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      Online dating

      I've been single for over two years now... and I don't go out much (cause really, staying inside is so much more comfortable!), so... yep, I've decided to create a profile on OkCupid. I feel slightly silly, which is stupid, since half the girls I've hooked up with were people I met online, but it's probably cause I'm nervous... and cause I've been lonely for too long.

      Long story short. Wish me luck and let me know if you've ever had any good experiences. I've had some, but it's been years.

      Have I mentioned that I'm nervous?

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      Have I heard 'nervous'? Yeah I'm the most nervous person I've ever met (). I even get nervous when I've to shop anything, so imagine. I've never registered into an online-dating web yet I've thought about it. Good luck!
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      I've dated online a few times, never through a dating site. Keep us posted, good luck!
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      I met my ex online and well it went great for a while but hey that's not the online datings fault.It's when people just turn ugly some day.

      It's totally gonna work out for you,I'm sure!

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      I met my boyfriend almost 5 years ago on a dating site, and he ended up being a winner. My longest relationship. Longer than both marriages put together.

      Anyway, I wasn't scared at all, but he was scared shitless. Didn't talk to me for the whole first date, I thought he just wasn't interested in me, but was too nice to just leave lol. Turns out he's just really really shy when you first meet him. He un-shyed at about midnight when we started making out for 4 hours. Oh baby that was a great date.

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      Thanks, everyone!

      And Ophelia, that's a nice story... glad to know it ended well!

      So far, nothing has happened. Had a few visitors, OkCupid tells me that five people have "liked" me... but what really annoys me is that it keeps telling me that some people are "exceptionally good matches", I check them out and they're really NOT. I mean, I've answered almost two hundred questions, I'm obviously someone who'd rather stay home and watch a film, and yet OkCupid keeps telling me to see women who are super party people. GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER, OKCUPID!!!

      On the other hand, some really pretty women have checked my profile. My self-esteem appreciates that.
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      I hopped on plenty of fish the other day because of two things: I met a really sweet girl who met someone on there. And this guy at the skatepark was talking about how he was bagging all these chicks on it. So far, I've gotten like 6 profile views and only one of them look like they weigh less than me. I try not to be superficial, but i draw the line at weight. I'm not saying that they have to be skinny or average, but I don't do obese. Anyways, I've messaged a few girls and so far, 0 replies. I read somewhere that I'm going to have to message 100 girls before one of them writes me back. Meanwhile girls get message bombed. The only reason why I'm sticking with it is because I have this feeling my girl is some internet geek like myself.

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      I've tried the online dating thing. Didn't work for me.
      People really only contacted me because of my looks, didn't really care about anything else.

      But it has worked for others.
      Hopefully it'll work for you too!
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      Quote Originally Posted by puddlekins View Post
      I've tried the online dating thing. Didn't work for me.
      People really only contacted me because of my looks, didn't really care about anything else.

      But it has worked for others.
      Hopefully it'll work for you too!
      Speaking of looks. Ugh at the fact there are a lot of people who put "NO OFFENSE BUT NO BLACK GUYS". I know everyone has a preference, but it just rubs me the wrong way especially when I've read about how many things we have in common. Anyways. A couple of good looking women have viewed my profile after I sent out some messages, but still 0 replies.

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      I made a profile on Okcupid and deleted it the same day. Online dating is still not popular in my place. The only guys I found were the creepy, sexually frustrated ones.

      I use Project Evolove (MBTI-based dating) and I like it. It seems to have more intelligent people. The site in still in its initial stages but the concept is nice and has a lot of potential. If only more people would join!
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      Quote Originally Posted by Anju View Post
      I made a profile on Okcupid and deleted it the same day. Online dating is still not popular in my place. The only guys I found were the creepy, sexually frustrated ones.

      I use Project Evolove (MBTI-based dating) and I like it. It seems to have more intelligent people. The site in still in its initial stages but the concept is nice and has a lot of potential. If only more people would join!
      I might look into that Anju! this probably sounds ridiculously romantic but, its soooo much easier to break the ice with someone over the internet than it is in person.
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      Quote Originally Posted by Zacsby View Post
      its soooo much easier to break the ice with someone over the internet than it is in person.
      Yeah, because you can take your own sweet time to reply or just ignore a person altogether. There's no risk of being stuck making small talk and unable to excuse oneself politely.
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      Quote Originally Posted by Anju View Post
      Yeah, because you can take your own sweet time to reply or just ignore a person altogether. There's no risk of being stuck making small talk and unable to excuse oneself politely.
      you were definitely right, the layout of the site is cool and I like how it breaks down the personality types. just not enough people...but hopefully it will get there!

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      Yup. Just spread the word!

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      Quote Originally Posted by LucasPotter View Post
      I don't go out much

      I've been single for over two years now...
      Could there possibly be a connection?!



      Online dating is fine, but don't let yourself become one of those people who fall into the habit of using it as as an excuse to not go out and work on those interpersonal skills.
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      Quote Originally Posted by OpheliaBlue View Post
      I met my boyfriend almost 5 years ago on a dating site, and he ended up being a winner. My longest relationship. Longer than both marriages put together.

      Anyway, I wasn't scared at all, but he was scared shitless. Didn't talk to me for the whole first date, I thought he just wasn't interested in me, but was too nice to just leave lol. Turns out he's just really really shy when you first meet him. He un-shyed at about midnight when we started making out for 4 hours. Oh baby that was a great date.
      Didn't speak to you the whole date... ended up making out with him... Damn them some sweet moves
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      Good luck!

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      Yeck, I will never understand how other humans can get into the whole meeting-people-online business. If you ask me, it is a great way to get yourself hurt--and in more ways than one. That, and I just think it is plain creepy. And, in mine personal opinion, companionship is just not worth paying for. [Shrugs] But whatever.

      ...Ironically, right when I clicked on this thread, I got a damn pop-up redirecting me to a matchmaking website. That damned virus just won't go away no matter what I do... It is like a bloody cockroach with a shell of steel...

      But anyhow, good luck and all that. Just take care you do not end up pleasing this guy:
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      Yeck, I will never understand how other humans can get into the whole meeting-people-online business.
      you can get to know a wider variety of people as appose to just the people around your surroundings which increases your chance of finding someone more to your liking. also some people have full time jobs and don't really have much time to go out and meet people on a regular bases.

      If you ask me, it is a great way to get yourself hurt--and in more ways than one.
      i think in every relationship there is that chance of getting hurt. someone can lie on the internet just like someone can lie to your face. if you suspect someone's photo of being fake you can always get them to post a pic showing their face while holding a piece of paper with today's date and their username on it. having been in online dating forums, i know that usually scares away the fakes.
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      I agree with tropicalbreeze.
      Going out to meet people is a stressful and exhausting activity for me. My job doesn't give me a lot of spare time either. Whatever free time I get is usually spent at home. Meeting people online is an efficient option.. more people, less time consumption, no energy loss.
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      Quote Originally Posted by AURON View Post
      Speaking of looks. Ugh at the fact there are a lot of people who put "NO OFFENSE BUT NO BLACK GUYS". I know everyone has a preference, but it just rubs me the wrong way especially when I've read about how many things we have in common. Anyways. A couple of good looking women have viewed my profile after I sent out some messages, but still 0 replies.
      Oh dear, that's not great at all. Well, their loss!
      You're bound to hit it off with somebody lovely soon!
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      A little update... I ended up meeting a girl at my uni, so online dating isn't a priority at the moment... I'm leaving my profile up cause we never know, but right now, I'm seeing a gorgeous lady.
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      Update for myself. Got a few views from a couple of beautiful women. I actually had a conversation with one of them, but it ended up in sort of a stalemate. Some other girls have messaged me, but they haven't been that attractive to me. I'm slowly wondering if I just just date a cute fat girl and just get her eating right and exercising with me.

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      Dude, i feel the same way about online dating. Its perfect for guys like me who is more comfortable and introverted. I have many successful encounters on those dating sites and some great relationships. You just need the proper experience and confidence and you will succeed. Good Luck brother.
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      I'm talking to another girl there...there's much more flow in the conversation than the other girl. I'm still messaging the heck out of everyone just to get more data; but most of them are probably reading my message taking a look at my profile and moving on.

      This online stuff is very different. I mean on one hand, I can approach tons of women in a relatively small amount of time. On the other, it's impossible to tell if a girl is into me or not unless I talk to her. In real life I'll get a smile or eye contact. I wish I could pic their brains to find out why they aren't giving me the time of day. Profile wise it'll sound like a match. Either they're not who they claim to be, or just happen to not be physically attracted to me which I thought guys had a little more margin of error for.

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