A few experiences

[EarthEnchantress]

Well, I don't have a lot to share, but thought I would try for some input. Looking forward to you're replies! One dream I had was with my boyfriend, not giving details, but I suppose you're already getting an idea of what im talking about. It wasn't THAT, but maybe the part before. Ok, anyway, I remembered it with amazing detail. And amazing feelings too. I don't think it was lucid, but just the fact that I remembered it so well and I was so happy just blew me away. Found it very inspiring to try to accomplish such a dream again! Especialy with my boyfriend being so far away from me, and continuing to be until May. Another dream, it was abstract as all my dreams are. A big lovely, but unusual house. And it was where my boyfriends family was living. Well, it certainly wasn't their house, and if it was it was really weird. Anyway, I think it was a normal dream for most of it when suddenly, I felt weird, almost like I was being possessed or something. Then suddenly, I realized I was dreaming! I know it was lucid because I am a movie nut and usual dream seeing myself like a movie. This time, it was through my own eyes. The dream I just mentioned before, I saw like a movie. I ran through a doorway, and there was my boyfriend. I remember grabbing his shoulders, shaking him and saying in an exited, but persuasive, almost urgent manor "John, we're dreaming!" I remember him looking confused, but somehow at the time I felt that was really him, not a dream character. I think I lost the lucidity after that, but I think I managed to convince him before I did. Then for a bit before the end of the dream, I gained it again a little and tried to change the scenery to a beach. But I couldn’t. I remember visualizing a beach, but I wasn't there, I was just visualizing it. Then it went un-lucid, John became a dream character because he did something weird and it didn't feel like it was really him, then it faded to black. That was my most exiting experience, and maybe my first. I asked John if he had the same dream, or remembered me trying to tell him he was dreaming. He didn't at first, and remembered a different dream. But after thinking about it, he thinks he recalls it, though faintly. I think when he "disappeared" in my dream, that’s when he started his, and when he became a dream character in mine. He definitely recalls the first dream I mentioned though, that's why we check with each other all the time about possible "shared dreams." We're believers, heck, he's reported having fortelling dreams. He dreamed something terrible happening to his family, and it did happen, and to this day he wishes he went with his dream and tried to help.

[Callista]

So, the scientist in me demands some experiments... Write down your dreams and then compare after you write them down--that way you can be sure of the degree of corellation (rather than ending up skewing things one way or another--dreams are such squishy things). Also try to see whether your dreams are caused by the same events, or whether distance has any effect; if one of you takes a trip be sure to record what you dream... My one possible shared-dream experience occurred with my sister, who lives 900 miles away; so distance may not have an effect. (Basically, I dreamed that I told her that since we were both dreaming, she should contact me when we woke up; I received an e-mail the next morning, the first in months.) The thing is, though, I haven't been able to repeat this, so the "coincidence theory" is still in strong effect. However, if you two can repeat the phenomenon, and change the conditions around you to find out exactly what the "rules" (limitations/conditions) are, then we'd all be very glad for the data.

[EarthEnchantress]

Thanks so much for the reply Its difficult to write it down seperately because we are very far appart right now. He's in Scotland and I am in the USA. I have had the idea of agreeing to try for a lucid dream every night as practice, and to go to bed at the same time so we can report the next morning. Perhapts by E-mail so we know we aren't mixing things up. But the time differnces make it difficult too, because he is 6 hours ahead of me. So its either me going to bed at 6pm or him at 6am (going for a midnight bedtime) so we are trying to work out a compromise (I think its 9pm for me and 3am for him as a decent compromise) Anyway, I will share any more experiences we have in the topic set aside for it. But at the same time, im trying to become better at lucid dreaming, so you might hear from me here a bit more.