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Hi Everyone
I'm Nikita And i am 27. For over 6 years now i have the same 3 dreams and can have them most nights. In most i know its a dream, But cant change whats happening even though i know i'm dreaming again.
Its usually the following
*1) Im in a hotel/at home. Trying to pack a suitcase. I know i need to hurry as i keep clock watching, and times going very fast. I know i have to get to the airport/boat etc... And my things are everywhere. I know i need to get home to my kids.. or to my kids. And feel so panicked trying to get packed and out... I never manage and wake up before i finish.

*2) Im i a car , and its raining/foggy. I can't see well. it starts with someone else in driving seat. Then all of a sudden i am. im either alone at this point, or i have my kids in the back. And i cant drive... I cant control the car , Nor steer as its locked. There is walls. trees all over and i know we're about to die, the kids are crying and im so frightened... i don't always know this is a dream.. again i awaken just as we are about to crash.

*3) Im in my old house i8 grew up in, for around 10 years, My granmas home. Or my mums old home. My granma is there ( she has passed) or my great Aunt (n she has also passed) I know its a dream. And i know they have passed, I ask them if they are o0k, and they dont talk. Its always one, not both. They look content. But they wont answer me.
I keep asking questions, and i try to reach out to touch them, but they are too far, and i cant move. I look around and its always the same, they are dressed the same.
I become upset and cry. And my partner appears, and tells me he is leaving me and no longer loves me.
then wake up sobbing and crying.

I wish i could control these dreams as i said they happen almost each night all of them make me worried and upset when i awaken. And i want to try and change them in the dream. But i cant manage it.
I dont know why they repeat for so long. The ones i have inbetween are often nightmares and i dont remember after a few mins of waking.

So i joined here to try and learn from you all, and gain some power over them. So i dont wake up so sad each night. And maybe then work out why i have them.
So i'm pleased i found this page. You all seem really lovely and helpful from what i have read.

Nikita x

Hi Nikita, welcome to Dreamviews :)
Nightmares like these often come from fears or worries you might have in the waking life. If you recognize any of these, you should try to solve them, in order for the nightmares to stop.
Recurring nightmares are a good way to become lucid though. Just acknowledge that whenever you realize you are dreaming, everything you see, hear and feel are projections from your mind, and therefore, you can control everything and anything you want. While you are falling asleep it might help to use mantras. Say to yourself, until you fall asleep: 'next time I realize I'm dreaming, I can control everything' or something along those lines, and imagine yourself becoming lucid and doing whatever you want to do in the dream.

PM me if you have any questions.

Hi and welcome!

Having the same three dreams is a huge dreamsign and you should definitely start visualizing yourself being in the dreams, and then asking yourself if you're awake. If you visualize yourself RC'ing in those dreams during the day and before you go to sleep, you'll do it in the dream soon.

Welcome to the forum!

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So i joined here to try and learn from you all, and gain some power over them. So i dont wake up so sad each night. And maybe then work out why i have them.

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I think working out why you have them could go a long way to changing them. Understanding can resolve a lot of feelings.

A good hobby or interest saturating your mind can also help. A good distraction can give the brain time to resolve feelings without directly concentrating on them. The forum does it for me but any good interest will work as long as it matters to you.

Like you I have kids and I can think of many days where thoughts plague my mind, both awake and asleep. It happens when I fill my mind with thoughts that keep me from being calm or at peace. Anything to distract from that can make a real difference.

Pick one of your dreams...just one....and take it apart in detail. Write it out, think about it while awake, speak it out loud and acknowledge it. Only one of the dreams at a time. Pick it apart until the details don't mean anything. Like the dream about being in the car...take each tiny thought and associate it with something else or think about the steering wheel as another kind of wheel like a bicycle tire. The new associations will help break the dream cycle.

Learning to lucid dream and have control is a great way to break the cycle of recurring dreams. Using the tutorials in our WIKI can really help, and the forum is filled with valuable experience. Combining that information with some new thoughts should help turn your nights into something more enjoyable.

I'm a staffmember here at DreamViews and I can help guide you to information or answer questions. You can contact me or any staffmember directly by clicking on our profile name to send us a private message. We're here to help.

I hope that soon you have pleasant dreams! :)

I hate driving dreams, where the car doesn't respond. It freaks me out just thinking about it.

thanks alot everyone that has replied, I shall do the suggestions best i can. These dreams began after my 2nd child when we moved home, we have now mioved again, and i did think that the nightmares were to do with our old house more than anything. But they continue here. And the re-occuring ones also, they happen 4 times aweek.
I have tried to focus on something else, before i sleep, but i then cant sleep.
I get sleep paraliysis alot also, esp after a nightmare.
The dream in the car, and then the one with my aunt and gran happen more so, so i shall try as suggested to write them down etc.

Im going to go through as much info as i can on here and see if i can manage to try and lucid dream.

Thankyou again. Means alot to have support here:)

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Originally Posted by Robot_Butler

I hate driving dreams, where the car doesn't respond. It freaks me out just thinking about it.

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Its a awful feeling isnt it!! your heart races..... funny thing is though its the exact feeling i get in the other dreams... maybe im just a freaked out person too much stress or something i dont know!