The woman in pink

[Hopeislost]

Im new to this site so i hope everyone can bare with me in case i might have not wrote something down correct. So here is what my problem is, I have a reoccuring dream of this woman, now at times her hair maybe be different like short one time and long another, but still the same woman, the sMe thing with her clothes, they might be different, but the color is always the same, its a light pink. Everytime i have a dream she is there, but in mostly social places maybe at a bar or a party but she is there, there is always a mutual attraction to each other but she always approaches me. Sometimes we sit, hold hands and some time we just cuddle, but nothing sexual. She is very soft spoken and i always have this comforting feeling when she is near. The dream i had last night i was a social event sitting down at a bench. I was by myself just watching everyone go about their business, dancing socializing and what not. As it got later people started to leave and she approached me, sat down next to me we started to talk, i dont remember much of the conversation but i do remembering hearing her say come on lets go, then she grabbed my hand and we stood up to leave, as we followed everyone else out, i woke up from dream. What i do know is that when she is around me i have a peacefull feeling and feel a comfort come over me, i have never met this woman in real life, but she is about the same age as i am 38. There is always a connection between us, and we are always bound to find each other, i dont know if she is my soul mate, or if she is someone i am suppose to meet or not, but for right now, i would love to meet her, i wonder if i am a person in her dreams if she even exists. Personely i feel like this is a cruel joke to me, because someone like this can not be true or real. There is such a commitment between the two of us that when we meet in my dreams everything around seems to disappear and it becomes just us. I wish either i finally meet this person or for my dreams to stop. Through out the day she crosses my mind and i try to think can this really be a true person or just a figment of my imagination. Iether way i need answers to how to deal with this dream, and if she is real where do i go or how do i meet her? Or do i wait for her to find me? I hate these dreams because of the false reality it portrays. I truley believe that this kind of person does not exist, i have never met anyone who could be dedicated to one another like it is in my dreams, i guess thats why they call it "dreams". Well if anyone can help me i greatly appreciate it. And let me know if there is anything realivant to the dream you might need to know. Thank you in advance

[Athanor]

It’s very natural for us to think of people we see in our dreams as being real and sometimes they are. But mostly they represent some part of ourselves. For example, a girl in the dreams of a guy generally symbolizes his feeling life that’s made up of emotions and values etc. Since you keep having the same basic dream, maybe it’s trying to advise you to get closer to your own emotions for example. The fact that she’s always in pink helps to support this idea because pink or red usually symbolizes our emotions and values. Lots of times, guys aren’t really very aware of them and because in your dreams, the girl is always friendly and you feel comforted when she’s around, the idea is probably that paying more attention to your feelings would make you feel better in the long run. In this way, the girl is “real” because a relationship with this inner part of yourself would mean a lot to you and could help in relating to outer women more easily. If these ideas seem to fit your personal situation in some way, you might like to read a couple of books which I often recommend titled “Emotion: A Very Short Introduction” by Dylan Evans and “Nothing's Wrong: A Man's Guide to Managing His Feelings” by David Kundtz. If you think over these ideas and maybe read the books, and they seem to make sense in your own circumstances, then the dreams should stop happening although there’s nothing really unpleasant and unhelpful about them. Instead, they might just change to help to show how bit by bit you’re managing to learn new things about your emotions etc. Anyway without knowing anything much about you, these ideas might not fit very well, but I hope they can be helpful in some way.

[Hopeislost]

I really appreciate your thoughts on this. For the most part you have hit the nail on the head. I was always told that the emotional side to me has always been pretty hidden, but if what your saying about the woman in my dreams is true, over the last few months i have been through alot of heart ships and my emotions whether i try to keep them inside have started to leak out. So maybe your right, about this woman representing some truth to this. But i cant help wonder to my curiousity side is this in some way, a message to someone i may meet along this journey? She always appears in my dreams, and its weird at times i look for that moment that she may appear in my dreams so that i could actually get a nice rest. There is always comfort when she is there, to bad she may be just a dream. I want to thank you again for looking into this for me.