Trust: how important is it?

[death dreamer]

Trust is something of great importance to me, and many people. To know that you can trust someone so much and know that you can tell them somehting and not have it be half wayaround the school, or work place, or whatever... is just an all our good feeling. to know that someone trusts you that much is also a good feleing. But to lose that trust is not such a good feleing. To do something, or say something that breaks that trust is bad. It hurts. Everyone of us had broken some bodies trust at least once in our loves, whether it was a friend, or a family member. To try and regain that trust seems almost impossible, unreachable. Once that trust is gone it is hard to get it back. For example, about two years ago i did something that completly destroyed my mothers trust in me, and i am still yet to fully regain that trust. To have someone that you think you can trust, someone that you care about break that trust, it is an unexplainable feeling. Your stomach clenches up, you feel light headed, you cry, you want to get sick. Those are just a few of the feelings that come to mind. To have that person do tat makes you feel as if you can never trust anyone again, it makes you feel as if that person has betrayed you. Done the most unimaginable thing ever. But to be the person that broke that trust is just as bad. You get the same feelings. The stomach clenching, the light headedness, the crying, and the feling of wanting to get sick. Yes you have all of those, except they are not from hurt, from knowing that you hurt a loved one or a friend. No it is from guilt, guilt from knowing that person will never trust you again. Guilt from knowing that person will probaly never look at you in the same way. Guilt from knowing you will never ever be told anything about that persons life again. Guilt from knowing that YOU of all people did what you swore you would never do, hurt your friend or loved one. Guilt form knowing that you caused your friend pain. Guilt from knowing you will never get that trust back. And worry/fear. Worry/fear that this particilar person will never want to talk to you again. worry/fear that you have lost your best friend. This is my veiws on trust. This is how important i think it is. What are your veiws?

[Awaken]

Trust is what holds us together. It's more of an emotion than words. It's falling backwards into someone's arms. It's giving someone the keys to your car, or your life. It's a delicate balance. The lower level - on a physical nature is always able to overthrow the higher delicate balance, but as long as we understand this and respect the higher balance, ultimate peace and serenity will prevail. I'm sorry you broke your mother's trust in you - we've all been there, although I'm not sure how severe this is. Two years is a long time, but even emotional wounds can be healed. Just the fact that you brought this up as such an important issue would be enough for me to trust you if we ever met. I tend to take emotions very seriously They are a big part of my life.

[death dreamer]

see the thing is... i broke the trust of a very good friend of mine. at first i thought she would never want to talk to me again. but its all good... she told me last night that she doesn't hate me, she'll just never trust me again... *go me*

[Finde]

Trust is REALLY important to me... I can bearly trust anyone, I think I only know one or two people who I can trust

[Estok]

There are probably ways you can regain the trust, but you need to know why she doesn't trust you. For example, if you lied to her, you probably lose her trust because she feels that she doesn't know you anymore. The possible solution for that is to let her know that she is indeed seeing the true you. That you have decided to trust her in return and let her be in your circle. (In some sense the problem was that she doesn't feel that you trust her either.)

[dreamscape]

I've broken a friends trust. I hate myself. Some one shoot me.

[death dreamer]

she told me something... i told someone else... she found out... exact quote: " i have never hurt as bad as when i realized i cannot trust the one perosn i thought i could tell anything to" thats what she told me... both her and i have very strong trust issues. she was the only person i can trust...a nd she only had like 3 people and i was one of them. i wanted to die when she told me that. to know that i caused her that much pain... i wanted to die

[Estok]

don't worry, i will ask my dream guide what to do do you understand why you disclosed her secret?

[death dreamer]

yeah... sorda

[Estok]

maybe she doesn't trust you because she thinks that you will do it again. part of the solution may involve you understand why you did it, and why it won't happen again.