Sex In Dreams

[Bearsy]

Being that I'm an 18 year old virgin male*gasp*, I have quite a few dreams where sex is involved, it'll start off as any dream and it'll move into a sexual encounter, making out and whatnot, but as soon as I'm about to have sex I wake up, or the dream shifts drastically... whudafxup?

[Kromoh]

YEAH usually in my lucid dreams when I'm after sex (lol) the dream ends before I do it. I've managed to do it a tiem or two though ^^ I guess that's the idea of the dream: pursuing sex, but not actually having it that's what yoru subconscious might want to convey Oh the mystery that is the subconscious xD but remember: you must not go after sex, you must have sex. It's like that Matrix saying "stop trying to do it an do it". And I think this concerns your RL as well

[Bearsy]

Lol yeah, thats what I figured, and as for RL... I'm actually trying to not have sex/major relationships and just focus on college/work.

[Tornado Joe]

Hey Elis, It's your excitement that's waking you up - once you reach a certain heart rate or level of brain activity, your mind breaks your sleep cycle -- it's normal. If you want to go through with the sex in the dream, you'll be more successful doing it during a lucid in which you can control your level of excitement a bit more. And one thing about lucid dream sex.... IT'S OUT OF THIS WORLD!!

[Burned up]

Being that I'm an 18 year old virgin male*gasp*, I have quite a few dreams where sex is involved, it'll start off as any dream and it'll move into a sexual encounter, making out and whatnot, but as soon as I'm about to have sex I wake up, or the dream shifts drastically... whudafxup? Yes, really pisses you off no doubt. I don't know why but I do know it is one of those things that does happen to a lot of people (men?). Perhaps it's because we become consciously aware of our body becoming aroused? But really I don't know and I doubt anyone can say for sure.

[Redrivertears]

Is this in non-lucid dreams? Because it seems to me then that your dreams are a perfect representation of the way you think about sex: "You're not having it." In short, they are the way they are because of the way you think about the subject. Let me give you an analogy. For a long time, during my lucid dreams, I experimented with bringing a specific dreamcharacter into my dreams. The results would be so so. Sometimes I'd succeed, sometimes I didn't. Almost always, it ended up with a long chase or search to try and 'find' or 'track down' this particular dreamcharacter. One evening, lying down on bed, I asked myself the same question I had asked myself a thousanth times already: "Why can I bring other dreamcharacters in without problems, but not this one. Why is this one so elusive..." And then suddenly, using that particular word, the insight hit me. For some reason, I had gotten it into my head that this particular dreamcharacter was just that: elusive. In other words, I believed the character to be elusive, and hence the dream simply reflected my belief: The dream character is elusive, and so each time I ended up having to chase or try to find the character. I was making it happen myself, I just didn't realise it. Well, this insight changed things. I now realised the character wasn't in fact elusive at all, it was simply an attribute I had assigned to it. Next lucid dreams, sure enough, I reminded myself that it was a character just like any others. The DC then appeared in my dreams almost automatic, without me having to do anything else then wish it. The point of this story is... make sure that you're not creating a self-fullfilling prophecy. If you see sex as being 'hard to have'... then your dreams will represent this. Hope that helps, -Redrivertears-

[Doubleoqueso]

When I was still a virgin, I had a greater tendency to use lucidity for sexual pleasure, and morally, I can't condone this. Like you, I never managed to actually "have it". Once I lost my virginity, I experienced it in dreams. I can't really say which one is better, because real or dreaming, sex is fun. I'm not a real sexually driven guy, so my dreams are rarely sexual anymore. Also, I don't know if you're the spiritual sort, but many believe that inviting sexuality into your dreams is inviting evil presences (i.e. succubi).

[lizmunchausen]

ive been dreaming a lot about sex the last week or two. ive had a normal dream where i had sex. after we were done i was thinking we should do it again- then i woke up. there was another dream where i was partially lucid and slept with a few different people. and there were more non lucid dreams involving sex. its probably because i havent got laid for a few months haha

[Kromoh]

Aff I've been having these dreams where my lovely keeps that cute kinky face, I hug him and kiss him and all.. but no sex -.- TJ is probably right about excitement though.

[Bearsy]

Is this in non-lucid dreams? Because it seems to me then that your dreams are a perfect representation of the way you think about sex: "You're not having it." In short, they are the way they are because of the way you think about the subject. The point of this story is... make sure that you're not creating a self-fullfilling prophecy. If you see sex as being 'hard to have'... then your dreams will represent this. Hope that helps, -Redrivertears- I've actually never been lucid , and Idk, I've never really cared that I'm not having sex... its just never been too high on my list.