Visit From Dead Brother? Is It Possible?

[ava]

This just happened recently. I don't know what to think or believe, but I feel I was visited by my deceased brother. For several nights in a row I've been having my "false awakening" dreams in the morning, after HB leaves for work. In these dreams I usually dream that I'm in bed and that my husband comes back home and I hear him walk in the room and talk to me, but then something is "odd" like what he says or the circumstances and I realize that its not real, that I'm dreaming he's back home. Then I get anxious and try to wake up. It takes what seems like 10-20 seconds to open my eyes. Once I do, I see that I'm alone in bed and it was a dream. Well, the other day I figured it might happen again, but I was really tired and didn't want to wake up yet so I asked hubby to leave the bathroom light on before he left (big scaredy cat that I am) and fell back asleep within minutes. This time in the dream, I was in bed and could see the bathroom light on, but this time my mom was in there putting on make up and I heard her ask me if she could borrow some deoderant. I said ok. She said she was glad I had Secret since that was a good one. That's when I started to realize it was a dream and I started trying to wake up again, but I couldn't. I could even feel my body just lying there, but in the dream I was rolling around trying to wake up. All of a sudden I felt a poke in my ribs and my eyes opened right up. I looked to my side and nothing was there. sidenote...a couple weeks ago we watched a movie online called The Secret. It is interesting, sort of a motivational movie about using positive thinking to get what you want out of life. They call it the law of attraction, a theory written about by many throughout the years. Anyway.... And, no, I have NEVER felt anything like that while sleeping or awake that wasn't there. I got right up and took my blanket and pillow to the sofa. I was still tired, but there was no way I would be able to sleep in the bedroom after that. It bothered me and I tried calling hubby's cellphone, but the battery was low. I couldn't sleep right away so I got online and read up on lucid dreaming and trying to read up on this false awakening stuff. After about an hour I finally went to sleep on the sofa, telling myself before I fell asleep that if it was a spirit that touched me that it must have been Chad, nobody else used to poke me like that. I told myself I was going to try and not be afraid. (Another sidenote...I grew up as a Jehovah's Witness and was taught growing up that experiences like this were demon related, so I had to disregard any remnant of past fears to be able to not get upset.) After awhile I started dreaming. In the dream I became aware that I was dreaming, and the dream location was exactly where I was, on the sofa in the living room, but I couldn't move my body at all. I felt a presence and started to feel scared, but then told myself, its Chad, he won't hurt me. So in the dream I said out loud "Chad, I'm ok, I'm not afraid". Suddenly in the dream I felt him hug me. I could feel it and I started crying and when he moved away I was able to lift my head a little ( I couldn't physically move as much as I wanted to) and I saw his reflection in the mirror. His face was blurry, but his shirt was a blue flannel and he was tall. I was bothered by feeling paralyzed and not being able to look at him directly. He bent down next to my head and started to speak to me, but I became afraid and asked him not to do that. It was eery hearing a voice, but not seeing his face. I felt him move away a little and then he turned into a young Chad, about 7 or 8. I talked to him like was grown up and said "Griffin (my son) does look an awful lot like you". He told me to tell mom that he was ok and he was happy and then, I felt him drifting away and I asked him what to tell our sister and he said "tell her I'm right next to her whenever she needs me". He said that kind of like "she already knows this". Then I woke up. I've never had any of my other dreams "feel" so real before and I dream some real doozies at times. When he was in a few other dreams of mine (only a couple in the 14 years since he died) it was dreamlike and I had no awareness that it was a dream. This time was very different and I was fighting all kinds of fear (thinking it was demonic even though I should be over that by now) and I think that's why I wasn't able to see him more clearly and turn my head. That poke, his hug and his voice (momentary) were more real than any other dream I've ever had, I don't even think I can call it a dream it was so real. I knew when I went back to sleep that I was going to get visited again. I'm just really angry that I became afraid. Of course, it could be some sort of hallucinations, maybe there's something going on with me physically or mentally. Maybe my imagination is getting stronger, I don't know. I just know that I've never experienced anything like that before and if it happens again I hope to be bold enough to listen and look at him. New Member, Ava

[DarkMind]

This just happened recently. I don't know what to think or believe, but I feel I was visited by my deceased brother. For several nights in a row I've been having my "false awakening" dreams in the morning, after HB leaves for work. In these dreams I usually dream that I'm in bed and that my husband comes back home and I hear him walk in the room and talk to me, but then something is "odd" like what he says or the circumstances and I realize that its not real, that I'm dreaming he's back home. Then I get anxious and try to wake up. It takes what seems like 10-20 seconds to open my eyes. Once I do, I see that I'm alone in bed and it was a dream. Well, the other day I figured it might happen again, but I was really tired and didn't want to wake up yet so I asked hubby to leave the bathroom light on before he left (big scaredy cat that I am) and fell back asleep within minutes. This time in the dream, I was in bed and could see the bathroom light on, but this time my mom was in there putting on make up and I heard her ask me if she could borrow some deoderant. I said ok. She said she was glad I had Secret since that was a good one. That's when I started to realize it was a dream and I started trying to wake up again, but I couldn't. I could even feel my body just lying there, but in the dream I was rolling around trying to wake up. All of a sudden I felt a poke in my ribs and my eyes opened right up. I looked to my side and nothing was there. sidenote...a couple weeks ago we watched a movie online called The Secret. It is interesting, sort of a motivational movie about using positive thinking to get what you want out of life. They call it the law of attraction, a theory written about by many throughout the years. Anyway.... And, no, I have NEVER felt anything like that while sleeping or awake that wasn't there. I got right up and took my blanket and pillow to the sofa. I was still tired, but there was no way I would be able to sleep in the bedroom after that. It bothered me and I tried calling hubby's cellphone, but the battery was low. I couldn't sleep right away so I got online and read up on lucid dreaming and trying to read up on this false awakening stuff. After about an hour I finally went to sleep on the sofa, telling myself before I fell asleep that if it was a spirit that touched me that it must have been Chad, nobody else used to poke me like that. I told myself I was going to try and not be afraid. (Another sidenote...I grew up as a Jehovah's Witness and was taught growing up that experiences like this were demon related, so I had to disregard any remnant of past fears to be able to not get upset.) After awhile I started dreaming. In the dream I became aware that I was dreaming, and the dream location was exactly where I was, on the sofa in the living room, but I couldn't move my body at all. I felt a presence and started to feel scared, but then told myself, its Chad, he won't hurt me. So in the dream I said out loud "Chad, I'm ok, I'm not afraid". Suddenly in the dream I felt him hug me. I could feel it and I started crying and when he moved away I was able to lift my head a little ( I couldn't physically move as much as I wanted to) and I saw his reflection in the mirror. His face was blurry, but his shirt was a blue flannel and he was tall. I was bothered by feeling paralyzed and not being able to look at him directly. He bent down next to my head and started to speak to me, but I became afraid and asked him not to do that. It was eery hearing a voice, but not seeing his face. I felt him move away a little and then he turned into a young Chad, about 7 or 8. I talked to him like was grown up and said "Griffin (my son) does look an awful lot like you". He told me to tell mom that he was ok and he was happy and then, I felt him drifting away and I asked him what to tell our sister and he said "tell her I'm right next to her whenever she needs me". He said that kind of like "she already knows this". Then I woke up. I've never had any of my other dreams "feel" so real before and I dream some real doozies at times. When he was in a few other dreams of mine (only a couple in the 14 years since he died) it was dreamlike and I had no awareness that it was a dream. This time was very different and I was fighting all kinds of fear (thinking it was demonic even though I should be over that by now) and I think that's why I wasn't able to see him more clearly and turn my head. That poke, his hug and his voice (momentary) were more real than any other dream I've ever had, I don't even think I can call it a dream it was so real. I knew when I went back to sleep that I was going to get visited again. I'm just really angry that I became afraid. Of course, it could be some sort of hallucinations, maybe there's something going on with me physically or mentally. Maybe my imagination is getting stronger, I don't know. I just know that I've never experienced anything like that before and if it happens again I hope to be bold enough to listen and look at him. New Member, Ava [/b] Hi Ava, thanks for sharing. In short: - yes, I believe it is possible for the deceased to come back to talk to you. - the person you saw could be your dead brother or it could be just a hallucination. With experience, I think you should be able to tell the difference, and answer for yourself whether it is just a hallucination or is it really your deceased brother. I suggest the next time you see him, ask him to tell you more about where he is now. Is he in a heavenly realm? Or a ghost realm? If he is in a heavenly realm, which one is it? (I'm Buddhist, so I use a Buddhist framework to describe the various planes of existence) You may think of other questions to ask your brother and test his answers out in the waking world Karuna (Compassion), DarkMind

[jaymar320]

Well, my father has been in probably 50-60% of my dreams since he died 6 years ago. Sometimes he plays a villain (as he was during years leading up to his death), sometimes he's helpful, sometimes he's neutral, sometimes he's hte main character, other times he's just tagging along. It's weird. A couple of times, like you've described, I've had very emotional moments, like I was communicating with him from beyond. Of course, I never realize this in my dreams (until recently, that's a different story). Usually it's something like, he's been gone for a while and I can't for the life of me remember where he's gone. Until I see evidence of otherwise, however, I don't think that my dreams are anything else than a construction of my own mind, rather than some gateway to another demension. I don't rule this out though! I know this is more just sharing my own experience than providing you with guidance. I just thought you might appreciate it. Jason