Relationships with women

**joeyp** · 09-04-2015 01:48 AM

Hello guys, this is my first post here. I've decided to register after I had a dream that I can't get out of my head.
I kindly ask you to help me to analyze it, because I feel that it is very important for me. Like, you know, basically I have dreams every night
but only a few times a year I get the kind of dream that I know is trying to tell me something. I know this is my first post and I'm asking for help straight away but I just don't know anybody who could help me and all these dream dictionaries are just too general and this dream needs
proper interpretation. So, I'd be very grateful if any of you could check it out. It shouldn't be too long. I'll provide all background information necesary.

I'm a high school graduate. Based on my latest experiences in life, I feel that this dream is about my relationship with women. During my junior high and early high school years I used to be very good with girls. I always had a couple of girls I could fool around with, I was just being myself and it was coming to me naturally, girls liked me, everything was going smooth. But now some time ago, something happened. I don't know exactly what but it's like something inside of me changed. It happened all of a sudden, overnight. My game isn't on the same level anymore, I feel like I've lost some confidence and I don't feel as attractive as I used to. It's been a while since I've been with a girl and I miss it so lately I've been wanting to change it. Here comes the dream:

It started with me being in my room, doing some stuff on my computer. Then I realized, that I wasn't alone in the house. There was a girl with me that I know. (This is a girl that I feel is perfect for me. I've never felt that way about any other girl. And it's strange because I haven't seen her in like 2 years. We used to be close and she even broke up with her boyfriend for me but before we did anything, we had this stupid fight and we stopped talking, which I regret. I'm not the type of guy who's going crazy over a girl so I just moved on. She enters my mind from time to time but not in a sad way, rather just fond memories.) I think we might have talked for a minute and then she gave me the letter, after which she disappeared. The letter started with "Dear (my name)" and the first paragraph was something about me not being a father material. I don't know what the rest of the letter said, because I immediately started writing a reply. In real life, I think I would make a great father but of course I'm too young to seriously think about this stuff right now, and so is she. Anyway, my reply went something like this: "I disagree with you, I always put my son first, that's why I don't want to have him now, but after I'm 30, for his own good.". But it didn't sound right to me, so I kept rewriting it and changing it and throwing it out and I was very annoyed because of that. So I went to the bathroom, probably so I could focus, but it seemed like I was alone in the house anyway. Then, my cousin (a teenage girl) ran into the house screaming and laughing like a kid and I got angry because I couldn't concentrate (in real life I have a very short fuse and it's easy to make me mad, I'm working on it). So I said something like "What the fuck is going on?" and she replied out of the blue: "I hate your zodiac sign!". I said, "What is your sign?", she said "Gemini.", I said "So is mine, so basically you hate your own sign.". Then my aunt appeared out of nowhere and opened the door to the bathroom and said "Are you a Gemini too?" and when I said "Yes.", she looked at me like she didn't believe me but then she said "So am I." and gave me a high five. There was also her little 5 year old girl running around the house that sometimes appears in my dreams, probably because she's just a cute little kid and I feel kinda bad because she is always scared of me (idk why) and I'd like that to change

. (About that Gemini thing, I'd just like to say upfront that I don't hate myself or the fact that I'm a Gemini. In fact I like myself, though maybe I don't like some things that I do. Recently I met a girl who is also a Gemini and I told her that I was born on the same day as her, but actually I was born a day later (lol) but I just said that so it'd seem as we have something in common plus I was drunk, stupid I know.) So anyway, I'm trying to get back to writing that reply and as I turn around, I see the piece of paper laying on the cabinet in between two lit white candles. I had my glasses on and the lights in the bathroom were on but I still couldn't see much, the room was quite dark. For the last couple of days I had a bit of an eye pain and was kinda worried about that, so maybe it has something to do with it. But then I was interrupted again,
this time by my dad who said he's got some work for me. In real life, I've just started to look for a job. He said that he's downstairs and I should come to him, but after I hung up, he knocked on the door and my mom answered. My dad was with this ugly women with one eye, who said she needs her shirt sleeves altered. In rl my mom is a tailor, but I don't know anything about it so this job proposition was kind of strange to me, but I replied "Of course, we'll try to do everything we can". As I was saying that, I tried not to look at the women because she disgusted me, but I've noticed that she had two eyes now. Then I went to my room trying to find the letter the girl at the beginning wrote me but I couldn't find it. I said to myself in dissapointment "Was this letter thing all just a dream?" but then I reached into my pocket and there it was. I said "I knew this wasn't a dream!" but the letter seemed all crumbled and torned up like it was in my pocket for years. I could still read it though. On the back side of it, was a strange combination of numbers like "0101010111010101010" and on the other side instead of me, it was addressed to my friend! Deep inside I felt like she meant it for me but just made a mistake. Then my mom came into the room and said, "What have you got there?" and I said "It's nothing, just a piece of paper." and I put it back in my pocket and then I woke up.

(I should probably give you a bit of background information. This friend of mine is a guy I used to hang out a lot back when "my game was still on point". Then we haven't seen each other for a while and recently we hung out again. When we hung out I felt awkward, because back in the days it was me who had the girls and I was always playing around with them while he was alone, didn't have anybody and just stood there. But now
it was him who had a girl all over him and I didn't have anyone. I wasn't jealous, because I'm not that type of guy. I felt like he deserved it because he's a good guy, I just wished I had a girl of my own.)

Now is this dream actually trying to tell me something, pointing out to something that needs to be changed,
or is it just my mind going over my recent emotions and experiences? I admire you if you managed to read it all and it'd be great to get a response.
Sorry if the writing is a bit shaky, English is not my 1st language. Good night

**Athanor** · 09-05-2015 05:03 PM

It looks like you’re right that the dream is about your relationships with women. Because you’re just starting out in life, it’s important that you make sure that you get this part of your life right. This is shown by the fact you can’t get the dream out of your head and know it’s one that should be interpreted.

Girls in the dreams of guys most often symbolize emotions and values. In this case, a girl that you really believed was your soul mate delivers a harsh message, that you’re not father material.

This is hard to take and you want to deny her statement by trying over and over to write her a letter but this doesn’t work, meaning that, from the dream’s point of view, deep down you probably can’t really deny what she says.

This is then shown by the arrival of your teenage cousin who is acting like a wild kid. This makes you very mad.

Since girls in dreams can accurately symbolize the level of a guy’s development about being able to handle emotions and values, the dream seems to be saying that maybe you act like a “young crazy girl” sometimes with your feelings.

For example, you got angry with the real girl and spoiled the relationship. Also, you recently lied for some reason to a girl and you were also drunk, showing that maybe something is bothering you deep down which is hard to look at.

It looks like all this is related with your sign Gemini because it’s also mentioned in connection with your cousin and your aunt, and it was partly involved with your lie to the girl since it was about your birthdate and hers.

There are a lot of astrology ideas connected with the Gemini twins, but the basic idea could be that there’s a kind of “split” or “division” or “opposite” connected with them inside you.

For example, you were good with girls and got along with them before but underneath, it looks like you were “not the type to go crazy over a girl”, maybe showing that your values about relationships don’t go very deep and you don’t really want a long term relationship like you’d have to have if you were a father.

So the “good” twin of the Gemini pair worked well for a while but maybe the “distance” between it and the other “bad” twin who really didn’t care about the girls became too big. That is, somehow you let in less and less the idea that you really didn’t care about a girl but mostly only about the physical side of things and the status that the relationships got you in the eyes of others.

If so, this might have caused some unseen guilt and shame for example (like not being able to “see” in the bathroom) and this could have led to suddenly being “off your game” because you weren’t aware of this bad side enough, so the unseen guilt took over and shut down your ability to feel confident around girls for instance.

In the dream, your father brings home “some work for you”, that is, the ugly woman with one eye. She’s hard to look at but because you do, she then has two eyes.

So maybe this means you have to “look” at your feelings and values which have a few problems at this time so that you can get back to the main problem that was shown in the girl’s letter which you “lost”.

The odd numbers look like computer coding, so maybe this means you tend to “think” about things too much and don’t let in your emotions enough such as frustration, joy, anger, kindness etc. This might be why your little niece is somehow afraid of you because the emotions kind of pile up inside you, and maybe she somehow senses in a child’s instinctive way how angry you are underneath.

The letter is for you but has your friend’s name on it maybe because he’s a lot like you and doesn’t have a good level of development in his feelings for people even though he’s “successful” now in having a girl.

Underneath, this probably does make you feel very jealous and angry even though you don’t see that, and not letting this in might cause an angry blow-up later even about something that’s unrelated.

So it’s good you’ve been working at your anger because it looks like your dream is trying to help you more by showing you more clearly what’s going on inside you.

Anyway, I hope these ideas haven’t been too confusing and that they can help in some way.