Losing Control (Question)

First time poster here, however I am not new to the concept of lucid dreaming. Ever since I can remember when I was very youngI would have lucid dreams on the occasion. Although I wasn't really aware what they were, I just thought they were cool. Eventually when I decided to learn more about them and read about them I found Lucid dreaming became alot more common in my life.

in 2005 it got to the point where I could pretty much lay down for bed and think, alright I want to LD tonight. and I would sometimes even twice a night. It was a very exciting time.

Untill one night when I was exploring the neighborhood I was in during my LD I came across a girl. The weird part was I vividly remembered her from a dream I had a year prior. That dream was not a lucid one, just a normal, but vivid dream. Anyways When I realized the familiarity I asked her about it and she ran away.

It was just a dream so I didn't really let it get to me and just assumed my mind pulled her out of my memory of the last dream. However on another night of lucid dreaming I decided to ask some random strangers about the girl. But as soon as I did weird things would happen, reality would become distorted then I would forget I was lucid dreaming. and then on nights afterwards it seemed while I would try to gain control, things I used to be able to do, (simple things like opening locked doors by simply turning the handle.) I wasn't able to do anymore, i'd try but it wouldn't work. I was also very good at flying, but that began to falter too, and I could now only remain air born for a few seconds. and every time I tried to persue the questions, I would lose control again.

Now, 2 years later I am just beginning to have lucid dreams again, however they are short and rather hard to hold onto, when back then i used to have such control.

is this just a random thing? Have any of you lost the ability to LD ever? and was pursueing the random girl I remembered from a previous dream, at any possible chance connected to any of this.

its a rather broad question and kind of strange, but I'd love to hear oppinions or tips

Id say you are simply in danger of thinking about this dream character too much. For instance, I had no trouble flying until people started telling me how hard it was and i thought about it in detail...

If by chance, you just had a couple of bad night's control; you might have thought..."oh, it could be that character."

Therefore, you just created an association that didn't exist before...

that'd be my theory. You turned her into a bad omen, even though it was just probably unlucky that you lost control.

To reverse this....

confront the character and ask her not to take your control away, or something like that.

thats my 2cents on your problem, hope it can help

remember: there really is no association with her and lack of control!