My Boyfriend's Father is an Evil Wizard

[Tenebra]

Okay, I'll start off by talking about myself. I'm a female college student, in my senior year, not currently in a relationship, with a keen interest in fantasy and rolepalying (DnD in particular) and a favorite hold in Dragonlance. I'm, by disposition and nature, a fairly dark person and regard intellect as a virtue. I don't remember most of the beginning of the dream. I remember bits and pieces of being in a complex that I believe is the hallways of a university (I don't believe it's my university because the halls are generally not so bright as these). I was walking with people discussing something, but I don't remember what. There's another gap of what I remember until I am in what appears to be the front yard of the house I live in in my hometown (I did grow up there for the large part, but I still live there between semesters), except that it is larger in proportion, the vegetation is overall better and thicker, and most neighboring structures are either not in sight or replaced with older-style buildings (largely stone or hearty wood; almost middle-aged). The road I believe is either not there or replaced with stone/brick road. It is twilight, and there is a man by one of the trees. He looks like a mix between Wagnard from Record of Lodoss War and Sarek from Star Trek, and his voice is that of David Warner (in fact, he has a very Ra's al Ghul feel to him). He wears an elaborate wizard robe with a lot of red and I believe some black. In the dream, I understand him to be the father of the guy who I understand that I am dating in the dream, and this guy I am dating is Raistlin Majere, to make things a little stranger. The father is reading a parchment letter and seems troubled, so I ask what's happened. It turns out that his son will not be accepted to this sort of Dark Magician's Brotherhood (an institution that I understand in the dream as prestigious and useful for furthering your career as a dark mage), for two reasons. The first, I've forgotten, but it was a fairly legitimate reason that I believe had to do with Raistlin's disposition or quickly-growing abilities. The other was that Raistlin was being found as attractive by women (an odd disqualification) and they didn't want that somehow affecting their image. The father has been part of this organization for years, being an evil mage himself, and he dislikes the idea of his son being excluded. In the dream, I feel very high respect for him, and I am quite in love with his son. As he explains the situation to me, we go towards the side/back of the house, by some wooden fence and a wall on a hill, and we've stopped at the herb garden on that hill. I make myself seem tentative and voice that I might need to leave with this revelation. The father, understandably, seems shocked, and asks if I'm leaving his son because he's lost prestige/opportunity. I say of course not, but explain to him that the second reason might have come partially because of me, since I had voiced in passing how I admired his son in a book I had (apparently) written. This was all actually something of an act (the tentativeness and the suggestion of leaving) on my part, to make sure that the father understood the circumstances but still enjoyed the idea of me being with his son. Which he did, because he quickly reassures me that there's nothing to worry about and more or less explains to me how much he likes me being in the family, more or less, and how well its done for his son. He does hug me, and its a very warm and comfortable family moment, despite that we're a family of evil, cold, calculating warpers of the natural fabric, and we go into the back yard, talking. I draw a blank between this and the next thing I remember. The next thing, I'm walking into the back yard again, but this time it looks much more like what my yard normally looks like, and I'm with a college friend. This friend is one that I hang out with occasionally, and she insists in real life that I am one of her favorite people despite the fact that I have a cruel disposition. I had been drinking, apparently, and I begin dancing with her like a hornpipe or a jig in the backyard, in fact, we separate into another two people and they also dance. Some more people from college and a few of my high school friends that I still talk to come into the back yard, all intending to dance. One girl has brought a hardwood dresser with her that she intends to dance with. There is music playing, and most of the people that appear are also musicians/have music majors (I am a music major as well). What really strikes me about the dream is my date and his father. The father seemed very significant to me, perhaps since I respected him, and the first thing I did when I woke up was try to place his voice since it sounded like a very specific voice actor to my head (I stayed up the rest of the night trying to find him, and eventually did). And my date, Raistlin Majere, although I don't remember it, I'm fairly certain there were parts that I was with him in the dream, and I think his brother Caramon was at least understood to exist. But another note on Raistlin as my date: this is the third time I've had a dream where I was dating him. In all of these dreams, this is an important point, but it is not the focus. Well, that should sure as hell be enough info for you guys. Thoughts?

[unclesirbob]

Well its a very interesting dream as you give lots of good background information. The people in dreams say a lot about who and what we are. This guy you date in the dream is important. He symbolises how you relate to your music course. It shows how you define yourself. He is slightly evil and controlling ... you are dating him... that shows that you are actively FLIRTING with everything that he stands for. Its showing your inner personality.. very intellectual and slightly cold. Right now thats not bad as nothing particularly bad is happening Pesonally I view dreams very much in the present. Dreams actually signify our thoughts and they actually can be traced back. The timespan of most dreams is usually the day before. Its the first time that we can review what has just happened. Dreams are linkd to many vital brain processes which help us reorder memories and integrate new thoughts into long term memory. So if he appears in your dream like this then this part of your personality has been especially active at around this time. It shows you exploring this side. If what happens is good then generally this would show that you are positively exploring this side of your personality. If what happens is bad then that shows how you are relating badly to this side. That maybe its pointing to bad feelings right now in general. If this guy has ben dating you in a dream think back to the previous day. Think about those little discussions inside your head.. How they included a wish to be more like him. How you were telling yourself to act in such and such a way. How you wanted to be defined in a particular way ... Try to find the specific trigger. the specific set of conscious thoughts which link to this specific dream ------------------------ Freud often used to connect dreams to fantasies. That is a rather negative way to look at dreams. In some cases the fantasies that we have get out of control and bear no relation to reality. In that case your dream may bring you back down to earth and will represent ways in which your fantasies are unrealistic. But in many cases its best to use the term motivating rather than fantasy. So for example if wake up with a highly positive dream where you are in your workplace and getting things done then you could see this dream as evidence of your own positive outlook. In real life look for signs of such the positive outlook. You may have been thinking about clearing away past failures or trying to connect and communicate better with people. In what ways did you lie awake thinking about the day to come and how things will be getting better soon. Try understanding dreams by using the following links http://www.unclesirbobby.org.uk/dreamessayhowtopost.php Interpreting dreams http://www.unclesirbobby.org.uk/dreamessayhowto.php Triggers for dreams http://www.unclesirbobby.org.uk/dreamessay.php Dream dictionary

[Tenebra]

Hmm, I see. Perhaps it might also be to some extent a show of acceptance of those qualities that I might have in common with the character. I say this partially because you used the word "flirting" with everything about him, but I don't recall ever actively "flirting" in any dream he'd occurred in. The feeling is more like a comfortable, long relationship rather than a new and "passionate" one; more passive. It's also the fact that its always sort of a point rather than a purpose in the dreams, like its just understood. Now that it's accepted, it can be put aside. But I'm not entirely sure. I also partially take this from the inclusion of my friend in the dream who claims me as a favorite person even though I'm cold. She claims often that she likes that quality in me because it allows me to be brutally honest. But what really intrigues me is the focal point, his father (who is nothing like his father in the books, but perhaps that isn't important). If Raistlin symbolizes the wish to have qualities like his, or my wish to excell in music as he excells in magic in the books, then what does his father signify? The wish to gain notoriety by those I respect within the fields? That interpretation gets fuzzy in my head, especially if he was concerned about his own son's notoriety (or perhaps that fact confirms it). And my thoughts just end up tripping all over themselves if I attempt to figure out what he represents if Raistlin represents my acceptance with my own personality.

[unclesirbob]

Well I do not think that the dream is about accepting such qualities. In the dream you are who you are... you are not judging yourself. Dreams to me show that you may need an outlet for such emotions... that you think intensely about life... Dreams just clarify what is. They do not so much link to advice... they merely symbolise our thouights. Sometimes we think and come to some strong conclusion. Other times we think and merely try to understand what is happening. I think here the dream just shows you taking on this persona.. exploring it. Its easy to over interpret dreams. I am sure that many symbols have very complex meanings. Yet we cannot see inside the mind and can only specilate. If we speculate too much then things can seem silly... http://www.unclesirbobby.org.uk/dreamessayhowtopost.php