Do you avoid talking in your LD's due to a spouse?

[David Ames]

I sure do. I'm sometimes worried that I'll be talking or yelling in my sleep. Another reason is the due to me being unsure if it's truly a drea.

[nemof]

I can imagine we all use our lucid dreams to sometimes behave reprehensibly. I know that last night I went around pulling girls tops down. ahem, naughty I know, but something lots of people have thought of probably. However in my last dream of the night I wasn't sure if I was dreaming or was really awake and I thought I better not do anything naughty incase. To relate that to you, I myself am interested in any correlation between what I say in my dreams and whether I really say it for real. I imagine that on the whole people don't actually relate what they are saying in their dreams while asleep. If this was a common phenomenon it would be the bane of husbands and wives everywhere. Just imagine every time you had a steamy dream of the girl in accounting and your wife was sat next to you in bed, listening to you converse to your dream-girl! That would be a dream you would be pinched into wakefulness from.

[David Ames]

Originally posted by nemof Just imagine every time you had a steamy dream of the girl in accounting and your wife was sat next to you in bed, listening to you converse to your dream-girl! That would be a dream you would be pinched into wakefulness from. That's EXACTLY what I'm worried about. I have my reasons for being concious of what I do in my dream. In one incident, I had a non-LD where I was slapping a dream character. I ended up slapping my wife on the other side of the bed! Her response: Me:

[Burns]

It's natural to have dreams about people other than your spouse - I'd recommend not volunteering that info, though. I'm married, too, and I have dreams occasionally about being with another man, and I'm sure my husband has dreams about being with another woman. But just because it's natural, doesn't mean I want to hear about.

[nemof]

Originally posted by David Ames That's EXACTLY what I'm worried about. I have my reasons for being concious of what I do in my dream. In one incident, I had a non-LD where I was slapping a dream character. I ended up slapping my wife on the other side of the bed! Her response: Me: I wouldn't be too worried. We have dreams for so many reasons and people should try to be at least a tiny bit understanding. If you are not having a lucid dream then your subconscious is in control - and even if you are LD'ing your subconscious still is for the most pulling the shots - and if I know one thing about the subconscious its that it can be quite unconstrained by the same standards we consciously are aware of. Obviously slapping your wife is something that you don't want to do! However I have a friend who I used to live with in my last house. His room was next to mine and as he has described to me he is a very restless sleeper. He tosses and turns very violently and I could often hear his fist thumping the wall very hard as he spun around in his sleep. He's even accidently thumped girlfriends in his sleep. It's pretty embaressing for him, but he's got used to it. It's particularly ironic as he's one of the gentlest people I know. As Burns says, don't volunteer any info, some dreams can stay private! ps burns, I love the little doggie spy