Possible big change coming in my relationship?

[videogamer99]

This is what in my dream has meaning and what makes me think of a change happening in our relationship. Normal=dream Bold= IMPORTANT Italic= My interpertation PS: Mike is one of my best friends, and Kara is my best friend and ex-gf My GF and I go do our normal daily things.. We get a ride to the mall. We do a lot of the samethings everyday and we go to the mall occasionally. We arrive at an old woman's house. It is a large place that is the mall but it is scary looking. There is a giant bathroom from some sort of horror movie. It is something weird but we go in anyway. My GF dies in said bathroom. I am saddened Possible meaning a change in the relationship. Maybe a break up will occur. I did not see the death so I may have killed her and symbolically broke up with her I go to a McDonalds. Kara and her family are in a trailer there. Mike is at McDonalds too. I tell her what happened. We start kissing We have dated in the past and it didnt work since we were such good friends She is leaving. I go with her. We dont leave Possible a fear of change. We are stuck in a small town being attacked by aliens. There are ships landing and doing random things. One alien is disguised as a tiger A problem that is occurring that we need to overcome? The tiger is read and where the people stand, I can read something: Two say Heart: one in the head and one in the chest The other says Zelda: towards the stomache I think the two hearts means that I love two different people. My mind saying one thing and my head saying another? I also play games which is where Zelda comes from I make a remark about having a dog named Zelda. The tiger says, "You had a dog named Zelda and you're family still lives?" The tiger runs forward and becomes a flame Posible the problem becoming more scary and dangerous Me and Kara as well as a few other run inside. We are safe there. I hugged Kara. We are safe and the aliens leave Possible happiness from her being safe and with me when I needed her. A motivation for safety? Me, Kara, and Mike go to play a video game We all usually do so when we hang out. Another friend is working was working. He gave me a store belt so I could seem to work there and take whatever I wanted. Mike was doing the same thing Possible a friend helping me with my problems and doing what he can to help Me and Kara were dating for awhile Possible me having my feelings reunited. I did at one point love her I think We were in our hotel in the same town Back to the fear of change Flashback to events of dream Just happened to remember what happened So I am thinking this dream means this. My relationship with my current Girl Friend is going to go through a change soon that will make us break up. At this point I will go back to my ex-GF whom I may still have feelings for and who is my best friend who told me that she would date me yet again because she thinks it would work out good between us. I think it also means that I have conflicting love interests as well as friends who will help me on the way and be there for me. I am afraid that something may happen because I love my GF to death and would hate to hurt her but if my dream has ay say in the future, I will be sad and happy either way. Also, I woke up from the dream and was happy and liked the entire aspect except for my GF dying and the aliens weren't cool either. So, what can you interpret?

[Burned up]

Hello vg99 I wouldn't normally go along with any hypothesis that suggests dreams are a predictor of change. But you make a good case. I am especially interested that you couldn't date Kara because you were such good friends. Sounds like you want a not-so-good friend for dating and I dare say sex. Perhaps it's this conflict that you're dreaming about? Kara seems to be closer to your construct of the perfect/dream woman as it's her not your gf that takes the form of your DC lover. Stepping outside of the world of dream interpretation for a moment, I would suggest that you're right about your meanings and that you'll probably find it easier in the long run to make an effort with Kara than to search possibly all your life for someone else who you can be as close to. Your relationship may be a little different to the cultural norms, though. But that's my feelings from what you have said. As far as the dream goes, you have been shown what your construct of a dream woman is, not the real person. Back to the dream, the alien scene seems out of kilter with the rest of the dream. Sounds like you're in a work that you can't control and that there are people/thoughts/parts of your own psyche that you don't understand and appear threatening and destructive. I find it useful to look for contrasts in dreams. You have friends and aliens in the dream, and that's probably how you rationalise the world (i.e. not much in between). Wondering also to what extent your affinity to videogames invites dreams like this.

[videogamer99]

Hello vg99 I wouldn't normally go along with any hypothesis that suggests dreams are a predictor of change. But you make a good case. I am especially interested that you couldn't date Kara because you were such good friends. Sounds like you want a not-so-good friend for dating and I dare say sex. Perhaps it's this conflict that you're dreaming about? Kara seems to be closer to your construct of the perfect/dream woman as it's her not your gf that takes the form of your DC lover. Stepping outside of the world of dream interpretation for a moment, I would suggest that you're right about your meanings and that you'll probably find it easier in the long run to make an effort with Kara than to search possibly all your life for someone else who you can be as close to. Your relationship may be a little different to the cultural norms, though. But that's my feelings from what you have said. As far as the dream goes, you have been shown what your construct of a dream woman is, not the real person. Back to the dream, the alien scene seems out of kilter with the rest of the dream. Sounds like you're in a work that you can't control and that there are people/thoughts/parts of your own psyche that you don't understand and appear threatening and destructive. I find it useful to look for contrasts in dreams. You have friends and aliens in the dream, and that's probably how you rationalise the world (i.e. not much in between). Wondering also to what extent your affinity to videogames invites dreams like this. Thanks for the input. Well, videogames have always been a big part of my life. Ever since I was about 3 years old I was playing them. I am currently 16. I do not know if I still have feelings for Kara or not though. I have known her for about 11 years. Ever since about 6th grade (we met in 1st and we are in 11th) I had a crush on her but never asked her out due to the risk of losing our friendship. In 9th grade we tried dating. It lasted about 1 month and just didnt work in the long run. I had feelings for her up to about a year ago. That is when I told her my complete feelings for her. After telling her what I did, she said that we should date again because she thinks that we can work out. The problem is she was dating someone at the time. Over the summer I met my current girlfriend and she broke up with the person she was dating in November. She then went on to date another person whom she broke up with last Friday. I had this dream on Saturday night. That might hold correlation to something. I have had a few other meaningful dreams in the past. The first was around 3 or 4 years ago in which we had sex and it was an odd feeling from that dream but I eventually had another similar dream with a much less odd feeling afterwards. I currently do not know how I feel about what but I do know that after having this dream I keep thinking and am starting to doubt my current relationship even though I loved it so much before. The alien part may be my feelings of other people. Possible a fear of meeting new people or just a way of expressing people whom may not be on the friendliest of terms with me. I do think that there are many different things that can come of this dream and I hope that something positive comes from it.

[Burned up]

Thanks for the input. Well, videogames have always been a big part of my life. Ever since I was about 3 years old I was playing them. I am currently 16. I do not know if I still have feelings for Kara or not though. I have known her for about 11 years. Ever since about 6th grade (we met in 1st and we are in 11th) I had a crush on her but never asked her out due to the risk of losing our friendship. In 9th grade we tried dating. It lasted about 1 month and just didnt work in the long run. I had feelings for her up to about a year ago. That is when I told her my complete feelings for her. After telling her what I did, she said that we should date again because she thinks that we can work out. The problem is she was dating someone at the time. Over the summer I met my current girlfriend and she broke up with the person she was dating in November. She then went on to date another person whom she broke up with last Friday. I had this dream on Saturday night. That might hold correlation to something. Like you say, the timing stacks up. But remember the Kara in your dreams isn't the real one, "she"'s a person you've created. But knowing she's available and the feelings that evokes for you does seem like a cause for the dream. I have had a few other meaningful dreams in the past. The first was around 3 or 4 years ago in which we had sex and it was an odd feeling from that dream but I eventually had another similar dream with a much less odd feeling afterwards. I currently do not know how I feel about what but I do know that after having this dream I keep thinking and am starting to doubt my current relationship even though I loved it so much before. That can't be easy. Torn between two special people. But don't throw her away because of one dream. Your feelings will evolve in their own time. You'll doubtless have more dreams and feelings will emerge from other experiences too. The dream was about you, remember, not about any person in particular. You can feel like that with anyone or no-one. The alien part may be my feelings of other people. Possible a fear of meeting new people or just a way of expressing people whom may not be on the friendliest of terms with me. I do think that there are many different things that can come of this dream and I hope that something positive comes from it. Yes it does sound like that. I think "positive" can be a difficult concept to apply to changes in life. But I do believe that by allowing ourselves to experience the emotions in dreams, remembering that their ours not the fault (or gift) of anyone else, helps us to cope with people in real life. Best of luck with your love life. Sounds like you're taking your feelings seriously.

[videogamer99]

Like you say, the timing stacks up. But remember the Kara in your dreams isn't the real one, "she"'s a person you've created. But knowing she's available and the feelings that evokes for you does seem like a cause for the dream. The thing is that, although the people werent real, they seemed very similar to their real counterparts. Kara acted, sounded, and did everything that real Kara would normally do. I think that most everyone else were the same as well. That can't be easy. Torn between two special people. But don't throw her away because of one dream. Your feelings will evolve in their own time. You'll doubtless have more dreams and feelings will emerge from other experiences too. The dream was about you, remember, not about any person in particular. You can feel like that with anyone or no-one. I dont know. There was a big emphasis of Kara in the entire dream after my GF died. Seemed like we were both the main characters of the dream. She played a more important role than I in many cases. Yes it does sound like that. I think "positive" can be a difficult concept to apply to changes in life. But I do believe that by allowing ourselves to experience the emotions in dreams, remembering that their ours not the fault (or gift) of anyone else, helps us to cope with people in real life. Best of luck with your love life. Sounds like you're taking your feelings seriously. I think that if there is a change for the better than it will be positive. Thanks for the luck. I do take it seriously. It is important. Thanks for all the advice

[unclesirbob]

Well I have interpreted thosands of dreams. But really if you have knowledge of the basic techniqus then really you are best placed to see what the dream means. You seem to have done an admirable job. Its really about matching upo your dream with reality. Seeing what new insights you have into your emotions and situations. I don't think I would be able to improve on what you have said ------------------------ In order to understand dreams you need to understand neural networks. Neural networks are how the brain stores important information. The dream mind connects to something happening in your life by comparing it to something esle that has previously happened. Inreal life you may feel tired. So a dream connects to that event by comparing it to an event where you felt the same sensations. So your dream mind is saying "I felt as tired as I did when I was moving house". These pages are especially helpful in showing you how to interpret dreams http://www.unclesirbobby.org.uk/dreamessayhowtopost.php Interpreting dreams http://www.unclesirbobby.org.uk/dreamessayhowto.php Triggers for dreams http://www.unclesirbobby.org.uk/dreamessay.php Dream dictionary ------------- http://www.scarboroughphotos.org.uk/...s/surfcity.php

[Burned up]

The thing is that, although the people werent real, they seemed very similar to their real counterparts. Kara acted, sounded, and did everything that real Kara would normally do. I think that most everyone else were the same as well. I dont know. There was a big emphasis of Kara in the entire dream after my GF died. Seemed like we were both the main characters of the dream. She played a more important role than I in many cases. I guess all I'm saying is that the real Kara will think/do/feel different things than the Kara in your dreams. And doubtless you'll dream of other wholesome relationships in due course. I think that if there is a change for the better than it will be positive. Thanks for the luck. I do take it seriously. It is important. Thanks for all the advice My pleasure. Sounds like you're doing all the right things.

[videogamer99]

A new dream recently happened. I moved away to Italy and then she proposed to me. I accepted and we were happy together. Any ideas on that?

[Burned up]

A new dream recently happened. I moved away to Italy and then she proposed to me. I accepted and we were happy together. Any ideas on that? First, it sounds like a nice dream. The meaning depends how it felt for you. If it felt natural then I would say it means you're now closer to your feminine side (NB this has nothing to do with sexuality) and are less likely to be looking "out there" for what you already have "in there". You have your own "internal Kara" as it were. Likely you will be less anxious about relationships etc if you keep this in mind. But the meaning will always be your meaning, so go for whatever feels right. You'l probably need to modify it as further dreams add to your experience anyway.

[videogamer99]

First, it sounds like a nice dream. The meaning depends how it felt for you. If it felt natural then I would say it means you're now closer to your feminine side (NB this has nothing to do with sexuality) and are less likely to be looking "out there" for what you already have "in there". You have your own "internal Kara" as it were. Likely you will be less anxious about relationships etc if you keep this in mind. But the meaning will always be your meaning, so go for whatever feels right. You'l probably need to modify it as further dreams add to your experience anyway. I meant it was my GF that proposed to me and married me. Thing is that me and my GF are going through some odd changes. She suddenly wants to not have sex anymore and its just feeling weirder and weirder. Maybe we are becoming more of just friends than more than friends. I dunno what to think right now. My dream may have predicted what is happening now.

[unclesirbob]

Well you say that it may have been predicting this situation that now exists. Thats certainly possible. Dreams can predict the future. But relationship dreams can be of two sorts. Sometimes they can be merely dreams that are internal - they represent your thoughts at a certian point of time. There times they may tap into the future and telepathy Yet relationship dreams are notoriously hard to think through. We constantly monitor our own behavuior and that of other.We putb an awful lot of time into relationships and emotions of such a high importance. Yet deams by their nature are notoriously difficult to interpret. So you maybe dreaming about what is simply inside your head... your own subconscious. Yet at the same time telepathic explanations fit. Like now you feel that the earlier dream is a portent. However we think we know what is going on inside our dreams then we never truly know. Its a mystery. If we did then you would not be on this forum and neither would I. It would be like trying to make sense of a telephone call. We would know what it meant. Yet the dreammind is diffiuclt to pentetrate. Thats why its so fascinating. The dream mind teases us and tantalises us. Yet it talks in parables. It hides its message in riddles. It throws away the rossetta stone so making interprtation impossible. At the end of the day we simply have to accept. We do not know. It maybe either a normal internal dream or it maybe a premonition. Either way because both explanations fit you will never truly know. ------------------------ Dreams deal with extremes. If you truly understood the meaning of your dream it may be quite negative. We are our own worst judge. We try to detect signals coming from other people. Do people feel we are not cool or incompetent? The dream mind is often very harsh and honest. It tells us things that we do not like to admit to ourselves. It tells us things that we fear. Its worries about how others are seeing us. It’s a big harsh dose of reality. Yet the dream mind also heads in the other direction. It captures our fantasies and positive feelings. Sometimes you wake up in a positive mood and feel that you are going to tackle a task in a particular way. You are invigorated and positive. Dreams then help motivate us. But often if we go too far in one direction our dreams tell us to cool down and not get carried away. This makes sense really. The dream mind then explores feelings connected with our judgment. We need to motivate ourselves but we also need to be realistic. Try these pages as they help you understand the process of dreaming http://www.unclesirbobby.org.uk/dreamessay.php http://www.unclesirbobby.org.uk/dreamessayhowto.php http://www.unclesirbobby.org.uk/dreamessayhowtopost.php http://www.unclesirbobby.org.uk/dreambookpolice.php ------------- http://www.scarboroughphotos.org.uk/...s/surfcity.php

[Burned up]

I don't believe dreams can predict the future. But they can reveal information about the present that your conscious self wouldn't have spotted. Sounds like you're conjuring with the friend <-> sexual partner conflict.