Having An Extremely Hard Time With Lds

[Nyx]

Well, I've been wanting to have a LD very bad for quite some time now. I've tried many of the methods with no luck. Also, it seems like I barely ever even have a dream. Even after I have had a dream and I wake up and think to myself, I should have known I was dreaming, but it's too hard to realize it while dreaming because nothing seems out of the ordinary and everything happens on an impulse if that makes any sense. I keep trying to get myself to actually realize whats going on, but I haven't had any luck and its been a few months now. Sorry for rambling on and such, it's just frustrating and I'm not quite sure what to do.

[Stoat]

Start with develpoing your dream recall more, and keep questioning reality! I'ts kinda fun questioning reality.... or you can do my way and just learn to WILD! As I have succeeded in WILDS, I goota tell you that the feeling of becoming lucid in a dream is better than the feeling of starting a dream... unless it's the feeling of transit into the dream! That is awesome! Good luck -Stoat

[TygrHawk]

Hey there Nyx! Sorry you're having such a hard time of it, but try not to get frustrated -- that will only hurt your chances. If you find yourself getting frustrated, take a break from trying LDs for a few days or a week. What methods have you tried, and for how long? Often, people need to keep working at a set routine for a few weeks before getting any results. In any case, don't give up! That's the only sure way to fail. Success is all about having confidence. You might want to check out this tutorial -- it helped me break a long dry spell.

[Leo Volont]

Well, I've been wanting to have a LD very bad for quite some time now. I've tried many of the methods with no luck. Also, it seems like I barely ever even have a dream. Even after I have had a dream and I wake up and think to myself, I should have known I was dreaming, but it's too hard to realize it while dreaming because nothing seems out of the ordinary and everything happens on an impulse if that makes any sense. I keep trying to get myself to actually realize whats going on, but I haven't had any luck and its been a few months now. Sorry for rambling on and such, it's just frustrating and I'm not quite sure what to do. [/b] You know, there was a time not long ago when there was no such thing as Lucid Dreaming, and yet people still worked on their dreams. Perhaps Lucidity is a stage one arrives to while in the process of working on one's Dreams. But you seem to want to go directly to Lucid Dreaming. Well, have you perfected your dream recall? Well, no. You complain that you rarely dream. And then you don't give us an idea of your present dream issues -- what is happening? If you are presently having reoccurring dream motifs, which indicate that you are at something of a psychological impass in your Dreams, then you may be 'stuck' in a pre-lucid stage of development until you address these problems. And you don't have to be lucid in order to work on your dreams. You can use suggestion. For instance, you have a dream in which you suppose you responded badly and made a wrong choice, well, then you set up a program whereby 7 or 8 times a day you relax and auto-suggest or auto-hypnotize yourself to make more positive and agreeable dream choices in the future. And it works. As an example -- lately I had been getting along better with my father in my dreams, but several weeks ago I had something of a gratuitous argument with him. Well, that seemed like backtracking, after we had been doing so well, and so I put that on my 'suggestion list'. So just the other night I had a dream where my father was one of the Dream Characters, and he made an unreasonable request, and so I answered him back in the negative, but then the suggestions kicked in and I rather complied with my father's wishes. Suggestion and auto-hypnosis do have an influence upon our dreams. so work on your dream recall and work on your dreams in general, and lucidity will come along when the entire process is ready for Lucidity.

[FreeOne]

take my advice. Start a dream jornal. just write down whatever u can remember from your dreams even just how u felt when u woke up. It helped me tons. just about maybe 2 weeks ago (almost) i started mine and it was just a bunch of 1 liners and crap. Then just last night i remembered like a 2 page dream it really helps

[clarkkent]

I think the first thing to do is relax. Don't worry about whether you get an Ld or not. Sleep well. Try to improve your dream recall. Again if you have problems here don't fuss about it. Slowly it will improve, if you would like it to. But don't force it on yourself. The less 'force', the better.