I could say that I have been in love a couple of times. Almost all of my thoughts throughout the day were about this person, being with that person, fantasies, etc. I loved to be with her but afterwards I went into the phase of missing her. You just feel out of tune, like everything is passing by, and the only thing you can think about is the girl. But I've started to think that I enjoy not being in love more than the being in love and then being in the state of ahh man I wish I could be with this person.

I started to notice how my sister acted when she was with our family on a trip away from her boyfriend. Calling him constantly to describe what we had done, my parents actually got into an argument about cell phone time and such, because she kept talking obnoxiously. She really missed him.

I know that feeling, it's difficult to put a word on but most of you have probably experienced it before.

Once I do get over being in love, I find that I really don't want to fall back in love. I like being more in tune, not having the weight of needing a person dragging on you all the time. A person can really stain your mind with thought, but I feel better when I can go without needing a special person, just having fun enjoying the days.

This brings me to the thought, of whether it is better to experience this intense love, but also go through the downs of missing a person and being lovesick, or to not focus on a single person that is needed, and be a "general socialist" I guess. The other question I've had has anyone been in love, without missing the person, without being lovesick.

thoughts