Which means more to you..

[Clairity]

Since we have so many male members I thought I'd ask.. does it mean more to you to have someone say "I'm proud of you" or to have someone say "I love you"? I read an article a while back that stated that it means more to a man to be told that someone is "proud" of him (maybe because love is a word that's thrown around so easily anymore). Just curious...

[Adrenaline Junkie]

I'd say it would mean more if i was told i was loved. I think alot of men prefer to say that they would like people to be proud of them because males in general are more competative and prefer to earn that sort of high status, if someone says they are proud of you then i would expect a man would assume he has achieved something, i find that like you said, the word love is tossed around alot but i think you can tell if someone means it or not. I hope all that made some sort of sense.

[.:Rob:.]

I'd personally prefer people to tell me that they are proud of me, because then I'd have more of a sense of acheivement and accomplishment (as Lucid Seeker said).

[Pyrofan1]

proud

[Adrenaline Junkie]

I just think that achievement is more of a status related thing whilst love is more of a caring emotion which makes me feel good knowing that someone feels that way about me.

[.:Rob:.]

I've never been in a serious relationship where a girl had been in love with me (I'm only 16:p) so I can't really say how much I'd appreciate being loved in that way. But if a member of my family was to say that they love me it'd probably mean very little as it's really a given. I'd expect members of my family to love me because that's what they do. It doesn't mean that they like me, they just get attached to me in that way because they've been stuck with me for 16 years. If anything It'd mean far more to me if someone told me that they liked me as a person.

[LucidMike14]

I think you have a point. Love is thrown around so much now a days. So it would seem to me that proud would feel better, unless love was completley genuine

[Ardent Lost]

But doesn't loving somebody include pride by default? If you love somebody you accept them for who they are and rejoice in that. If you aren't proud of them would there not be something missing? I can't say i'm qualified to answer the question as far as love between two unrelated people goes, but when it comes to my family i feel that pride is a part of my love for them. I love them and thus i'm proud of who they are.

[Clairity]

But doesn't loving somebody include pride by default? If you love somebody you accept them for who they are and rejoice in that. If you aren't proud of them would there not be something missing? I can't say i'm qualified to answer the question as far as love between two unrelated people goes, but when it comes to my family i feel that pride is a part of my love for them. I love them and thus i'm proud of who they are. I understand what you're saying.. but I also know that I can love someone and not always be proud of their actions. .

[Ardent Lost]

Good point. In that case i would say i prefer to be told i was loved, anyway. I feel that the pride of others in myself isn't something i seem to crave. Pride in myself is much more important. Whereas i find love to be empowering and also humbling.

[trigotron]

depends who is saying it. If it's "i'm proud of you" for no apparant reason from a chick or someone i don't even know, it doesnt really mean much. Whereas "i'm proud of you" from someone you respect or someone like your father or your boss or something like that, after you've done something you feel is truely great, then it means a lot more. For me, "I love you" means more, because for me, in general, it's always meaningful, no matter who the person saying it. In contrast to the previous example, if i heard "i love you" for no apparant reason from a chick or someone i don't even really know, that's just as meaningful as anyone else. Imo it's a lot harder to say "i love you" than to say "i'm proud of you" Good point. In that case i would say i prefer to be told i was loved, anyway. I feel that the pride of others in myself isn't something i seem to crave. Pride in myself is much more important. Whereas i find love to be empowering and also humbling. I couldn't have said it better myself. If you have pride in yourself you don't need to hear "i'm proud of you", if you like yourself, you don't need to hear "I love you", just a theory?

[pj]

Love all the way, baby. I do take pride in accomplishments and things earned... but the love of friend or family is treasure far less fleeting than gratitude expressed for a job well done.