Originally Posted by
IrisRavenstar
Hi whitelighter,
491 totals to 14, which in the Major Arcana in Tarot is symbolic of Temperance or Moderation, so that's a good number! Not part of your dream, but part of your personal symbolism.
You know, I should warn you, that doing dreamwork with interpretation is a lot like swimming naked in front of a crowd, or at least the parts of the crowd who know something about what dreams mean. I have noticed this for years, and seem to keep doing it anyway. Why? Because I grow from it. No other reason needed, really, except that I also see it as a sort of karmic debt, something I owe to the Universe as part of making things right as much as I can, so I wonder if that is part of your dream too.
Does the physical description of the first guy, the one you identify with, match yours? Could it be that you are watching yourself? We often do that in dreams, and when we do, it generally seems to refer to trying to get an objective/rational view of yourself, rather than the subjective/emotional view you might get when you're inside the character. You're standing back, not right in the action, so you can stay more detached emotionally, instead of getting all caught up.
The second guy morphing into someone almost feminine means that the second guy is reacting emotionally to the situation, not being detached or objective about it. He seems to have an investment in this idea of you swimming naked that the dream doesn't fully make clear... perhaps it's just that he wants to see you open up to your own inner feminine/emotional side as well, to your right brain functions, which men often have a problem with.
The bully is a problem, I would imagine, but seems perhaps to be there to test courage, to be someone you need to ignore as you develop your own inner resources, even if it means making yourself vulnerable. Or maybe not ignore; maybe stand up to. Or each in it's proper season.
Nakedness is vulnerability. We are naked in a lot of ways, not just physically, but the dream uses it physically as a way to show it visually. But think about what nakedness and vulnerability in the face of bullies means to you. Think about what nakedness and vulnerability in the presence of a close brotherly friend means to you. There is a difference, but does it matter? If one can be open with the friend, be one's true self with the friend, then why not also be your true self with the bully, and hope it will change him into a better person?
I am wondering here if your psychiatrist does talk therapy with you, individually, or if he's wanting you to go to group therapy, and how you'd feel about group therapy. Are you perhaps resistant to group therapy, because it makes you feel naked and vulnerable, because someone there might be a bully?
I went through a clinical depression and saw a psychoanalytically-oriented psychiatrist from 1976-85, and I loved the individual therapy, loved the talking, did not like group therapy at all (I think doing dreamwork on the internet is maybe making up for that). I also did not like the drugs at all, and flushed them all down the toilet in 1985-6, and made a decision to find alternative ways to manage my moods. I use a lot of herbs and aromatherapy and Reiki instead, and it's working pretty well for me most of the time, though I have a problem in the winter with Seasonal Affective Disorder, so I use a light box during the winter. So I think I have an understanding of where you're coming from.
I feel your dream is about therapy though, and opening up, and how sometimes it's like a friend, and maybe this is the psychiatrist himself who is the friend, or maybe you're afraid he will bully you if you tell him certain things, things you maybe don't like about yourself; you fear perhaps that he will change towards you if you're too open, too exposed, too naked.
Another way to look at it too, is that all three characters are part of yourself, and the dream is a picture of inner conflicts. The psychiatrist's role, in a way, is to reflect back those inner conflicts and make you see those inner parts of you. So it is likely he could take both of those roles in relationship to you. I don't know if he told you about "transference" which is about the way the psychiatrist stays personally unknowable, so you kind of paste your feelings about other older relationships onto them. Usually, you transfer feelings about parents especially. In that light, was one of your parents kind and a friend, and the other a bully? I'm not saying they were, just to think about that as a possiblity for these characters.
Anyway, I'll stop here and let you think about this and if you want to talk more, I'll be back!