could anyone please help??

hello, this is my very post ever, i dont really know how this works but anyway, could anyone please give me an advice so i can STAY in my dreams?? ive been trying to stay in my dreams (after i become lucid) for months now!!! and its quite frustating. ive been practicing LD for almost 11 months now, i had my very first lucid dream after few weeks i started. but i never manage to stay in my dream! ive already read some other posts about this, they all say to keep trying and stuff, but i believe theres something more... i dont even get excited or anything like that after i become lucid, i always wake up after 3-5 seconds i become lucid. so if any of you could please tell me what to do, or anything i would really appreciate it... btw, ive had around 20-30 lucid dreams, and couldnt stay for more than 10 seconds on any of them... you might have an idea on how i feel. =[
thanks!! (soz for my bad english)

Welcome to Dreamviews!

I don know exactly how you feel. I had majority of my LDs super short. Granted, I used to get excited:lol:

So, are you doing any stabilization? Do you practice any form of daytime awareness? Are they DILDs or WILDs?

Stabilizing involves geting yourself integrated with your dream. Touching, feeling, smelling, tasting anything to help you become part of the dream, instead of just a spectator.

And having better daytime awareness helps you to stay aware in your dreams and not get lost in it. It's just too easy to forget that you are dreaming.

Stabilize the dream first once you get into it. You should focus on your senses and the realism of the dream. Then, stay mentally alert but not too focussed. Steady your thoughts and don't let yourself become too emotive. If at any time you feel your heartbeat in the dream, then that is very bad for your dream. If you get the feeling of butterflies or the hallucination of a heartbeat, it means you are letting your thoughts wander too freely and getting too excited. Here, (which is probably where you have your problem with) you can do two things: wake up and DEILD back into the incubated dreamscape or steady yourself. Learn the DEILD methods, they are great help. To anchor yourself to the dream, first rub your hands. You might hear this a lot, but it really helps. Really focus on how you are doing it. Next, do whatever you normally do for stability. After this (if your dream heartbeat has not stopped) you should collect your thoughts. You just stabilized your pseudo-objective world, now you need to fix yourself. So, find a collective theme of thought to focus on. Happiness, sleeping, math, the word lucidity, the dream itself, and KITTENS! are all good suggestions. It can be anything really. Anything except ANGER OR EXCITEMENT. After this you can let loose and explore your dream.

Also, what method are you using? If you are using DILD, are you using WBTB with it? Because mostly DILDs occur without RCs in the late morning. This means that it could just be that you were going to wake up anyway, no fault of your own. Try using an alarm clock for 4 if you sleep at 11 and such and such. If that is outside of your interest, then you could just RC more frequently.

And also, welcome to DV, but this post wasn't much of an intro :?

Happy dreaming! :)

i usually always rub my hands together and stare at the floor, but it doesnt seem to work.. and yes, most of the time during the day i do REALLY ask myself if im dreaming or not..and i usually try WBTB.
thanks!(:

most of the time i try WBTB, which is the best for me. and i never heard of DEILD before, so i'll definitely try it.
and thanks for the help man. really helpful stuff!!(:

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Dont give up!
I managed to get to my first LD 2 days ago!
and i was trying it for 2 years every night and morning :)
dont get too frustrated, you can do it!

b2t

You can always tell yourself things like "oh , how real this looks" or "this dream is awesome!"
keep yourself busy because concentrating on stuff will get you woken up.

Btw its totally normal to get excited :)

greetings,

garf

wow 2 years is a long time!!! and gratz for your 1st LD haha!!
thanks!(:

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i never heard of DEILD before, so i'll definitely try it.

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A DEILD is when you WILD right after you leave a dream. Like, you wake up and don't move or even open your eyes and you just sink back into it.

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and thanks for the help man. really helpful stuff!!(:

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any time.

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Originally Posted by rayad0

wow 2 years is a long time!!! and gratz for your 1st LD haha!!
thanks!(:

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:)

thanks :)

always here to help

greetings,

garf