misty water surroundings with someone i like

some background knowledge:

i've liked my guy best friend for maybe 8 months or so?
but i'm liking him more and more these days, even though i keep trying to control my feelings
i did tell him before that i liked him, and i needed time away to forget the crush
(i did ask him if he liked me, but he said he only liked me as a friend)

but somehow i didn't manage to do it and the feelings are still there.

we went out just the other day to check out some stuff and to the amusement park.

during that night, i dreamt of this weird dream

which i need help interpreting, i don't remember much of it, but somehow i remembered the main setting and the feelings i felt

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we were sort of swimming, in this big open pool of water, it was very misty around, a lot of fog, can't see much beyond 2-3 meters?

i was facing him, my legs were around him, he was in the position when people tracked water to stay afloat

i remembered very clearly that i felt a mix of happiness, lust.

i remembered one thing he said quite clearly

because we were in that position (slightly awkwardish facing each other), he was quite hard down there and he commented something like this

"u're making me uncomfortable/ i don't like this"

i can't exactly remember but it was along that line.

somehow when he said that it gave me the feeling like

u know the person likes it but they're just teasing you.
(like when u give your girlfriend a big diamond ring and she says what for spend so much)

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could anyone tell me what does this dream mean? is it meaningless or does it mean i should forget him/continue as per normal now?

thank you very much.

oh i'm a girl, by the way.

Hello amorousity

I think there are two things going on for you. First, you have this dream lover who is made up of your own thoughts, feelings and responses. "He" appears in your dream and you love him, yearn for him and want to be one with him. Second, you have a friend who has thoughts, feelings and responses of his own. He likes you, sure, but he isn't the person you want him to be. These two men merge into one when you think of him or when you're with him. He becomes your dream lover - the real person on whom you project your dreams, fantasies etc. This is a perfectly normal thing to happen, by the way, and is pretty much what falling in love is all about. But it is also the source of disappointment and hurt as the other person fails to be as perfect as we would like.

So, back to your dream. You say that he was resisting you but was really wanting you, kind of. That tells you nothing about him but a lot about you. This is how your dream lover responds not your friend. Think of the dream as a way of understanding your desires and fears etc. Everyone in the dream is your own creation.

To answer your last question, I would say that it depends on how your relationship with him works. Can you discuss these things with him? If you really are friends and he is strong enough to help you (he may not be) then I would say you have a perfect opportunity to come to more understanding about your desires and to experience him as he really is. It may be painful (for both of you) but it could also be very enriching. One word of warning - don't get more involved with him like this if you're expecting a certain outcome - like the two of you live together happily ever after - as the outcome may be quite different.

I am speaking from experience here. I endured sleepless nights, anger and tears coming to terms with how I felt about someone not so long ago. But we worked through it (she liked me "as a friend" just the same as you say about yours) and are now genuine friends and stronger for it.

Feelings for our dream lover - a lost part of ourselves if you like - are possibly the strongest and hardest to reconcile as they have everything (grief, loss, excitement, anger, passion...).

dreams are like little conversations we have with ourselves. We use dreamtime to reflect upon things that have just happened.. trying to improve our strategy twoards some task, trying to work out how others are thinking... we read into their every thoughts and feelings. we hear what they say but we also read their body language.. your dreams represent discusions inside your head eg maybe it would represent the following

"I really like this guy"

"I have told him how I feel. He says he likes me as a freind"

"I wonder if he does really like me that way"

"maybe I should back off?"

"I am not sure .. I somehow sense that he wants me to make a move"

So far from giving clear advice dreams link to mixed feelings and behavior that we are trying to guess .. we just have to make such decisions .. we rarely have enough information to decide the best course of action. We just have to guess. Thats life.. mixed and complex emotions.

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The father of modern dream interpretation is not Freud or Jung but rather Jon Winson. But he never made a single dream interpretation. Instead he conducted research into the mind and established that certain brainwaves (theta waves) only appear during the night time. During the day we store up all new experiences and feelings in short term memory. Then at night we start to work through what happened the previous day and we integrate these into long term memory blocks. Then finally we clear short term memory blocks ready to start the process again the next day. Its likely that any dreams we have are linked to these brain functions. The weird images and feelings once deciphered capture our own feelings and new insights into the world around us. So the dreams then will often link to specific events from the day before and to new ways in which our world has been reshaped. It may simply link to our paranoias and fantasies. If we are focused on something about to happen in the near future then the dreams may link to that. Each dream captures one specific feeling or thought process.
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