Like Chasing a Ball in a Pool

**MrKaboodlekins** · 04-03-2014 02:13 PM

This thread is for the people out there like me who have beaten the snot out of this idea for years by doing tons of reality checks every day and watching or reading whatever they could and religiously keeping a dream journal with virtually no success.

I went about four or five years with this mentality and if this is you, you're only problem is that you have a really aggressive intent toward lucid dreaming. It wasn't until I got sick and tired of trying so hard for nothing(with more than just lucid dreaming) that I got a taste of success. I'm just gonna tell you a couple of things that should help you astronomically. And I'm not claiming to be and expert here I just wrestled a couple of secrets out of this whole game.

1. Stop slamming your mind over and over with the idea of becoming lucid at bedtime. Like I said before, this is for people who already have the right habits established. Your mind knows what you want but backing it into a corner will just make it scurry away like freaked out little squirrel. You want to softly let it know that lucidity is a good thing. A good rule of thumb is if its keeping you awake, you're pushing too hard.

2. Every hour or so during the day recall as much detail about what's happened so far that day as possible. I hope this is obvious. I only put this in here because its drastically improved my recall in just a couple of days. You're training your mind.

3. OBSERVE. This combined with the reality checks is lethal. I mean you want to understand the little things that keep reality consistent. Like my cigarette should not be a glass of water just because I didn't see it for a couple of seconds. Pay close but relaxed attention to whichever world you're surrounded by.

Hope this helps some people. Oh and if you're like me, you should probably spend your first few lucid dreams chilling out and just getting to know you're dreamscape. Apparently some people get to the point of just knowing its a dream by how it feels. That will be nice.

**cvdmehden** · 04-03-2014 05:39 PM

Great tips! Thanks! I've also observed that lucidity needs a gentle touch. You have to allow it. If you bring that demanding, wrestling energy into your practices, it just gets in the way. Relax, let go, let it happen. The more unattached you can be while holding on to gentle intent, the more rapid your results.

**MrKaboodlekins** · 04-03-2014 07:10 PM

Mhm. For me the mental relaxation also makes it easier to enjoy a night of NL dreams. Takes that weird pressure off.

**Laurelindo** · 04-03-2014 06:34 PM

I like to compare lucid dreaming with flirting;
if you try too hard, you will scare the lucid dreams away - if you approach lucid dreaming gently and confidently, you attract lucid dreams to you.

It's generally much easier to become lucid if you don't put so much pressure on yourself.
One explanation for this is probably that if you expect lucid dreams too much, then you might feel exhausted during the nights and not have enough energy to actually be observant in the dreams.