Really puzzling dream, please help me interpret

[oles]

Hello everyone, This is my first ever posting, I have a history of bad dreams coming true (bleeding tooth falling out, days before close family member dies). Last night I had this dream where the above mentioned family member, my brother, me and a friend (girl) with whom I lost touch 10 years ago (about the same time my brother died), are having a small gathering. Both of them are drinking, telling jokes, laughing - having fun. But not me, I'm there but it's as if I know they are not supposed to be there, I'm not having a good time at all. That's pretty much all I remember, I've never had a dream so weird, therefore I'm here to ask if any of you could give me an insight as to what this really means. Is the meaning in this dream just for me, or is there some meaning that could directly concern the female friend? Thank you for reading, hope to solve this little mystery. Edit:1 I'm not certain that the two never met, but I'm certain they didn't really know each other.

[dolphin]

Sorry about your bad luck with your family members! That sucks. The dream suggests you need to make it a point to relax and enjoy life more. Don't be a party pooper, join the fun! You're missing out! The meaning of your dream is always just for you. You're female friend which you associate with your brother is there to suggest that life is too short to be so pessimistic.

[Athanor]

Although in order to provide an accurate interpretation it would usually be best to have some additional general background information about you as well as about recent events just before the dream, the presence of a “ghost” in a dream (I.e. your deceased brother in this case) usually points to the idea, from a psychological point of view, that certain aspects of the dreamer could be “totally unconscious” and undeveloped in some way. Perhaps your late brother had a type of personality which was quite different from your own in some way and though you don’t have to emulate every aspect of it, it might possibly be useful to adopt certain parts of it. Although you feel that the dream about the bleeding tooth falling out was a premonition of his apparently untimely death, it’s possible that it came to mind in connection with his death because the image reflected an “unhealthy state” of a certain psychological characteristic of your own. This unconscious situation might have contributed somehow to the relationship with your friend coming to an end around the same time and that‘s why she appears in the dream; that is, her presence is symbolical and not about the person herself, especially since you haven‘t been in touch with her for ten years. Also, the image of a woman in the dreams of a man usually suggest that his feeling life and values are being examined in some way. In this case, you don’t think that she should be there, maybe hinting at a situation where you might feel uncomfortable with your emotions at times. It’s possible that some incident just before the dream contributed to bringing this issue “back to life” in a way, and the dream is pointing out the basics of the underlying situation. Anyway, without knowing anything much about you, this interpretation might not fit your personal circumstances very well, if at all, but if something about this way of looking at your dream seems to make sense to you, a couple of books about how to get closer to you emotions might help. For example “Nothing’s Wrong” by David Kundtz, and “Emotion: A Very Short Introduction” by Dylan Evans. And if by chance you’re basically a very quiet, inward-looking person (perhaps in contrast to your late brother), you might like the book “The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World” by Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D. In any case, please feel free to ask any questions or to make any comments you may want to about this particular way of looking at your dream.