Sad Dream

[purple raevyn]

every once in a looooong while i dream about this guy i used to date. i havent seen or spoken to him since he went back to japan 7 years ago. last week i dreamt about him again. i dont remember much, but i saw him in the distance. it was a lightly wooded area and he was standing by a pond. he was sad and then i became sad as well. i think i started walking toward him but then i woke up ( in the dream). i was laying on the floor, still feeling sad, and in my left hand was a small , round box, kinda like a makeup compact, with a hinged lid. it was white ceramic or porcelain and it was molded with an allover flower motif. it was a bit dingy though. i opened it and closed it again, and thought of him. '' did he die?'' i thought to myself. apparently, though, the box was something he had given me, back when we were together, but only in the dream. in real life, he had never given me such a box, or anything similar. i read that white flowers in a dream symbolize grief or sad news or something like that, but does it have to be real flowers? does a flower motif done in white ceramic count? i felt sad the whole morning after i woke up from that dream. does it mean anything?

[John Updike]

I'm guessing it just means you have emotions for this guy from long ago, that you haven't faced yet. You're still uncertain about how you feel for him and what role he played in your life as a whole.

[Inspirer]

Wow, if you're Japanese I'm guessing the white represents grief. I have wondered about the possibility of ethnic variations affecting the meaning of dreams, but haven't seen any clue of it until now. Ok, in the beginning you're really dreaming about having a dream. This would mean what you think when you don't know or observe. The lightly wooded area I was never sure but probably about personal growth outside society. The pond is an isolated emotion that is always there. A real person in your dream will represent not exactly himself but maybe your image of him, or your feelings or relationship with him, or his character qualities. With an exboyfriend I'm guessing it's your emtions for him, and that there is sadness about it. To dream about waking up means you gained new awareness. There's what you used to think and now there's what you see. But to be lying on the floor may mean a lowness, or self neglect. In your left hand (feminine side) you hold that make up box. It is about how you make up your face (your image toward others.) You still feel sad and are wondering "did he die?" most likely feeling out of love with him and sad about it. Conclusion: (Partly because of your culture) You may have a tendency to expect first love to be forever, and it wasn't. You believe that you are suppose to stay with your first boyfriend, marry him, and stay with him forever. It is this disillusionment that is troubling you once in a looong while. Sometimes you fall for old romantic views of life, then you find out how it didn't pan out for yourself, then dream about waking up on the floor. Hope this helps.

[purple raevyn]

well... kind of. except im not japanese. just him. im american. the box was more like a small trinket box. it wasnt for makeup. it kinda reminds me of those decorative Limoges type boxes. and he wasnt my first love. however, he was the only nice guy, id ever been with. thus i have no ill feelings toward him, even though i left him. i will always love him in a way, but no longer in the romantic sense. we just werent right for each other. looking back , though, i think he may have been suffering a bit of depression, maybe cuz he'd been away from home for so long- he'd been in america for maybe 5 yrs. it would seem like destiny that we came together, as it was thru a couple of crazy coincidences that we did so. you'd have thought that it meant we were meant for each other, but it was not so. we broke up 9 months later.

[Leo Volont]

every once in a looooong while i dream about this guy i used to date. i havent seen or spoken to him since he went back to japan 7 years ago. last week i dreamt about him again. i dont remember much, but i saw him in the distance. it was a lightly wooded area and he was standing by a pond. he was sad and then i became sad as well. i think i started walking toward him but then i woke up ( in the dream). i was laying on the floor, still feeling sad, and in my left hand was a small , round box, kinda like a makeup compact, with a hinged lid. it was white ceramic or porcelain and it was molded with an allover flower motif. it was a bit dingy though. i opened it and closed it again, and thought of him. '' did he die?'' i thought to myself. apparently, though, the box was something he had given me, back when we were together, but only in the dream. in real life, he had never given me such a box, or anything similar. i read that white flowers in a dream symbolize grief or sad news or something like that, but does it have to be real flowers? does a flower motif done in white ceramic count? i felt sad the whole morning after i woke up from that dream. does it mean anything? [/b] Dear Raven, No, you don't have to overwork the flower angle. What you have is a small memento from an old lover. It may mean that he still thinks of you, and that the box represents the precious memories he still keeps of you. I think it is a sweet dream... sad and sweet. But nothing else need be made of it. I often have pleasant but solemn memories of my old loves -- joy of the memory mixed with regret that time had moved on. Probably these thoughts might enter into the ether to make their way into their dreams, maybe allowing them to receive some small momento from me. But it doesn't mean I will swim any oceans or climb any mountains to get back to them, or even look in a phone book to give them a call. Memories are sweet, but what is past is past.

[purple raevyn]

yeah i know i dug this thread out of the grave, but i couldnt get back to y'all on it for such a long time. a few weeks after i had the above dream, i had another one about him. Masa was his name. there was a horrible carwreck- i didnt witness, nor did i see the scene of the accident- just i knew what had happened. 2 women were in the car with him-i knew that the elder was the mother of the younger. i didnt actually see the daughter, i just knew she was there, and that she had died. what i did see was the mother in the ambulance looking out the window- it was nighttime and raining quite heavily. her right eye had been injured. i also noted she was blond (i knew her daughter was also blonde) i felt that the daughter was either his wife or lover or somebody very close to Masa in some way. then i saw Masa. he was sitting on the floor in the ER. i was next to him, comforting him. he wasnt wearing a shirt, and blood was running from his head all down his back. a couple of his teeth were on the floor.i think he was crying. i felt depressed for a couple weeks after i had that dream. and interestingly enough-cruelly even- during those days that followed that dream, i was in the car and we stopped behind a large truck at a stoplight. i looked up and saw his name painted in large letters on the back of it. in reality i guess it was the name of some company, but either way it was still HIS name. so what do you guys make of this?