Need help

[Dani23]

I usually have about 3 dreams per night. Firs one is the longest and the most vivid. It usually ocurs between when I go to bed and 4:30 am. The second one is less vivid and much sorter and usually ends at 7:30 am.(aproximatively). The final one is the least vivid and the shortest and usually ends between 10 - 10:30. I don't know why but I can become lucid only in the last 2 dreams. When I do this the dreams end very fast and I can't do anything to stabilize them.(they end in about 2 seconds from things start to get blurry). I use the reality checks through day method to attain lucidity. My question is: what can I do to become lucid in the first dream? and what would you suggesst me to stabilizing a dream real quick? any suggestion would be very appreciated.

[MasterMind]

Hi Dani23! Welcome to the forum The first explanation to why you "only" can become lucid in the final stages of your sleep, is because your mind is longer in REM-sleep after more hours of sleep. So because of the fact that you are dreaming more, you have a greater chance of noticing your dreams at this point. In order to become lucid earlier in the night, you have to learn to become more aware during the day in general, so that you fall asleep with a higher degree of awareness. And for stabilization, I can just say that it's something you have to practise and it's kind of like learning to stand on your hands. It has more to do with your ability to focus your mind than to actually just doing one thing that stabilizes it all. Lucid dreaming and awareness are something you develop and build over time, just like going to the gym. But if I had to give you a practical advice, that would be to read up on as much as you can about lucid dreaming and try things out for the fun of it. And if you want to develop awareness quickly, I suggest you look into the practice of meditation or mindfulness. Have fun and enjoy your stay! Peace!

[Dani23]

Thanks for your advice. I'll try to increase my awareness.