Two queries troubling a Christian( my friend, help would be really great)
Hey guys!
Ok so i myself am Atheist but the friend concerned is Christian, quite a strong believer I'd say if we were to rate people.
Anyway he is in a bit of a crisis right now and he's really upset, i think he is confused and may be even questioning his faith. I REALLY don't want him to stop believing and loving God and Jesus. I know how happy it usually makes him to feel God being with him and he's not the strongest of guys, his faith really helps him when he's upset so i need to help him.
OK so sadly he recently lost his Aunty and one of his uncles is sick, so there's two separate disasters that have him so confused/upset. I'm going to separate them into the two problems. Firstly his aunt and secondly his uncle.
1) His aunt had suffered with cancer for a while before she died, a few weeks back. She'd been in hospital for the last few weeks of her life. Now his whole family is Christian and so obviously they were all praying for her recovery throughout her sickness, but alas she did not recover. He was really close to her and this has hit him hard. She was a very nice lady, never hurt anyone, strict follower etc. What he doesn't understand is why God couldn't have let her be in this world longer, she was only 38, not old. He and the family were not praying for anything selfish and Jesus said at one point, ask and you shall receive, which he thought meant if it is a small selfless act and would not effect the world, it would happen as a miracle( well that's how it seems to me, he doesn't talk about it much). Now the obvious response is that God decides when we die, it was God's plan for her. But cancer is not a nice infliction, she suffered in pain for a while. I think the main part of his crisis of faith is not that she died, but that she suffered so much. Basically what had she done to deserve this? Can anyone point me to Bible passages that apply to this situation or some kind of explanation i can give him?
2) He is not incredibly close to his Uncle but family is family. Now his uncle has been recently diagnosed with lung cancer( two cancer diagnosis in a short period of time, poor guy..). Now I'm not sure exactly how bad it is, i don't think he is on his death bed just yet, but he is sick.
This crisis is almost the opposite. Although his Uncle is Christian, he hasn't lead the most "Christian" lifestyle. He is a pretty heavy drinker and smoker and also gambles, isn't the best family man, etc. So what he is worried about is if his uncle were to die now, is he guaranteed to go to Heaven or not? His pretty confident that his Uncle would go to Heaven because he loves Christ( or says so, hmph he doesn't sound like he cares). So what does it take to enter heaven? Unfortunately my personal belief is that he may not go to Heaven according to some part of the Bible. He is committed many sins and since he hasn't stopped it seems he does not care about God and Jesus very much. However there is also repentance, but i can't see how he would be able to repent, if he could then when someone of the wrong faith died they would have a realization and repent. But it clearly states heretics and non-believers go to hell at death, no trail( per se). So how can i assure him, even if i don't agree, that his Uncle is safe?
Any help would be great here, I'm hoping he will work it out by reading the Bible some more, asking others, but he always values my input and i thought if i could show him some Biblical explanations he may have overlooked, it would help et his mind at ease.