i just dont get it...i need help (question for WILDers too)

ok basically i have dreams but i never reality check in them...i have no control, i perform rc's during the day.

when i have regular dreams, normal ones, how do u suddenly decide to control and do a RC? the dream is going on as normal and i have no control....or is that why u make a habit out of doing RC's in real life so that u do them in a dream?

also today i had a dream where i was talking to my mate about being lucid, i looked at my hands and there was 7 fingers, i didnt become lucid still, how do u become aware suddenly when u look at these things in a dream?

also for WILDing, how long u guys stay still before u get SP? 10-20? 30? 50 mins? thanks

It just takes time. I didn't RC at all in my first LD. It was just like i was suddenly aware that i was dreaming. I don't really RC in waking life a lot, only when something really, really strange happens (Like when i saw chickens walking in the gutter in the city) As for the WILD, i can't help you there, as i mainly DILD.

thanks, anyone else?

As burke said it takes time. Have a dream journal and write on it what you remember of your dreams (even a fragment). it will make you remember more your dreams and consequently will make you more aware of them. Dont expect instant lucids, it takes some time... My Lucid were always very sudden, out of nowhere, then I RC. But I RC in real life when I remember on doing them :P In WILD I cant help you because I suck at it xD Take care.