seeing late father repeatedly.

[spritex]

My father passed away last year.... since then i have been having dreams abt him often. The striking feature in all these dreams was that someone says he is dead but he comes back alive. For eg. 1. After the funeral... i am home alone...and there is someone at the door...when i open i see my father... he says "why did u leave me at the hospital..I waited and waited for someone to come and get me" (incidentally he passed away in a hospital) 2. I am visiting my mom...and at the airport to receive me is my mom and dad. My mother says "surprise, surprise...ur dad is back home...we found him wandering in the streets lost" 3. I receive a call from my sister that my Dad has passed away... I prepare to rush to my mothers house... i see my mom and dad coming to my house and walk towards me. I call my sister and she says I swear he was dead but now he is not here. Such dreams come very often and they disturb me a lot. Can anyone give me any insights? Thank you.

[underhiswing]

I am so sorry about your dad's passing. It is difficult to say goodbye to parents, and this is actually what your dreams mean. You have not "fully" accepted that he is gone and you are sunconsciously still trying to bring him back to life. I know it is hard to hear that, but grief has many stages, and you are stuck in the "denial stage" it could all be subconscious, and so it may not sound correct to you, but your dreams don't lie. Do you remember when you found out about his passing, and how it all felt so unreal..... for days and weeks it still felt unreal? Part of you is still stuck there. I spoke to a counselor recently about our own grief (my sweet daughter in-law was killed two weeks ago) and she said that it takes hundreds of hours of talking about our loved one and looking at photos in order to properly grieve. You might want to learn about these stages of grief. Try reading, "On Grief and Grieving Finding the Meaning of Grief through the Five Stages of Loss" . You can find it on Amazon.com. There are other books, but this one is very popular and grounded. Maybe you could find a safe person to talk with about your dad, look at pictures, and relive memories. It will help. I wish you all the best now and in your future.