Ok, I'm having a problem with becoming lucid and controlling my dreams. my dreams don't seem at all like actual life, like it is just like I'm watching myself do stuff on a tv or something. so the times in which I am lucid it's like ok what now? I've had minimal experience with actually controlling my dreams but for what I have had I think I can tell that it is still just like I'm watching the dream on tv or something. so at best it's like I can control a show I'm watching, but not like I'm actually there and controlling stuff around me. so it's like I'm lucid but not, since I can't make any use out of it, and in some way still not aware that it's all a dream, just like ok I'm watching this stuff that's not real and I know that but that's as far as I can get. I also have a similiar problem with my dreams not being anywhere near vivid enough. I'm fear that no matter how good I get at controlling the dreams it just won't be realistic enough for me to care. any advice?