Im In Love

[skuruza]

i am in love! for the 1st time i am really in love! i love her so much!but, she lives 30 mis-half hour away. my friend also loves her. i wana cry that he lives there and not me... i love her so much. she is amazing. i wana do something about it, and my friend and i devised a plan, but we gotta talk tomorrow. i wnt tomorrow to come ASAP. i wana cry that i do not have a time machine that can get me tomorrow. i wanna cry that i have only met her once. i wana cry that my friend live there, not me. she is the best girl taht there ever was!!! if i lived there, i would have had a perfect chance with he, but i do not live there. i wana cry!!!!!!!!!&# 33;! i hate this!!! i think i need help... i get romantic ideas for poems and love letters to her. what should i do?

[Quartz]

1. Girls like good spellers and they hate guys who overuse exclamation marks. 2. Just take it SLOW. 3. Get to know her and find out if she's really the one for you. You may feel this way now but things may change when you get to know her. 4. Keep cool. Act as if you're just interested, not in love. I can almost guarantee she won't feel as strongly as you this soon and the idea of a guy in love with her will definetely be way too creepy for her. 5. Run your 'plan' by someone who's good at relationship advice. There's plenty of them around here. Look for the people giving the good advice in the help forum and maybe PM them or you could just start a thread there if you don't care about privacy. I could be wrong, it could be mutual love at first sight. However, I am not wrong.

[Keeper]

with the exeption of the first one ... ditto good luck man, I'll be prsying for you :thumbs:

[jacobo]

anyone is perfect if you've only met them once. get over it and date people in your zip code.

[Quartz]

*wonders if jacobo has a girlfriend. If he actually feels the way he says he does then he should follow his heart </cheesy>

[Ardent Lost]

30 minutes away is nothing to cry over. I used to travel 30 minutes to school every morning. If she's as special as you say she is 30 minutes is nothing. Other than that i basically agree with what Quartz has said. Only i'm not sure i like the sound of the "devised a plan" part. It sounds like you want to trap her or trick her or something. Just be yourself, act normal, and if you're still into her after a bit ask her out.

[jacobo]

*wonders if jacobo has a girlfriend. If he actually feels the way he says he does then he should follow his heart </cheesy> [/b] i do not have a girlfriend right now as a result of "falling in love" with someone 1700 miles away... we spoke on the phone every night for six months... we saw each other about once a month for those six months. that once a month she was awesome and wonderful... then we moved in together and i soon realized that she wasn&#39;t the same person i saw once a month. moral of the story; everyone is perfect when you don&#39;t know them... and to commit to someone at that kind of distance means taking huge life changing steps to get close to them... ultimately meaning your levels of commitment need to be rock solid... and that seems a bit much to ask when it&#39;s someone you don&#39;t know. **edit** haha i didn&#39;t see that 30 minutes away thing. go for it if you don&#39;t mind paying the gas... but my point still stands if she were across the country from you.

[skuruza]

well, my friend and i talked for like 4 hrs, and he's not gonna let me have her, coz he loves her too. so now i am starting the gettion over phase.

[Howie]

WOW. Must have been true love. Or self hypnosis or.....something!!!!!!&#33 ;!!!!!!!!!&#33 ;!

[Courtney Mae]

Uhh....

[Howie]

Uhh.... [/b] I'm in love tooCourtney!

[Quartz]

well, my friend and i talked for like 4 hrs, and he's not gonna let me have her, coz he loves her too. so now i am starting the gettion over phase. [/b] w....t......f. That was your plan? Ask him her boyfriend if you could have her? There's some very big things wrong with that: 1. What was your thinking here? You thought maybe he didn't really like her and would just 'give her away'? "Oh yeah, sure. Take her I didn't really want her anyway." It's his girlfriend not part of his lunch. 2. She is not his property. If you consider breaking up a relationship to be unacceptable then surely you wouldn't have asked him in the first place. If not, then you would've tried to get her to break up with him and get together with you. I don't see what logic path lead you to ask her boyfriend for permission to break up his relationship.

[Keeper]

F Fluffs S! ARE YOU NUTS! LET HER DECIDE!

[jacobo]

well, my friend and i talked for like 4 hrs, and he's not gonna let me have her, coz he loves her too. so now i am starting the gettion over phase. [/b] because you said that... you just cheapened LOVE ... just like all the idiots of your generation. fuck i'm sick of this. *throws papers into the air and storms off*

[destinyblade]

Love is a confusing thing and you my friend seem to be confused by it, if you loved her that much, then you would not have given her up so easily.

[jacobo]

Love is a confusing thing and you my friend seem to be confused by it, if you loved her that much, then you would not have given her up so easily. [/b] no... if you "loved" her that much you wouldn't have needed to ask an internet forum what to do.

[Keeper]

no... if you "loved" her that much you wouldn't have needed to ask an internet forum what to do. [/b] well ... He is nervis. I recall asking people on this forum for my delema, and got some help but the line must be drawn when someone says that they asked there friend if they could "have" her thats just plain .....graaaaaahhh! No words to discrib it! TALK TO HER!!!!!!

[skuruza]

w....t......f. That was your plan? Ask him her boyfriend if you could have her? There's some very big things wrong with that: 1. What was your thinking here? You thought maybe he didn't really like her and would just 'give her away'? "Oh yeah, sure. Take her I didn't really want her anyway." It's his girlfriend not part of his lunch. 2. She is not his property. If you consider breaking up a relationship to be unacceptable then surely you wouldn't have asked him in the first place. If not, then you would've tried to get her to break up with him and get together with you. I don't see what logic path lead you to ask her boyfriend for permission to break up his relationship. [/b] wasn't my plan the p[lan WAS to present the choices, but the next mornin he said he won't. i would love to talk to her again, but i do not know her phone #, and my friend would not give it to me. the original plan was to make a note, and give it to her, i came up with such a romantic letter, but then the next morning happened. i really do not know what to do, coz he really is my best friend, and he is also going crazy, saying practically the same as i am saying, because he cares about me so much. i care about him more than any other friend besides my other best friend. if our friendship ended, i would be devastated. i would regret it for the rest of my life. i love my friend as if he were my family, coz we are so close.

[Quartz]

i would love to talk to her again, but i do not know her phone #, and my friend would not give it to me. the original plan was to make a note, and give it to her, i came up with such a romantic letter, but then the next morning happened. i really do not know what to do, coz he really is my best friend, and he is also going crazy, saying practically the same as i am saying, because he cares about me so much. i care about him more than any other friend besides my other best friend. if our friendship ended, i would be devastated. i would regret it for the rest of my life. i love my friend as if he were my family, coz we are so close.[/b] You are not in love. because you said that... you just cheapened LOVE ... just like all the idiots of your generation. fuck i'm sick of this. *throws papers into the air and storms off* [/b] Jacobo please don't make giant sweaping statements about my generation. This guy is confused but the majority of my generation living around me do not cheapen love. They have girlfriends/boyfriends but they don't pretend to be in love nor do they pretend to know anything about love except for one particular couple I know (both 18 years old) who say they are in love and I believe them. The majority of us know the difference between a crush and love and we respect love as a gift we will experience in later life. You probably acquired that stereotype from movies where the dumb bitch says "omg i love him so much". That scenario is more rare than you think.

[skuruza]

... k....

[Identity X]

no... if you "loved" her that much you wouldn't have needed to ask an internet forum what to do. [/b] I've used the old DV Chat a few times to alleviate some in built tension. But I never proclaimed it as love. It was a crush, just as our dear friend skuruza seems to be experiencing. Good luck recovering my friend

[skuruza]

well, yea we all gotta face the nasty truth sometimes... mine is not\w... i am gonna be the big man and stap back.