Can't Realize

[h_k_v2000]

Hi everyone, I'm new to this Lucid dreaming thing... & I gotta say, it must be feeling awesome you guys, to dream like that. I've tried it two times, remembering the dream is not a problem, I remember it all fine, problem occurs on realizing. I mean, my dreams are all so boring, nothing extraordinary ever happens. Sometimes I'm fixing TV-remotes, listening songs, or just hanging out & talking with friends. I've been doing that "check wether you're in a dream" thing every now & then while I'm awake for 3 days now but can't remember to do it while I'm dreaming. Is there anything I can do to make my dream extraordinary so that I can realize (or atleast try to) that I might be dreaming ? er.. one more thing, I've realised that I'm always with my friends in my dreams, sometimes hanging out, sometimes at their place, sometimes at mine etc. so can this be the recurring thing I should look out for ? I mean, should I "check" every next time I'm with friends - whether dreaming or not ?

[Michael]

Yea, you should check everytime, but thats easier said than done lol. You should start off with a dream journal and jot down your dreams everytime you wake up. Even though you think you can remember your dreams well, I'm sure a DJ wouldn't hurt. This way you can remember recurring dreams better and hopefully be able to recognize them when your dreaming. You should also do reality checks while you're awake so that maybe when you're in a dream you will do one. Since you're new to this you gotta have patience. And read through the tutorials in this site. They are very helpful. It is hard to remember to do RC in dreams... I feel ya there. But it will happen. To make your dreams more extraordinary, just try to think out a plot while you are lying down trying to fall asleep. Instead of thinking about lucid dreaming, just think about a dream you want to have, and maybe it will happen with some luck and practice. Btw, to DV and gl.

[Ronstek]

Bugger. I had a nice long reply all typed out and hit the submit button but I had been logged out in the meantime. After logging back in my reply was all gone. Time to start again. from the old man on the block. My advice for what its worth. Dont expect miracles. Having a LD for most people is a skill that you have to work on and perfect. A lot of people on this site can have a LD on a whim but that is not the norm. Start on Dream recall, keeping a Journal and doing reality checks frequently all day, everyday. I was doing those before serious medical problems kicked me down for 6 months and I probably wont be back into LDing tactics fully untill next year when, hopefully, I have recovered. Not easy having a LD when your in hospital having morphine induced hallucinations. The two just dont go together. I have had two LD's and both were without trying. I did not know about Lucid Dreaming untill I had my first last year and a friend told me what it was called. That when I found this site. I can tell you that having a LD is a fantastic experience that you will want to have over and over again so start at the beginning and work the tactics. You will never regret putting in the effort. Seek advise from the experienced dreamers on this site. Best wishes, welcome and good luck.

[EvilTemplar]

Welcome to DV! Anyways i have the same dreamsign as you because my friends and old friends come in my dreams 90% of the time plus my dreams arent really great either. But you can become lucid by something simple too, for example: My first time i got lucid i was walking up a hill on a sidewalk and i passed a few old friends, and then about 15 secs later i pass by them again and realize "Thats not right?" and do a reality check. Or one time i saw an old friend that had moved long ago and i thought "WHy is he here?" and did an RC. SO you realy dont need crazy dreams to become lucid, just the right circumstances in a dream should should help you realize. I hope this helps!

[Lunalight]

If your dreams aren't crazy, try doing RCs whenever you walk through a door, or just if you get a funny feeling. I don't know how many LDs I've had just based on a feeling that something's amiss.

[Wavefunction]

to Dreamviews! As Lunalight advised, just do RCs during the day, even when something boring happens, like walking through a door or driving under a bridge. I also do RCs whenever the idea of lucid dreams, reality checking, etc, comes into my mind. I usually end up doing 20-30 random RCs during the day, and my few LDs are caused by randomly RCing during the dream. You mentioned you are with your friends a lot in your dreams. You can use this as a dream sign. Whenever you hang out with your friends in real life, RC. Also, before bed repeat to yourself "If I am hanging out with my friends, I am dreaming". Also, three days isn't very long to have been trying. Even if you are doing everything you can to get lucid, sometimes it just takes time! Anyway, good luck, and feel free to ask any other questions you might have

[h_k_v2000]

Thanks for all your replies guys.. & I did realize its lot tougher than I thought. I'll try to follow more of your advices in future. I've now created a DJ and have read more tutorials. I've increased frequency of RCs in real life like while I'm with friends and while doing other regular tasks too. I guess remembering to have a RC while dreaming is the hardest part. Yester night I dreamt I was He-Man and Arnold Schwarzenegger - both at the same time and had wife & kids.. but all I'm doing was giving my family a lecture on inner strength and self confidence !! I mean, come on !! But anyways, I guess my dreams reflect my boring life... Strangest part was I was someone else & it felt completely normal ! I was cursing myself in the morning for not having realized .. ! So I guess it’s just a matter of time and patience (& inner strength & self confidence lol)... er.. And there's a 'Task of the month' section .! Boy that must need some heavy experience in LDing. I hope I'll be able to participate someday

[Wavefunction]

Thanks for all your replies guys.. & I did realize its lot tougher than I thought. I'll try to follow more of your advices in future. I've now created a DJ and have read more tutorials. I've increased frequency of RCs in real life like while I'm with friends and while doing other regular tasks too. I guess remembering to have a RC while dreaming is the hardest part. Yester night I dreamt I was He-Man and Arnold Schwarzenegger - both at the same time and had wife & kids.. but all I'm doing was giving my family a lecture on inner strength and self confidence !! I mean, come on !! But anyways, I guess my dreams reflect my boring life... Strangest part was I was someone else & it felt completely normal ! I was cursing myself in the morning for not having realized .. ! So I guess it’s just a matter of time and patience (& inner strength & self confidence lol)... er.. And there's a 'Task of the month' section .! Boy that must need some heavy experience in LDing. I hope I'll be able to participate someday As you said, your dreams reflect your life. You said your life was boring, and so were your dreams. The same thing goes for RCs. You RC a lot in real life, and it should be reflected in your dreams. It can take time though. And we've all had incredibly stupid missed lucid oppurtunities. Our dreams are crazy, and we still don't get lucid . See the "Stupidest Ways You've Missed Getting Lucid" thread.

[TheTimeKeep]

Well thats natural. You should do what Micheal and others have suggested and start a dream journal, which will helps quite a bit. (Strange though isnt it, all your doing is writing down your dreams =/). You might try the Straight Back to Bed method, that works 100% of the time for me in term of lucid dreaming, also do RC's frequently in real life until you find yourself doing them without truly giving it thought. Good Luck and Live long + Prosper .

[imj]

Bugger. I had a nice long reply all typed out and hit the submit button but I had been logged out in the meantime. After logging back in my reply was all gone. Time to start again. from the old man on the block. My advice for what its worth. Dont expect miracles. Having a LD for most people is a skill that you have to work on and perfect. A lot of people on this site can have a LD on a whim but that is not the norm. Start on Dream recall, keeping a Journal and doing reality checks frequently all day, everyday. I was doing those before serious medical problems kicked me down for 6 months and I probably wont be back into LDing tactics fully untill next year when, hopefully, I have recovered. Not easy having a LD when your in hospital having morphine induced hallucinations. The two just dont go together. I have had two LD's and both were without trying. I did not know about Lucid Dreaming untill I had my first last year and a friend told me what it was called. That when I found this site. I can tell you that having a LD is a fantastic experience that you will want to have over and over again so start at the beginning and work the tactics. You will never regret putting in the effort. Seek advise from the experienced dreamers on this site. Best wishes, welcome and good luck. Hi, next time U get logged out while posting...just log in again. And when Ur logged in...hit the back button to the previous page U were posting and hit submit reply again....it should work... IMJ

[Michael]

You were he-man/Arnold Schwarzenegger and didn't realize it!?!?! Lol j/k, this is all too common, for me at least. I hate it so much when strange things happen and I dont do a RC, or when I do a RC in a dream and it fails (like having 30 fingers) but it all seems so normal at the time!!! This isn't a "boring dream" according to your subconscious even though it seems like it to you. This is one of the things that helps writing down in your dream journal, because it increases your chances for recognizing a dream next time something similar happens. Like maybe you will be superman, but you will realize "hey i was arnold once, wtf is going on", freak out for a sec, then realize your dreaming. Thats just an example though, you know what I mean. GL Edit: Another thing I believe helps is sharing your dream with someone in person. If you have someone you can talk to in person about your dreams, do it.