glass heart

[sea00115699]

I dreamed that I was in a classroom as dark as midnight. All the students were working on making hearts. I had made many hearts. Every heart was supposed to be better than the last. The best heart I could make was red, cold, symmetrical, and made of glass. It broke into pieces though and I had to make another one. I was working on the next making my next heart when I gave it to a girl for safekeeping. Everyone else finished making the next hearts, which were either circular or made of sponge. My heart was supposed to be made of sponge and red, but I couldn't finish it because the girl I had given it to had kept it in a drawer and then left before I could finish it. Then I had no heart. I kept looking for it or trying to make another one, but I couldn't.

[JoannaB]

Are you by any chance suffering from a broken heart? Do you feel like the last girl you were in love with did not reciprocate your love or did not treat it with the respect and attention it deserved? Are you worried that your may now not be able to fall in love again? I assume that is not it, because if it were you would have interpreted this dream yourself and not posted here asking for help. So it's probably more complicated that that. Hmm, maybe it is not about romantic love but about something else that you put in a lot of effort into and were not appreciated for it - for example at work? If that's not it, could you tell us a bit about what is on your mind, brainstorm a bit about anything in your life that you wonder whether that could possibly be related to this dream.

[sea00115699]

I'm actually a girl, but the girl I gave it to was named alex, the same name as my last crush. I've been feeling kind of broken about a lot of things. My life holds a lot less of a future now than it used to.

[JoannaB]

Ah, I can relate to this more this week than many an other week, since I had a breakdown of sort on Monday this week. I have however started to pull myself back up, and I wish you the same. One of the tricks in dream interpretation is to try to interpret all dream characters also as parts of oneself, and see what insights one can gain from that. My own dreams recently have been a lot about the struggle between my old self and new self, which one is right and which one is winning or losing the struggle. In your dream you have your heart to another and so you do not now have a heart, and your best heart was broken. However, if you look at it as all dream characters representing parts of you, while the part of you you currently identify with does not appear to have the heart, actually you still do have the heart but you put in in a drawer for now. You can still take it out of that drawer. You also still have that creative ability to create a new better heart. At the moment things look bad, but you can pull yourself together and with imagination and creativity you can do it all over again. Perhaps this is not the moment when you are up to creating a new one. Perhaps it is time for a break or for trying something else for a change, and return to the heart making once your heart has mended because even though it was broken, but there is a heart in a drawer that is yours, perhaps one could reinterpret that as it being stored away for safekeeping by part of you because even though Alex neglected it, you yourself still can and will get that heart back when you are ready for it, once you are ready to rebuild a new less fragile heart. I wish you peace and strength. Oh and do not say that your life holds less future now. We cannot tell what the future holds, and especially at times like this it is time to focus on the present and not worry too much about the future, or at least not to make negative assumptions about what the future holds. Ok, so the present does not look good: it is broken and non-creative and bleak. What can you or I do about changing that at least a little bit right now? I have found that an important part of the healing process for me once my mind is broken is to become more self aware, especially pay more attention to negative internal monologue: what do I tell myself about myself that brings me down further, causing things to be even more broken? Then I start to put in effort to fix that, to stop telling myself that I cannot do it, that I am tired and down and incapable of getting out of my current ditch. I can do it, and so can you. I am a capable strong woman, and so are you. I am creative and will come up with a way out: if the door does not work, try the window; if you can't make a heart, make a hand instead - another helping hand for yourself. Give yourself positive pep talk during day time. Start day dreaming. If you do not like how a dream ends, change the ending by redoing the dream in your mind during day time. Your waking mind can reshape dreams for the better, and more positive dreams can improve your waking mood - it's a spiral. Right now it sound like both your dreams and waking life thoughts maybe causing a downward spiral, and you need to change the direction of that spiral to lift you up instead. And so do I. All the best to both of us.

[Sover]

Even if it's not directly relatade to romantic love it could be related to attachment and warm feelings towards others. An aspect I would like to point out is that everyone is a student in the dream. This could either mean that you associate something to your time as a student, or it could just be associated to learning, or mayby performance. Mayby being in a relationship brings out thoughts about performance for you, "being a good partner" and so forth. It's not uncommon to get stuck in thoughts about having to perform in a relationship instead of thinking about how you want to be towards others. Therefore, "I lost this relationship because I wasn't good enough". If you feel that you've been broken about a lot of things, mayby you feel less passion about your life. Red can often be associated to feelings of passion. There is though a polarity in this dream since we have the warm colour red, but the heart is cold and made out of glass. Sponge is supposed to suck things up. Just as a heart can swell for sucking upp warm emotions, perhaps. Hearts that are circular, hmm. I also think about that you wrote a couple of times about what they were supposed to do. This brings me back to thoughts about performance, since we often can get stuck in thoughts about having to do, being supposed to do, can not do, etc. JoannB wrote: "perhaps one could reinterpret that as it being stored away for safekeeping by part of you because even though Alex neglected it, you yourself still can and will get that heart back when you are ready for it, once you are ready to rebuild a new less fragile heart. I wish you peace and strength." When I read this I thought that mayby you do not feel ready yet to get into another relationship yet. Or mayby since you lost your heart, you are stuck in thoughts about not being able to love again, or something like that.

[Superman1]

In your pitch black darkness, you were working on making a better heart than before, it seems because you have been heart-broken before and each time it is supposed to get better, not worse, which is disheartening. So you had to remake your heart. And you gave it to Alex before you finished. Others hearts were those you saw, in your dreams or in other people. Circular because they are complete, or make a circuit, of giving and receiving. Or yes that can soak up the love. Your heart was put away by Alex though, who did not reciprocate to you, so left you, making you feel that you lost your heart. How you want your heart to be: You keep looking for it or trying to remake it. The lesson of the dream seems to be to not let your heart be so fragile, or maybe depend so much on another for it. Here is your new heart: