work downstairs. We can bump into each other. First few weeks he would take another way to his room. After we spook on msn, he would past by my room and look at what I was doing. even my coworker notice how he walk by my room for few weeks. They also feel there is still love there from the conversation we had. He was trying to make sure i see him and say hi to him. The msgs, the concerns and he tries to say hi to me made me feel confused. My parents and my god mom of course felt he was irresponsible how he left me. They hate him. My parents, especially my dad felt he will come back after his studies since he never say break up to me. They feel if I have a permentant job he will return back to me as He just wants me for my job. My job does have a good pension, yet his job is not bad either. I really dont' feel he comes back c'uz of my job. I think is more I won't be a baggage to him. My friend also feel there is something still as she heard what went on this few months.

I don't want to expect anything. I want to get over him too. I don't want to wait for him but I know i still have feelings for him. Yet I don't want to loose him from my life. I know I should just focus on work. I am doing that and I feel is getting better. Yet I still have that tiny hope in me. What should I do? I'm not young anymore. I just turn 30. I am trying to heal and getting back on my feet. I join activities and do things I want to do. I took up violin and learn to knit. I can't get my mind off. In front of people i am copping and doing well. Yet I know deep down is not that great. He is my first serious relationship. I never felt that sad in my life. I don't want to give myself any hope. Yet i don't want to close my door. Is this normal? What do you think of this? I feel so stupid as there are better guys out there. I don't know why, i feel he is the one for me. Even though we had so many issue. Drives me insane! Help!

First off, if you are foreign, your English is shaping up pretty good.

If you aren't, you need to brush up on your basics.

Regardless, you are 30 years old. I am only 18. You are almost twice my age, and I couldn't tell you anything that would be right or wrong. The feelings you feel of being torn between wanting to be close and not be suffocating are normal. After being in a relationship for 6 years, I would understand it being incredibly hard, as only time will heal your wounds.

As far as that goes, I would say just to let time work it's magic and see what lies in the future.

I need some advice too...
There is a group of girls I used to hang out with nonstop; I even dated one (remember Alice?). I fell in love, like REAL love I'm sure. We were great together. Well, one of the friends, who happens to be the monarch of the group decided to hate me, for no apparent reason, and this led to the demise of my happy relationship. So, none of them tallk to me anymore, and my ex, who I still love, doesn't seem to care. At all.

Well, I see my ex everyday, and we don't talk, at all. It hurts. Do you know of any way to easilly get over someone? It's been three months...I can't keep feeling like this. Every time I see her, I just want to jump out a window (don't worry, I'm not seriously thinkking of suicide).

Also, what should I do about the other group?
Along with all that school crap, I've been seriously questioning life and time. It seems that there are endless, monotonous days of nothingness. It's very depressing. I won't remember this day, I won't remember the memes I posted today. Why does it matter? Why should I get out of bed in the morning, and work my ass off only to forget everything later? When will these endless weeks get some kind of spice in them? Why does it seem like the world is working against me, and I'm stuck in a for(; loop?

I'm not able to get a therapist to talk to, so...AmazeO, you cease to amaze me. Please, help man.

Let's start by discussing this ex-girlfriend.

Simply be honest with her. It's ridiculous that just because one girl decides not to like you, the rest of them follow suit. Ask her if there was something you did wrong, and tell her that you think it's stupid for her to let her friends tell her what to think. You know what? If she disregards what you say and continues to dislike you purely because it's what her friends are doing... fuck her. Like, fuck her. She's a dumb bitch then. Shit's what it is, find another place to park your jizz. That's all I can say bout that.

Women can be so conforming and stupid sometimes. They have this pack mentality and sometimes they only believe in what they believe in collectively, even if they all don't individually believe in it. It's confusing, but it's the truth.

Let's continue onto the whole "endless days" business.

You know what it sounds like, it sounds like you really don't have anything to look forward to in your life. You need to spicen things up, and only you can do that. If you're still in highschool, you need to expect these things. I'm just about on my way out, and I can tell you that a good part of those four years were fucking borrrring.

But you need to be close with your friends, and sometimes just take a deep breath and enjoy your time.

These days feel so boring and worthless because you let it feel that way. Why are you taking all this time for granted? Would you rather be working in a sweat shop somewhere in some slum city in Asia? Would you rather be starving to death in a third world country? Even less concerning, would you rather live in a country that limits what you do to conform to social norms?

Everybody takes things for granted nowerdays. Sure, you're bored because there's nothing on television. Shit, you should be glad you have one.

Oh gee, you have to go to work today. Be happy you have a job. You're making money for a reason, so you can do something with it. Spend it. Save it. Use it. Go out with your friends, buy yourself something new, I don't know.

All I'm saying is know your freedom, and know your bounds. When you know that, the limitations you have discovered are your proverbial playground, and you will find your life has much more meaning that before.

If you take all the 10 dollar words out of there, quite bluntly, I'm saying.. Enjoy your life, and stop whining. Shit might suck a fuck right now, but it'll get better eventually. Hey, whenever you think shit is horrible, just know it could be worse.

Suck a fuck...haha. Thanks for the advice! I have already tried telling her that just because the others hate me, that doesn't mean she has to. She said that's not what it is, and that she doesn't hate me. She just can't talk to me because that one girl is not allowing her.

But, great advice. I do realize that I do have it pretty damn good, it's just sometimes, I wish something different happened.