Dreams all my life of a faceless man, have I found him?

[PinkZebra]

My name is Megan, I am 23. I have been having these dreams for as long as I can remember of a faceless man. I knew everything about him, the way he smelled, his skin, his temperature, his body build, and I felt as if I loved him with everything in me. The dreams would happen all the time, probably at least once a week and they have been for as long as I can remember. In the dreams all sorts of things would happen, but It was almost always happy and I had the feeling that the faceless man was most likely my husband. And when I woke up I'd always feel like I just had something taken away from me. I kinda felt empty, because I had just felt so whole in my dream. ( I was even engaged for about 5 years and always woke from these dreams about the faceless man feeling really lost, I had more love for the man in my dream than my fiancee) Never at any point in time had I thought that the faceless man was someone I knew. No one had ever made me have anything close to the feelings that I had for this faceless man. The only thing that I felt was that the faceless man was tall, had dark eyes, and dark hair. And I just had this kinda warm fuzzy calm feeling when I was around him. >>> ok so obviously there is more to this because I talk about these dreams in the past tense. About 3 months ago, I went to a bar with my cousin. I saw a man walk in from across the room, and instantly had this overwhelming feeling that I had to be near him, talk to him, just something seriously drew me to him. I even told my cousin what I felt and she laughed at me. i didn't approach him but later we did end up bumping into each other and striking a conversation. That moment when I started talking to him it was like the light bulb came on and I put a face to the faceless men, from a perfect stranger. Every feeling about that faceless man is exactly what came over me, from this man I didn't know. Of course this stranger and I have been spending time together since then (nothing very serious, but maybe down the road) Since the second I met him I felt everything that I felt from the faceless man. Now all of this sounds exciting and what not, I'm just a little scared from it. Now I'm having dreams, not of the faceless man, but of J. And usually I wake up balling my eyes out, and now I can't remember what happened in my dreams, just that I'm upset by my once faceless man. I've been "dating" him since we met, and it's not the right timing for either of us. But I feel like I can't walk away, like theres something bigger to this...... Feed back is needed and much appreciated!!!! Help me out, I feel like a loony lol... Thank you P.s. I'm sorry if this is confusing.

[44CalibreSunlight]

I find when meeting people there's always a certain body chemistry that goes beyond the sum of the 5 senses you experience. I've had a similar dream to yours, although much less intense and prolonged, I think dreams like yours and mine act as a kind of subconscious clue as to what love might feel to you, and allow you to make the tie in real life, when you meet that specific person, so in a way, when it happens, you understand what you're feeling as being familiar. That's what I think anyway, and good luck with your situation!

[PinkZebra]

I've noticed that alot of people have read this, but only one has commented on it. I would really appreciate some other points of views on this.... I can provide more information or anything if you ask. Thank you for the reply 44 , and I would like to know if anyone else has had any similar experiences. Is it usual for people to have recurring dreams for such a long time? And it's not even that mine were recurring, they just always had my faceless man in them, and in my dreams he was mine. I think that I can remember having these dreams as young as about 10 ish. And do we subconsciously dream about things to come? I mean is it possible I have been dreaming about this guy all my life and that he is actually real, and not only real, but have met him? Do I trust my intuition and my gut feelings for someone based off of dreams? And now that I have met this man, he has his face, I know its him in my dreams now, and now when I wake up I can't remember my dream (when I had the faceless dreams I could always remember them clearly), and I'm very upset and crying (before they were happy) . Could this mean there are bad things to come? All of it frightens me because I was so used to having these dreams, no one had ever made me think that they could be the faceless person, and suddenly I meet a stranger and its him, and the dreams change. ugh.... and at the same time, I would never tell him any of this cause he'd probably laugh at me and then think I'm a nutty stalker lol. Ok!! Please comment if you read, PLEASE PLEASE!!! Thank you!!!

[44CalibreSunlight]

I'd say you should keep things calm for as long as you can, if your dreams and reality aren't specifically linked, your love for what you think is this man could cause you to act irrationally, and have a heightened sense of comfortability with someone you don't really technically know as much as you feel you do. Then again it could become something good, my advice is to deal with it as it comes a long and try not to fret too much on the issue. After all, they are simply dreams, and you're the one in control of what you think, something inside you shouldn't ever have to make your life one bit uncomfortable. I know you asked for more points of view but I'll offer another one :p good luck again! And you're welcome

[♥Mark]

I've noticed that alot of people have read this, but only one has commented on it. If you're basing that off of thread views, it's possible that most of those people opened the topic and left as soon as they noticed a giant, neon pink wall of text.

[Daydreamer14]

I left to think about it for a while. It is afterall a strange but amazing situation. It gave me goosebumps reading it. I think you should kind of hint that you've had dreams like this before, without actually flat-out telling him... You know; just to see if he reacts in a way that hints that maybe he's had the same dreams...? You never know... Maybe he has..?

[Philosopher8659]

Many times in a dream, we mistake other people in the dream as actually refering to other people, when in fact they are aspects of ourselves. A faceless person is someone out of touch with reality. There is another aspect to look at. Desire is an emotion, and they are often quite overwhelming. The desire for a mate is one of these. If the dream does refer to someone else, one may simply be being told, that ones desire for a body will disregard the fact that the person is, as a philosopher once said, dead. However, if you really want the truth of the matter, you have to ask the giver of the dream. Focus on very specific questions while going into state. You have to learn how to ask, and how to listen.

[travellight27]

Well said Philosopher. Pink, please read his thoughts again.....and I happen to love pink, so you go girl.

[EspadaInMyCloset]

If you're basing that off of thread views, it's possible that most of those people opened the topic and left as soon as they noticed a giant, neon pink wall of text. Thank you.

[syzygies]

The "inner man" in your case is a deep psychic impression of an inner masculinity - in Jungian analysis, this figure might be called your "animus," a psychological force that balances out your femininity and which needs to be integrated into your conscious personality. The animus goes through four stages and appears in dreams as a direct link to the unconscious and its messages. In the first stage the animus appears appealing to your carnal and erotic fantasies. Given your age and circumstances it's more likely that this is the second stage of the animus, wherein he is a figure of romance - he's seductive and appeals to your baser instincts, but also provokes a love fantasy, which has to do with (1) Completion of yourself by uniting otherwise fragmented psychic forces of man and woman (2) More simply, loving yourself. You feel complete with this mysterious force and empty without it. Here's my warning: It already exists inside of you and you aren't integrating it into your life from the inside. If you project the faceless man's qualities onto a man in the outside world, you make yourself dependent on something fickle for your wholeness and happiness. The man is faceless because you haven't given him expression through yourself yet. He's still vague. He's still the unknown. You found (J) and were able to project the faceless man's qualities onto (J). This is common with men and their anima-2. Men find women of "fairy-like" nature, vague, hard to comprehend, very attractive, because they can weave all their fantasies around her. Because the man is faceless, you can also project feelings of wholeness onto him. Honestly, there's way way way more you could tell us about your dreams and it would help tremendously. It's very important to know what sort of context he usually appears in, whether or not he points anything out to you, whether he's intimate or distant in the dreams, whether he's (1) carnal/erotic, (2) romantic/poetic/take you to the stars, (3) a man of action, beyond fantasizing and into acting on higher principles, (4) a figure of wisdom. Give us details from 3 dreams where he appears and intend as you sleep these next few weeks to discover more about this mysterious figure. Please remember: he existed before you met J. He lives inside of you and wants you to give him expression - he cannot express himself without a face.

[Otaku88]

I have had virtually the same kind of dream. I have had a feeling of being in love with the man in my dream, I have only had the one dream though but every waking minute I think about it. I remember everything about him except his name and face. I am only 17 and i've never felt anything like this (love) and I don't think I ever will unless it's with this stranger. I fear for his wellbeing and more than anything I just want to dream if him, even if I can't really see him the dreams fill the void.

[Phased]

Very interesting reading, although I did have to copy and paste it and read it in word to avoid my eyes being burnt out by the pink text ;3

[AstralMango]

This thread is deeeeaaaad, Otaku. Hasn't been updated in three years since... now.