Being in love versus not being in love

[sephiroth clock]

I could say that I have been in love a couple of times. Almost all of my thoughts throughout the day were about this person, being with that person, fantasies, etc. I loved to be with her but afterwards I went into the phase of missing her. You just feel out of tune, like everything is passing by, and the only thing you can think about is the girl. But I've started to think that I enjoy not being in love more than the being in love and then being in the state of ahh man I wish I could be with this person. I started to notice how my sister acted when she was with our family on a trip away from her boyfriend. Calling him constantly to describe what we had done, my parents actually got into an argument about cell phone time and such, because she kept talking obnoxiously. She really missed him. I know that feeling, it's difficult to put a word on but most of you have probably experienced it before. Once I do get over being in love, I find that I really don't want to fall back in love. I like being more in tune, not having the weight of needing a person dragging on you all the time. A person can really stain your mind with thought, but I feel better when I can go without needing a special person, just having fun enjoying the days. This brings me to the thought, of whether it is better to experience this intense love, but also go through the downs of missing a person and being lovesick, or to not focus on a single person that is needed, and be a "general socialist" I guess. The other question I've had has anyone been in love, without missing the person, without being lovesick. thoughts

[Je33ica]

i understand what you're trying to say but i think being lovesick when a loved one is away is soo worth it. i went to denmark this summer, away from my family, away from my house. i didnt miss that, just being away from my bf killed me. the first day was so bad, i was with new people in a new culture and i didnt have anyone to turn to. but after a few weeks you adapt, you get used to it, and when you're reunited your love is stronger and you appretiate it so much more. it is also good being independent, being able to rely on yourself without being clouded by another person. however, being alone for a while will get you lovesick for love. you will notice other couples more often and be like, "why can't i have that?" ok am i making sense? lol, im not very good at explaining things. i just think it's worth it.

[Nirvana Starseed]

I dont ever miss not liking anyone. I am thrilled to just be independant forever.I have also mastered grief.And If I ever was in a relationship it would be a perfect one. Though I don't need to get involved in it at this time because I have mastered it and there would be little point in going through such an experience.