Dream about Her

[I'm Only Sleeping]

Hey thar, this is my first post. The following dream happened to me various months ago, but as I only joined this forum today, I'd still like to have it interpreted Differences between now and back when: I've already talked to the girl. It was a huge blow. Not going into detail here. <_< OK, in real life, I've totally and absolutely fallen in love with that girl that I'm seeing little more than 5 minutes a week (on the train). She knows nothing about me. I don't know ANYTHING about Her either (what Her parents are like, whether She has a cat, whether She has a name). Everything thought up by my brain. Here some info about me for you... now you know more about me than her Me = male, 16, living in Germany (please excuse bad grammar and/or vocabulary), going to something comparable to an American sixth form college. I'd think myself to be quite sentimental and often melancholy, not seeing the world the way that others of my age do. No, I'm not gay at the nearest (as you should know by now xD). I love music, I live for music, music is my life. I'm a bassist in my school's bigband (for three weeks now xD), and I've had lessons for almost a year. I'd consider myself to be quite good I compose other stuff as well. Currently, I'm working on my first sonata. I listen mostly to Damon Albarn's music, the Chili Peppers' pre-Arcadium stuff, the White Stripes and the Beatles. I have a quite weird kind of humour. For reference, watch this movie, it quite hits the nail on the head xD 'Nuff about me, I sense that you came to this thread to read my dream So this is how it went: In my dream, She (I don't know her actual name) was my girlfriend. We were lying side by side in my bed (with clothes of course!). We were about to kiss, but then we heard my brother coming upstairs where my room is, and I asked Her to hide, so She hid under my bed (somehow, I didn't want my family to know that I had a girlfriend). "Why now? Just why now?", I said twice. I then realized that She might think that what I meant to say was "why now, so few seconds before I've got Her as far as having sex with me?", which of course I didn't mean like that. I really hoped that She still liked me. I asked Her "can't we go to your house?", and She took her mobile phone and rang Her dad. I brought Her out of the house without being seen, and She went home. Later on, Her dad came with his car and rang our doorbell. I opened the window and he said something that I couldn't understand, so I asked him to repeat what he had said. "I'm searching for J&#252;rgen Maier (my dad), or Philipp Maier (my name)..." -- "I am Philipp Maier", I said, and he was like, "oh, that's fine, I'm Her [sic] dad, come with me", and I thought "hey, She does still like me^^". Her dad was talking to my dad [actually he doesn't live at home anymore] while I went downstairs, and they were all "cool, my daughter is your kid's girlfriend", vice versa and so on XD He then took me to the place where She lived, just so I knew where. Afterwards, I walked home again XD Even later, I got a call by Her dad and he said "we've changed the plan, take a sleeping bag with you", and I was like "cool, I'll stay overnight!", so I packed my backpack and off I marched. On the way I was thinking "Is that a dream? I have no idea how I've become Her boyfriend. But then, all this is way too real to be a dream" ( I hadn't heard about lucid dreaming yet.) After like 15 minutes, I came near the area where She lived (IRL, the area is in another town), and suddenly it was dark night (although it was quarter to 9AM). I didn't find the house, but I came near a meadow, and my sister was waiting there, observing the area I asked her where the house was and she told me in which direction to go. Off I went, and entered a house... but it was not Hers. In fact, it was my grandmother's neighbour's house (what could that mean? o_O), that IRL is elsewhere in the town. When I opened a door, some random 30- or 40-year old woman said "You could have knocked!" Then, my granny's neighbour (a 60- or 70-year old woman) said something similar, but more politely. I went through the backdoor and found myself near the meadow and near my sister again. She lighted a match, but then a small tree caught fire. First, it only burnt like a candle, but soon enough, the whole tree caught fire. I remember that the grass was very dry, so I feared that the whole meadow would catch fire. It didn't, but all the small trees on it, and the really small heaps of leaves that were also there. At least, it was now bright enough so that I was able to see where Her house was I was eating a pretzel that I'd had in my rucksack and entered the house. I saw that Her parents (who sat on the table) had prepared breakfast (it looked like spaghetti with tomato sauce, but it was something sweet...), and the situation was all awkward. I finished on my pretzel, and that's when She entered the room. We ate (it was 3 minutes past 9AM, and finally the sun was rising). Her parents (mostly her dad) asked me some questions, but nothing like "will you be nice to our daughter", just everyday questions. I heard a cat mewing, and I asked "Can your cat come in and go out as he likes or don't you have a doggy door where he can come in?" I think he said "Yes, he can". Then I saw that cat rampage in the garden behind the windows, because the strings of the clothesline were hanging really deep, and he sometimes gut stuck and looked like he was going to die (it looked REALLY terrible, in real life I guess he WOULD have been dead), but he was very skillful. We were all laughing, then I made some funny comment about him, whereupon Her mum let off a really shrill laugh, and thus the dream ended One less important fact: Sometimes, the dream was a bit like a TV movie in which everyone spoke English. I heard everything in German, though, like synchronized. I know that because sometimes, I heard myself saying some English words which everyone understood. That's just happened once or twice within the dream, so... Another fact: Our neighbours' cat died a few days before that dream, which may explain the end. Thanks for any interpretations!

[Burned up]

IOD, you're account is very long and looks very useful but I haven't really read it yet. But I'll offer you just one thought. When dreaming of feeling comfortable/in love/loved with a person usually of the opposite sex then it's easy to get carried away into thinking we're having dreams about that person. What's actually happening is that we're dreaming about a part of ourselves that's awakened by thoughts of this other person. Usually feelings like this are very strong and people (incl me) report that they linger sometimes for days at a time. Being with someone with whom we feel comfortable helps to fill that void. Being able to integrate that lost part of us into our life is much harder and maybe the yearning never really goes away. Anyway, with that in mind, what is your dream telling you about what you're looking for? Bu

[I'm Only Sleeping]

I don't know. On the one hand, what you say seems reasonable because I know nothing about her, so it can't have been her in the dream really. But on the other, if that was a dream-me, does that sort of mean that I can only love people that are like myself? What about "contrasts attract each other"? I don't really know what to make of what you said... thanks anyway

[Burned up]

Not "like yourself". We look for someone to complement ourself. Hence people say "s/he makes me feel whole" etc. But that means looking for answers in other people, which isn't really fair to them!!! Sooooooooo.....I believe that dreams where we meet someone with whom we feel really close are showing us our feelings of yearning for our "missing bit". I think it's misleading to interpret these in terms of specific people in the waking world. I'm just rambling... Bu

[I'm Only Sleeping]

I think I get it now. So this would mean that this whole dream didn't mean anything except that I'm in search for my special someone? Amazing, I knew this before xD Thanks again

[Burned up]

I think that's the main theme, yes. But there are lots of other meanings ... And it was my pleasure! Bu

[I'm Only Sleeping]

Sooo, anyone else who'd like to take any guesses on further meanings?

[Vision]

I'd like to help, but unfortunately I don't really like to interpret dreams from the past as they are usually no longer relevant unless they are recurring. Sometimes people tell me they had a dream when they were 12 and what did it mean. Well honestly if they are now 27 all I can tell them is, it's history. Tell me a new one that matters now.