Originally Posted by
Jakro
You need to come up with something a bit better than "Hi." Not saying that race is not an issue (it might be in online dating), but its probably not as a big as you think. Also how are the pics on your profile? If you are getting visits some girls might still be considering replying so maybe there's an issue there.
That said, online you can't expect very high response rates online ever. Like I said, I usually have maybe 1-3 girls replying out of 10 messaged. I temporarily have had a bit higher with some very offensive openers but I couldn't go anywhere from those.
Experiment with something witty, funny and curiosity invoking, and remember that the only point of the first message is to get a first reply.
You need to understand that these girls get messaged like crazy. I went out with this very average looking Indonesian girl (though she was much cuter irl than in pics) and she showed me her OKCupid and it was FLOODED. I just wondered how I even pulled through all that mass to meet her. "Hi" just doesn't cut through it enough to get a response unless you find the odd girl who is into exactly the kind of guys your profile presents you to be. The prettier the girl as well, the more she is getting spammed.
Also if the place you are using has filter for new users (OKC has) you might want to try it. Select "joined last week" and click out few pretty girls there and message them. New girls that aren't yet jaded by dozens of messages every day are MUCH more likely to reply to you.
Finally dude... if you are feeling pathetic after sending out a few messages you're taking it waaay too seriously. My messages to the girls is mostly joking. If some of them stops answering I just laugh. It's them who are pathetic and missed out.