ive noticed that i have very poor control in dreams(poor to a point where i cant hear or control my dreamself) but so far ive had 3 lucid dreams by accident. the lucid dreams actually allowed me minimal control of myself while at the same time being mildly aware of my surroundings in the real world. though during these i had no sleep paralysis and actually ended the second one by opening my eyes. Were these really lucid dreams and why do you guys think i have so little control?
P.S another incident was where a nightmare i was having seemed to "bleed" into reality for a moment after i woke up.