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Generation Y's (as the gen. x's call us) seem to be less concerned about race these days than our parents and grandparents. I like this "intellectual/mental progression". But tell me...what about when dating/marrying someone...are you less likely to date outside your race?
If you are a person of color, would you date/marry a white person? Would your parents get upset?
If you are white, would you date/marry a person of color? Would your parents get upset?
Race has absolutely no bearing on whether or not I will date someone.
I prefer dating outside my race.
Arab women can be such bitches.
I want a half black chick, or 1/4 black, I decided. Some Halle Berry looking girl. Yeah, that'd be legit.
Interesting answers fellas.
Makes no difference to me, but my parents and grandparents would have heart attacks.
It dosn't matter what color they are. As long as there a good person.
My mom would prob disown me though.
Doesn't really matter to me, either. And I don't know what my parents would think, they don't seem very racist. (My mom's parents were racist iirc, but they died before I was born)
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Originally Posted by Kushna Mufeed
Besides that, it doesn't matter.
If my parents had an issue with the race of my partner, I get to call them hypocrites. :D
Yes, of course. What the hell difference does it make? Love knows no races.
What? That Arab women are such bitches? :PQuote:
Originally Posted by Xox
Race doesn't matter for me, either, but in general I may prefer one race over another from a completely superficial stand point.
For example, I don't find black or south asian women very attractive, but I'd be lying if I said I haven't seen the exceptions.
Unless you're jewish.
No no. :P The "I prefer dating outside of my race" part.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kushna Mufeed
Jeff, I'm Black, have dated mostly Black (tho I dated a White guy for a minute), my first marriage of 2 years was to a Black guy (and we had a son) and my second/present marriage is to a Spanish guy.
My parents were cool about my Spanish husband (all they cared about was that he would be good to me and to my son).. my husband's parents (particularly his mother) were less than "thrilled". She threatened to disown him, referred to me as "that black woman" (among other things), she stopped eating, etc. When we chose to get married, I decided that I would never let on to his parents that I knew what she'd called me or that I knew of the resentment she'd felt towards me. We met/spoke for the first time maybe six months after our marriage. I always treated her with the respect due to the mother of the man I loved. Within less time than you'd think, his mother grew to love and appreciate me and my son. She even put our pictures up on the wall of her home along with all the other "family" photos. She once stated that I was the best thing that ever happened to her son (she's passed on now).
Because my husband refused to let me go (basically choosing me over his parents), we've been together 10+ years and going strong. He is the best man I've ever known and my best friend.
Life has shown me that it's about how someone treats you.. not about their skin pigment that makes a suitable match (tho sadly race mixing still bothers alot of people).
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I would date someone outside my race. It probably won't happen though, because I rarely find someone of another race who I think is attractive. Nonetheless, if I do, I would.
AlotMost of you said that your parents would either disown you or have heart attacks, but that you personally don't mind dating outside of your race. That's exceptional, though I expected that your parents would think that way considering the times they grew up in.
Thanks for sharing Clairity. I agree that it's about how someone treats you as opposed to the color of their skin. Or as MLK said...Quote:
Originally Posted by Clairity
On another note, your mother in law (god rest her soul) initially had a problem with her son dating outside his race or was it that she just had a problem with him dating a black woman?Quote:
I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.
His mom had issues with him dating a Black woman. His brother was married twice (both times to White women) and she never had a problem with those unions. :PQuote:
Originally Posted by Jeff777
Funny.. I ended up being her favorite daugher-in-law. :)
I thought you were called generation I?Quote:
Originally Posted by Jeff777
I think naturally people are attracted to those who look like them. Freud believed so too (Oedipus complex)
That said, yeah, I would definitely date or marry outside of my race. I don't consider it when talking to a girl or scoping one out. Some people are just hot, nothing to do with race.
I love you Emmanuelle Chriqui :drool:
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Clairity's black? :shock: I always thought that you were middle eastern? :?
I am very, very, very attracted to latina women.
Race makes no real impact on my choices for dating(unless they're Asian/Pacific Islander/Hawaiian:drool:)... it's the person I date, not their skin color.
Having said that, so far I've only dated white chicks, but thats not to say I haven't tried with other races or won't in the future.
My parents are pretty *I can't think of the word, they're not racist, but they really lump people into their respective race's stereotypes before they get to know the person* so they might not approve.
Oh, and my dad calls any black person that pisses him off a moulignan(Italian for eggplant), so I guess he is kinda racist.
Nope.. I'm Black (just light skinned). Sorry to disappoint. :PQuote:
Originally Posted by ninja9578
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Everyone's ugly without skin.
Where was your profile picture taken? That looks like a middle eastern headdress to me.
I think Clairity looks sort of Indian.Quote:
Originally Posted by ninja9578
Ah.. that was a pic from a bellydance performance. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by ninja9578
I do have some Native American somewhere in my background (but I believe alot of Blacks do).Quote:
Originally Posted by ClouD
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I think he meant real indian, which is right next to the middle east. Oh, belly dancing = sexy. :D
Yeah I thought you were Indian too Clair. :P
Anyway, I mean I'm 'mixed' (parents asian and jewish (tho that aint a race, whatever)) but I don't care really. I really do like Latin women a lot though(from a purely physical standpoint), but sadly all of the hispanic chicks go for other latin guys. I've dated mostly caucasian and asian girls, but it doesn't matter to me what race they are.
I would date outside of my race, I've seen some hot non-white chicks in my time, lol. Race doesn't have a factor in who I want to date, but I'll be honest and say I'd be more prone to dating within my race probably.
My parents, I don't know how they'd feel really. I know for a fact they believe people need to date/marry people of their own race, but they may change their mind if I dated a non-Caucasian.
I have been dating outside my race for 4 years now...I met a girl from taiwan during Highschool and have been dating her every since. My parents actually had no trouble with it, except with how we were going to deal with the LDR for stretches of time, but we have delt with it quite well. Also, when I started dating her I knew my parents wouldnt mind because I have 4 siblings....and of those 4...one is gay and one married a black woman.
It might suprise most people to know though that my parents grew up during the 50's...but they are very tolerant and always open to listening.
im black and my girlfriend of 6 years is italian and irish. Her parents are super cool with it, and my mom loves her like a daughter (my dad is out of the picture, but hes cool with it too). My girlfriends grandfather is like 83 years old and he hates it. he is still racist.
race doesn't impact on who i choose to date. my parents don't care either. this might be because i live in a very white state and i am not white, but others don't seem to mind my skin color either. In fact i get many compliments and people who are jealous of my skin color, i dont think i've ever gotten a negative comment about it.
I find white women much more attractive than black women(I'm white). I wouldn't say it's a choice, it's just who I am. However some asians look nice.
Race doesn't mean a whole lot to me, while I've found white girls more attractive in general, it doesn't mean I wouldn't date someone of a different race.
My girl is mixed. does that count?
if so, she's fucking awesome and yes i would date outside of my race.
would my parents care? in the past they have said they think people should marry inside of their own race because they say mixed children don't have a race to call their own, which will make them feel out of place. "i said yes they do, it's called HUMAN."
when i started dating her i didn't ask. fuck them if they don't approve.
Pretty much this.Quote:
Originally Posted by Oneironaut
Although my parents are a little bit racist. That's only because they lived most of their lives in an (almost) exclusively white country. But they always come around, with enough time.
Basically the answer is yes. I usually date outside my race. my first two girlfriends were native. one was half native and half chinese. I will not be laid to rest until i've dated a woman of every "race".
Indeed.Quote:
Originally Posted by ClouD
If I were single I'd date whoever managed to appeal to me mind, body, and soul. It wouldn't really matter what color their skin was, or what genitals they had between their legs. I find every color appealing. And while I'm more attracted to women in general, there have been some men who have made me melt.
My parents wouldn't care about what race I dated. My grandparents have gotten used to mixed couples, as there are several in my generation. However, if I ended up with a guy, it sure would create a stir!
Yes
Dating outside your race should be mandatory. Except for the you-know-j00s.
well, I wouldn't hold myself back because of someones race, but I can genuinely say I feel more attracted to white girls.
I have never dated anyone outside my race, in fact the only person I have dated who was not English was an Irish girl.
I don't think it would have a bearing on my decision really, I think women in general are beautiful, so I'm easy! Any race'll do :D
There is nothing hotter than a top notch Latino woman and nothing more sexually talented than a top notch black woman. The question for me now is whether I would ever date within my race again.
I don't mind dating asian, latino, whatever. I just don't like dating black girls. Not because "THEY'RE BLACK", but because I don't find black features very attractive. Large lips, large rear ends, curly hair. I don't know, I just don't find that very attractive.
I think there are 10s in every race, and 1s. I'd say blacks have less attractive girls but a really attractive black girl makes a white girl trying to be sexy look like preteen boy.
Like I said though I want half and half, like Halle Berry.
I certainly would, something about a black or hispanic girl that makes me really turned on. I have seen far less black girls, asian girls, and hispanic girls in my life then white girls. But when their the best of their kind then they could easily cause me to pick them over the most attractive white girls, I love hispanic or black girls but that doesn't mean even 2 out of 10 of them will look that attractive to me.
I also find black/hispanic woman to be very sexually attractive.
So yeah both romantically and sexually I'd be prone to date outside my race.
My parents wouldn't think anything of it, I've got some great aunts/uncles, and such that might see it as bad, but I hardly see them at all.
Hey ass, not all black people are like that. Hell, not even half of the black race is like that. You ignorant hillbilly.Quote:
Originally Posted by AmazeO XD
You know...one might suggest considering the ones that don't have large lips, large rear ends and curly hair. :chuckle:Quote:
Originally Posted by AmazeO XD
"The bigger the cushion the sweeter the pushing ya know what i mean" :lol:Quote:
Originally Posted by Oneironaut
Hey, you don't take offense to the black girl thing, and I won't take offense to all the other races being superior to white chicks! :lol: Ahhhh.... *goes to die*
Anyway this is a little racist. Let's face it. There are amazing people as well as pieces of shit from every race.
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Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant
I like white chicks. I like white chicks, latino's, and french polynesian women. I'm not too fond of asian women though. Just never jumped on board that crazy train.
Definitely agree with this.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mes Tarrant
On another note, everyone! Three cheers to superficiality!!! :cheers: :cheers: :cheers:
Nah I don't think this is racist, if I were to say that I like girls with brown eyes more or a certain hair color no one would think that it was bad at all.
I like white women but I'm picky about those I like Latinas and black girls I'm a little more picky about, don't know why I just am. No racialism here though. And any other girl that looks attractive in my eyes.
Sure I would. But like everyone else I have my preferences, like Scandinavians, Czech, Polish and Japanese, Vietnamese. And by saying that I am already putting down all the other races which is what we call implicit discrimination I guess. I am not so much on train with the two other large denominations.
And before you give me any crap, the gene differences along nation borders are actually existent. Hell, you even got large differences between North and South Germans, let alone West and East Americans etc.
well i am brown (i wont categorize myself) and i can't date, well maybe i could date, but it wouldn't be very serious if they are brown. i have a "past" and i refuse to date brown people's. i preffer white and nerdy... lol
I have no problems dating any race. I have a lot of love to give, and there are a lot of beautiful women out there. Why restrict yourself, right?
That being said, there are some specific races I have just never found myself attracted to. Not yet anyways ;) It could be physical appearance, or cultural behavior, or a combination of the two.
im white and could see myself with a half black, half asian women. my parents would probably be shaking there heads and I sure as hell know my grandpa wouldnt let a black guy in his house let alone a black girlfriend.
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Clairity is beautiful inside and out! :kiss:Quote:
Originally Posted by ClouD
Wow :oops: .. thanks Howie! The feeling is mutual!! :kiss:Quote:
Originally Posted by Howie
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Oooh. Smooooth, Howie. Wish I'd have thought of that. :goodjob2:Quote:
Originally Posted by Howie
I appreciate the fact that you wish you had! :kiss:Quote:
Originally Posted by Oneironaut
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Good enough for me! :smitten:Quote:
Originally Posted by Clairity
Haha.
I emmulate what some have said about finding some races more attractive. Generally, I find white people more attractive than others, (with exceptions. Example, spanish can be very hot.) But I really like foriegn women. There's just something about them...
Anyway, yes, race has some bearing but only in a superficial way.
My family wouldn't care with the exception of a few aunts/uncles who might advise that the cultural difference would keep it form working.
I would marry a white guy or a guy of any race, really. So long as he's SEXIFIED and not a scrub.
Oh, and for the record, I'll add that I've got a weakness for Spanish/Latin women - exotic women, in general really, but there is nothing sexier to me than a hot Spanish woman. I don't even know if I know why. Accents help, though. :drool:
And (just 'cause I love to show her off) my daughter is mixed - her mom is 1/2 German, 1/2 Italian. Here's a picture!
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v6...ierraTiara.jpg
Now how could that possibly be a bad thing?? :D
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Originally Posted by Jeff777
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Originally Posted by Oneironaut
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LOL!! :lol:Quote:
Originally Posted by Brainchild
O, she's cute :D
I think some Russian girls are sexy :D
It's not a bad thing at all.. and boy are you going to have to stand guard when she's old enough to date!! ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Oneironaut
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She is so adorable. I actually have this very pic on my slideshow.Quote:
Originally Posted by Oneironaut
But Let's be clear O >>>>>> Cierra is not to see any dating scene until at least the age of ????? 23? ;) right
I've spent a lot of time in Extended discussion and R&S pondering Philosophical debate, but some things are seen as the clairty of day. :cookiemonster:Quote:
Originally Posted by Oneironaut
Thanks, all. :content:
And Cierra's her name, Howie. The tiara is the thing on her head. :wink:
I concur!Quote:
Originally Posted by ninja9578
....:ohyahbaby: @ Mes.
I wouldn't have said anything but the fact that you vehemently go on and on about how you're not being racist and then finish up with this bogus BS about genetics, I had to say something.Quote:
Originally Posted by Serkat
The Human Genome Project has done studies which prove that there is more genetic variety within races than across races. Look it up.
You'd have done better being straight up than trying to hide your racism in plain view.
I don't think I've ever really fancied anyone who isn't white. That's not racism, by the way. My 'type' just tends to be cute, shortarse brunettes. Who are usually white.
Don't ask me why, I've no idea, they just drive me CRAZY.
LOL
I thought you left... Anyway, he was just trying to cover his tracks up from the DV wolves in the lounge.Quote:
I wouldn't have said anything but the fact that you vehemently go on and on about how you're not being racist and then finish up with this bogus BS about genetics, I had to say something.
The Human Genome Project has done studies which prove that there is more genetic variety within races than across races. Look it up.
You'd have done better being straight up than trying to hide your racism in plain view.
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Originally Posted by Oneironaut
LOL!! :ohyahbaby:
am i rascist for not wanting to date, a hispanic or black or indian or asian person? lol. i dont think i am, i just dont feel as attracted to them.... is that bad?
I don't feel that its racist if you're not attracted to say... A cherokee, but if your the guy who was in General Custard's last stand, and you don't even know any cherokees, and your trying to exterminate them well...things are just pointless. Why hate a Lakota if you're a Crow? You're both humans, and you're both Indians...!!! Damn... my logic confuses even me. Now my personal prefences are not ordained to strictly race, as long as he is cowboy who wears jeans, a hat, chaps, and boots... whether he's arab, black, white or even asian... cowboys'll turn my head. With some people it's not exactly their race but their culture, that turns them on or off.:)
i get that. but like color doesn't matter to me at all when it comes to flirting, friends and family and such, but marriage and realtionships, for some reasonthey do....
If there's no physical attraction, then you're not racist. That's just a superficial thing. Everyone has their own definition of what 'sexy' is.
No, that's not racist at all. I'm not attracted to Indian or Asian men either (not usually-- I've been attracted to just 2 Asian men in my entire life). I'm attracted to black guys seldom, too, but one black man who is really hot to me-- Taye Diggs, the musician/actor. He's SOOOO handsome.Quote:
Originally Posted by aorozco
I am mainly, 99.999% of the time, attracted to white/European men-- if European, especially Italian men and women. *DROOL* ;)
Jeff777Hell, I've dabbled beyond the human race on occasion...no prejudice here.Quote:
But tell me...what about when dating/marrying someone...are you less likely to date outside your race?
i would date/marry any race - i am white... although, i am generally not attracted to blacks; because i like petite women. my parents would be happy for me either way, i am not so sure about my grandparents or even some friends(!) but that would not bother me.
Lol, I had no idea you were still around.Quote:
Originally Posted by InTheMoment
you're very right. It is all a personal prefrence to race and even gender that draws people's eyes. What I was stating is... if you aren't attracted that is one thing(that one is just fine), but if you have a dislike or I should say a hatred then we're getting a little racist:(:):) Sorry if I wasn't very clear... I have a habit of doing that...lol:bang: got to work on it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Kushna Mufeed
short answer to the thread, yes.
Well, it all depends on if I like the girl or not really...
But my grandma would KILL me if she found out I was dating a black girl...
As I said above, I've never fancied anyone of a different race, but if I did, then I would.
I really couldn't care less. You like who you like, everything else is irrelevant crap.
yes i would date outside my race, and my parents wouldn't have an issue with it. I'm actually very attracted to Indians...
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wow........ she's hot!
she may be even more attractive than Sushmita Sen!
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:shock:! No way!!! I thought AirRick recently broke the resurrection record, and now here you are again after forever. The old school is returning this week. Welcome back. :clap:Quote:
Originally Posted by InTheMoment
I would, and have dated/married outside my race.
I'm Mexican, full-blooded. Mexicana de la raza. My Dad is so brown, if he stood next to a tree, he'd be camouflaged.
My first "love" was a black man. Damn him. He broke my heart, so I swore I would never date another black man. We would have made awesome looking babies.;)
I ended up marrying a white guy, and giving birth to half whities, half mexicanitos. They're awesome little kids, I love them. I divorced that white guy, married another white guy. Love the man to death. But yes, I would date or marry outside of my race.
I've never been attracted to anyone but whites and blacks, not even my own race. Weird. I either like 'em black or white, not in between.;)
By the way, O', your daughter is adorable! She reminds me so much of one of my nieces. She's half mexican, half black. I'm telling you, I would have had awesome looking babies if "J" and I would have stayed together. Maybe, in the next life, O', you'll come back as a Spanish man, and I will be a black woman, and we coincendentally find each other, and conceive, LOL. Okay, creepy. I need to lay off the juice. Good thing my kids are out of town.:paranoid:
My mom doesn't care if I go out with a man, woman, transsexual, hermaphrodite, black, white, asian.
My dad might be a little uncomfortable with transsexuals and those sorts of things, but he wouldn't show it. Other than that he's pretty much fine with everything too.
I tend to like white and black women the most. But I've found attractive asians too, among other things...
I guess I just don't care. xD
This question is strange to me, because I've never encountered any racial bigotry among any of my family members. My girlfriend is venezuelan and she's met most of my extended family. I don't think the issue of race even crossed anyone's mind.
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Originally Posted by InTheMoment
black or white, whatever, hot chicks are hot chicks :D
Spoken like a true pimp. :cooler:Quote:
Originally Posted by no-name
wow, interesting how so many people's parents are sorta racist.
I'm white, and I tend to not really like white girls. I have a very little bit of native american heritage, and for some reason I would really like to meet a nice native american girl. they're so rare!
I've dated a Korean (i think my parents would like an asian girl for me haha), and a girl who is half white, half (east) indian and freaking gorgeous.
But I don't think it's racist to prefer certain characteristics over others, for example I could be best friends with a really dark-skinned black guy, but I would probably not be attracted to a really dark-skinned woman.
Haha. I can't believe I missed this reply. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Misbijoux
Thanks, Misbijoux. She's just too cute for her own good. I don't even think I have to say how much I'm dreading her upcoming teenage years. Lol.
It's a date! :ohyahbaby:Quote:
Originally Posted by Misbijoux
Yeah but at least this generation has changed quite a bit, I've also got some native American, a bit on both sides.Quote:
Originally Posted by cygnus
I don't know if I am as interested in black girls as my last post suggested (I was just going through a phase :P) Although I am certainly very into non-white girls ;).
Also I've noticed I rarely fall for girls who don't have brown eyes, rather they be white or some other race.
All of that is usually just for romance though, I think girls besides race or eye color can be pretty equally sexy if they actually care about their looks.
I love my black boyfriend im white.
I really dont care what people look like i always go or personality. In time looks will fade but their spirit will always be the same.
I live in South Africa and our history has alot of Rasicm in it with the Apartheid and all that. So yeah we do get odd looks and hidious comments but we reall dont care. My parents love my boyfriend and I was kinda surprised because they are both scottish, and I mean my dad is a big scottish man you dont want to offend him.
So yeah my lil story :D
That's a beautiful story. :) And yeah mad kudos to your Scottish parents and your dad namely. o_oQuote:
Originally Posted by Hera
My grandmother doesn't really want her grandchildren dating white women (or any woman outside of our race but white it seems is the big no no) I love my grandmother dearly though. Her grandson (my cousin) is currently dating a white girl and they've been together for 2 + years. His parents love her and her parents really love him. I'm the kind of guy whose never thought about marrying/dating/belonging to my own skin color. I find pleasure in all of Grod's creature. :chuckle: I have to agree with a lot of other posters in this thread when they say they have noticed race isn't that big a deal as our parents and grandparents. Perhaps our grandchildren will be totally color blind, metaphorically speaking of course.
That surprises me that your Scottish parents are cool with it.
My grandfather is Scottish and he was PISSED when my mother married an arab. But it may have just been amplified by the fact that he was already pissed about her converting to Islam. :P
Thanks guys glad I could share:D