Certain person in dream

[love2dream]

Do you think another person can make themselves appear in your dreams?

[slayer]

If you mean another REAL person, then you might want to look up Shared Dreams around here. You could also search for Night Stalkers and Dream Walkers.

[eyesofthemirror]

Great question.

[love2dream]

If you mean another REAL person Yes, it's a real person, someone in my past, we had a weird relationship, I used to be like obsessed with him, but he never took me that seriously then after 12 years, I tell the dude to fuck off I never wanna see him again sorry i even ever knew him, and to stay away. I don't think about him. Why is he in my dreams, and we are always hooking up, and my present bf, is always around, and I always go with the other guy, and I don't know why. This is not something that I would want to happen. So i wonder if he is thinking about me so much, that he makes me dream of him. Like is he missing me? I really don't care but how can i get him out my dreams?

[slayer]

Oh, so your having dreams of him and you think he's thinking of you which makes you dream of him? It's really just you and your emotions toward him. Best thing to do is to just let it go, or apologize to him or something.

[eyesofthemirror]

Obsession is a strong emotion, no? I'm going to guess that you are not obsessed with your current bf....but maybe have a different relationship with him. If this is true (which, I obviously don't know), then perhaps you have some sort of attachment to being obsessed. Of course, please no, I intend no criticism, in fact, I say this because I've had similar dreams to which I draw this conclusion. Obsession is something that triggers me,...but logically I know what comes of it....problem is, if I am not in a state of self-reflection this emotion controls me rather easily. It could be that this person is thinking of you and so you are having this dream however, I would guess it has more to do with you than him. You even told him to "fuck off" - this feeling in regards to obsession has always been, for me, the realization of the negative outcome of obsession....of course the positive being: now you know. One thing is evident. This dream has effected you, now you need to understand why...why has it triggered you? Were you upset with how you handled it? or was it a disgust from the outcome of obsession?...whatever it might be, it seems to be important to your life at the moment. Perhaps you are required to take some sort of action as well,....whether it is forgiving yourself, or him, or seeing something you missed...who knows. It is not that I believe the meaning is inherent in the dream. It is that I believe there is meaning inherent in our emotional triggers (experiences that give us strong emotions)..why did we feel that way? honestly

[violeta]

Do you think another person can make themselves appear in your dreams? Yes, and I would like to know why has he changed recently, but only in my dreams. I met him (I'll name him John) in another town when I was visiting some friends. We started an emotional relationship, he moved to my town, and we lived together for a few years. Then we split and he went abroad. After some times he started appearing in my dreams always as a negative dream character. I was dating other guys in my waking life, but John in my dreams was always the same - like an enemy, although in my waking state I never thought about him in that way. This year I've started dating someone (I'll name him Paul) who lives in my town, but was born in the same town as John. Paul and John do not know each other, neither do they know about my relationships whith them. Since the time I've started dating Paul, John in my dreams has changed. He is not a negative dream character anymore, he is becoming more like a friend and I even feel some nice emotions emanating from him in my dreams. I point out again that my waking mind's opinion about him has not changed neither it had any similarity with my dream mind's opinion about him, before. Why has John in my dreams changed? Any comments, explanations...?

[eyesofthemirror]

maybe your subconscious mind's opinion has changed. I think our opinions of people are very complex....with each person we could say something about how we feel about them, but dreams reveal more to us about these feelings than we knew before. Not to say that how you feel in the dream is how you actually feel,...but rather, the emotion felt when your wake up is key to analyze. Did you react to the dream with disgust? or joy? or hate? etc... then, why? What does this say about you? Now that this person is out of your life, you have the opportunity to see clearly what you have learned from your relationship with them.....as long as you approach your emotions with honesty. thats my take ....I think these dreams are the way they are so that we have the opportunity to learn. Lucid dreaming is also easier with the greater control we have over our emotions. - It's why I always have certain dreams that trigger the emotion of obsession, its a large barrier for me in my waking life, and in the quest to realizing I am dreaming......or so I believe

[love2dream]

Obsession is a strong emotion, no? One thing is evident. This dream has effected you, now you need to understand why...why has it triggered you? You're so right, thatnailed it in the head, I've come a long long ass way rom where I used to be but it's like somewhere in my head, he is stuck...thats crazy, i do need to forgive him, as i am not one to hold grudges, which i am not, i think it just bothers me that we stopped talking ater all that time, and it was my doing that caused that, kinda blew my own mind, if you will. thanks i will do some soul searching for resolve, it is not him, it's me

[love2dream]

Obsession is a strong emotion, no? One thing is evident. This dream has effected you, now you need to understand why...why has it triggered you? You're so right, thatnailed it in the head, I've come a long long ass way rom where I used to be but it's like somewhere in my head, he is stuck...thats crazy, i do need to forgive him, as i am not one to hold grudges, which i am not, i think it just bothers me that we stopped talking ater all that time, and it was my doing that caused that, kinda blew my own mind, if you will. thanks i will do some soul searching for resolve, it is not him, it's me our minds are crazy

[violeta]

maybe your subconscious mind's opinion has changed. It seems to me that the way subconscious mind is functioning is that it follows the conscious mind's functioning but much later and with a deeper insight into things they both deal with, each in its own time. First, when I was living with this guy, (I called John) I didn't dream about him at all, I was living with him. When he left, I didn't start to dream about him immediately (which means my subconscious mind didn't understand yet that he had gone), then, after some time, he appeared in my dreams as an enemy, which is understandable if I consider my subconscious as a judge who sees things in black and white. Then came this guy (I called him Paul) into my life, and authomatically my dreams about John changed. My conscious picture about him has not changed, only my subconscious one. What is so specific about Paul (that I consciously don't know about)? For, it is obvious that my connection with him has changed my subconscious mind's opinion about someone else. Well, this sounds strange and is uncomprehensible to me. Thanks for your reply.