Dreams about boyfriend have me worried..

[cawsuez]

Over the past week, I've had about 5 dreams about my boyfriend that really have me worried. In one dream, he brought about 6 female "friends" to our house who were apparently on some sports team with him, and when I expressed jealousy, he beat me up and broke up with me, and threw me down the stairs, and yelled at me until I left the house. In another dream, he was cheating on me with some girl, and when I expressed jealousy, he just laughed and the girl approached me and said things like "He doesn't care about your feelings, he's with me, he's only using you" etc. In yet another dream, we went to a party together and he immediately left me at the door to go flirt with other girls, and whenever I caught up with him, he would yell at me and shove me around. I don't exactly remember the other dreams, but they were all similar. We have been together for nearly three years. I consider our relationship to be fairly normal, we see each other often, and from what I can tell it is mostly a healthy relationship. I do not suspect him of cheating, and I believe he would never hurt me, so... can anyone tell me what's going on? It scares me to have these dreams about someone I love! Please help! Thank you!!

[Arra]

It seems you must be worrying that he doesn't care about you or will cheat on you on some level. But maybe not, and your subconscious is expressing something else. You're the best person to decide what your dreams mean. Consider the feelings you get in the dreams, and try to remember feeling the same thing in real life, but maybe not as drastic, and that's probably the issue your subconscious is expressing.

[Burned up]

Yes, the fears which manifest themselves in your dreams aren't necessarily (and probably aren't) anything to do with him, more to do with you. You have an unconscious fear that when you get close to someone, you become humiliated and abandoned. It's worth recognising that for what it is - your fear - perhaps based on early experience (who knows?) - that's driving the dreams. Try to look for what's genuine when relating to your boyfriend and avoid projecting these fears onto the relationship. I believe it's dreams like these which can really help us in real life.