need help to lucid dream. unusual dreamer.

soo i been trying to lucid dream. i remember alot of my dreams every singel nigth. there alweys difrent. i have no emotions or reaction in dreams even in nightmares. can fall of a cliff etc no reaction i will survive etc. i had a reaction a while ago where i got shot i just lifted my hand sortoff felt that reaction alitle bit... anyways i still been able to enter lucid state 3 times or soo but it only last for 5-10 seconds then everything turns black slowly and then its all black and i wake upp. soo i kinda gave upp for a while. and aswell since i have difrent dreams every time its hard to use the recognize event to know your dreaming.

and in many dreams i also watch from a 3 person wiew i just watch i dont even think stuff. stuff is just happening around me. i only spoken 3 times or soo in my entire life in a dream and its not even my voice then. and i can remember upp to 3 dreams when i wake upp. require 8-10 hours sleep to remember such tho. and aswell dunno if this counts but if i sleep for 2-4 hours and ppl talk to me i sleep talk. if they ask me questions. i answer with a yes or no. hehe even talked on phone a few times in sleep.

and i rarly think in dreams sortoff maby 20 times total.

soo anyone got any tips for me to lucid dream. the tecnic i used last time was just taking reality shecks maby 100 times a day and. just thinking im not asleep this is reality and such. only had to do it for like a alitle less then a week aswell. and also every time i did somthing new i shecked if it was real. everything from walking up stairs to showering to doing stuff on my computer.

The important thing is to only reality check when necessary, for example: like when of your reoccuring dream signs pops up, also I suggest you maybe try incubation, or visualizing of what you would want to dream before hand by asking questions about the overall setting. Also I suggest looking into some DILD and MILD tutorials, either user based tutorials or the ones the site has to offer. I don't talk much in dreams either, but i dont think it necssarily matters. when you question reality and do reality checks at the right time eventually it will pay off in your dreams.

good luck! :)

ok i been thinking since i have soo difrent dreams. and have alot of unreal dreams based on nothing i experienced i know theres one thing i dream about somthimes. and that is if i like a girl. it just soo happend i like a girl rigth now XD wich belive it is rare. soo using her as a reality sheck maby.

btw another thing any clue why the 3 times i managed to enter lucid dreams everything turns black?

and another thing to visualize what i want to dream before i go to bed is very hard for me never worked. well the main thing is i dream alot of eccounters i never experienced before. my mind makes upp almost all of it. im a massive daydreamer. forexample when im tierd i daydream automaticly my mind makes a story. i like to dream my self awey.
the closest thing to reality dream i had latley was that i shecked my bank account. and apperntly all my money was gone exxept 3 kr/half a dollar. wich was 1 week ago. i know if my mind is effected by somthing with in the importen cirle of what i feel is importen im likley to have a dream about it 3 days or soo lather. i usaly have dreams a few days lather of what have effected me or thougth about. wich again girlfriend is the best thing to use since its probly the thing that effecfts me most in life.

another thing well this is abit wierd it was at the age 9 to 11 i stoped having emotions in dreams i had my first nightmare then. i woke upp gasping for air. and it just came soo naturly this thougth to mee its just a dream why should i react to it or be scared of it and i went strait to sleep. and ever since then i had no emotions in dreams. personaly i would say im alitle bit conected with my subconciusness like how strongly just that effected me and when i did the reality shecks 3 months back. wich i used it on everything then but it worked in less then week but i just wake upp after 10 secons from the lucid dream. ok i think i got better chance now of doing it alitle bit.

about your lucids going black, usually the first few lucids are short, so no worries about that.

and usually in normal dreams i dont think much either, if you train yourself to question your surrondings though your dream self will become a little more aware.