WILD: Mind focus?

Hi I have a question concerning wilding.
When I try it I always try to relax, hold still and try to keep my mind aware. Though, if I focus my thoughts on lucid dreaming, sleep paralysis, entering a dream and what so on, I can't just get to sleep, I just get more and more awake, which finally ends with me being totaly awake in the middle of the night:?.
On the other hand, when I focus on nothing special and think about this and that, I forget to keep aware and my mind falls to sleep after a few hours.

Anyone there who shares/ed this experience or knows what to do against it?

thanks for answers
Thorim

Focus, and awareness are two different things. You need to learn to be aware without focusing. Something which is am learning in my 8 hour lucidity goal...