exboyfriend..

[vegetariangirl]

I need help translating this about my ex boyfriend..who I was very much in love with. still am. we havent talked or seen eachother in about a year..but here it is: Him and I had somehow decided to meet up somewhere and catch up, apparently we decided on a castle made of stone with vines on its side, which was supposed to be a common place people hungout in the winter. And yes, it was the middle of winter in my dream. My mother and I had gotten their first. My mother and I never agreed on him. But when I told her that he was coming to see me, she immediately wanted to leave but I made her stay. She was wearing a black coat, i thinkkk she was wearing gloves..her hands were in her pockets. Anyways, I randomly was standing in the front of the castle, and I saw his brother's car driving towards us finally, and I waved and smiled at them both; him and his brother, and He smiled at me, his brother said hi. In my dream, I then turned my head so I saw the parking lot, which was incredibly beyond crowded. I decided I would wander around inside while they found a spot to park. Inside, there was a main floor, then there were wooden stairs that were slightly spiraled in a way, and then upstairs there were about three rooms. I stood in a room with a bunkbed, and a regular bed. The whole inside of the castle was wooden..but while I stood in this room I remembered thinking "this is the room that I lost my virginity to him in.." but in real life, it was not. so that confused me a little..haha. but thennn it seemed like it was taking him a longg time to come inside, so I started just walking around, I ended up in the back of the castle. I decided to call him and ask him where he was, and he told me he was inside the castle on the main floor. So I walked around the side of the castle, and when I got to the front of the outside of the castle, he opened the door, and started walking towards me smiling. He was wearing glasses (which he has in reallife) and he was wearing a black shirt with a white ninja turtle on it.. we hung up our phones then, and started talking. He started talking to me first, and he was talking about me. He started saying how so many people in his life had failed him..but then he never finished his thought. in my dream i got the feeling that he was going to say 'but you never did". Before we entered the door, my mother happened to be walking behind us, trying to follow us, but eventually she just let us walk inside as she stayed outside. We were walking very close to eachother, almost touching shoulders. We started walking up the stairs, and when we got to the highest part we just sat there. A little girl that he had apparently talked to while he was here came up to talk to us about shaving..and then left. After she left he was just laying down while I was sitting up, and he was staring at me with the same look he used to. I felt love. And I had a thought in my dream saying "this time, I know I'll do it right." Translation?

[Burned up]

I wondered if the "love feeling" would eventually present itself. Before that I was taken by the presence of both your ex and your mother in the same dream. Parents tend to give us our values and I think this is what brought your mother to this dream. You are working out how you think and feel about being with a lover (not necessarily this lover) whilst grappling with the values you inherited from mother. The little girl might represent your more innocent self, still curious about growing up (talking about shaving). Only when she leaves does the more adult feeling start to appear. I've written a lot about the "love feeling" recently. There's a lot of it about just now! Please take a look at other people's love dreams and my (and others') comments regarding this. In short you are tapping into a feeling that is inate and it says more about your own desires than about your ex in particular. So don't presume that when you feel it, you've found the ideal man. So many people end up hurt like that, because there is a huge difference between the idealised lover and the actual one.