IN..desperate..need...for...help

I dont even know why i made this thread maybe cuz i just wanna hear some encouragments .. i really dont know. i have been trying to lucid dream as in i probably tried doing everthing and i tried pretty gosh damn hard i do reality checks i keep a dream journal although my recall isnt too great. i tried wilding in a million ways. i read some techniques from exploring the world of lding and i tried milds and i tried em all!!! why can i not lucid dream. i mean im wasting all these nights not improving myself just sleeping away . i wanna lucid dream so badly but it just doesnt happen . gets me so frustrated. now i really wanna know how you guys got your first ld . the very first one. like when you were a newbie like me. cuz I just wanna know what it feels like u know. virtual reality and stuff. just once, and then i can have some more patience till i make it a regular thing.
thanx...

I did reality hand checks for about three weeks then had my first LD. But I hadn't put a time frame on it. I knew it would come and was somewhat relaxed and believed if I made a habit of RC's eventually I would do one in a dream.

Bingo, it worked.

Maybe take a couple nights off. I did that too when I was trying. Even though I have them somewhat frequently now I still have to be patient. It's not an at will type thing for me.

I want to LD now. So I do my reality checks, read on the subject of dreaming and try different techniques. But one thing I know is it will come. If not tonight, tomorrow or a couple nights from now. It's cool becuase I'm not in a rush.

The thing for me is there is always more to try and do so I' more about the journey.

As soon as I had my first LD I wanted another and that hasn't stopped since I started.

I had approximately 20 and then had a stressful time in my life and had a 5 week dry spell. But now I'm having maybe two a week and a lot of great vivid regular dreams. That five week speel was tough.

AND a lot of my first LD's were real short and over time they got longer and more stable. Some of my LD's only lasted seconds but I still remember them and am glad for them.

Don't think that you will get one soon. And don't get upset. You will probly get an ld when you least expect it.I was lucky eh...Got one the first night expet wen't into sp and scared the crap out of me.

Don't let it bother you too much. You WILL have a lucid dream at some point, but it can take a while. Believe me-the effort is worth it once you have that first LD, even if it lasts for 10 seconds.

I suggest spending half an hour or so reading about lucid dreaming on this site, then taking a nap in the middle of the day with LDing on your mind.

Also, in my opinion the best two methods are WBTB and DEILD. Practice doing those two methods and you will succeed.