Thread: Introduction and question

Hello to all,

I'm a 52-year-old divorced woman who ended up here after searching for help with understanding some of my dream experiences. For most of my life my dreams have been frequent, vivid and rich, occasionally lucid and some even precognitive to the finest of details. But all previous dreams are pale in comparison to certain ones I've been having for the last couple of years.

After my husband was gone for about a year, I "met" a fellow on the internet via a mutual interest group (not a dating or matchmaking site) and we wrote (mostly business related) emails back and forth for a while, then were out of contact for over a year. Finally we met by chance in an online chat (again, business related) and at that time I started to feel very very drawn to him. It was a powerful feeling of being "turned on" in a sexual sense but arising (or so I thought) from his overall personality and sense of humor. I let him know how I was feeling, and he told me he is not married.

Well over the next few years we maintained contact and about six months ago it started to intensify. We made a plan to meet when I was going to be in his part of the country (we live about 1500 miles apart) but when the time came both of us were very sick with the flu and did not make it to the meeting, which we had been looking forward to for a long time.

So this potential relationship has yet to really start. Meanwhile, for about the last two years or so, I see this guy in dreams occasionally - like maybe 4 or 5 times a year. In the dreams it is like we are just meeting for the first time and feeling very strongly attracted to one another. These dreams are the most vivid ones I have ever had, and the most pleasurable. I actually feel as if the events are real. It happened again last night and was so powerful that I woke up in the middle of the night.

In the past, I have ever had more than one dream about any person who I have not met "in the flesh", nor have I ever dreamed of being so intimate and so happy with someone to whom I have never been "properly introduced" in person. It's impossible to put into words how real these dreams are. And it is so strange for me that they include a person I have never even seen.

Ordinarily I don't even think about this fellow... You know, "out of sight, out of mind"... except when writing or reading emails that we exchange, or when we chat, which is a pretty rare event, since neither of us has the time for it unless we stay awake all night (which we have done on several occasions). I've only seen a couple of fuzzy photos of him, so I don't even have a clear image of how he actually looks. But I do know it's him in the dreams.

I'm really curious to understand why I have such intense dreams about this man. I've told him about a couple of them and he said he never pays much attention to dreams and rarely even remembers them. I no longer remember many of my own dreams, as I did when I was younger, either. Now, I mostly only remember a dream if it contains this man.

These dreams are always such a joyous and surprisingly pleasant event, that I have to wonder what's going on. Maybe it would be fun if I knew of some way to have them at will!