All the more reason to be honest Vs. earnest, cut down on the unnecessary struggle between one another to figure out what exactly the other is trying to say.
Honest
- GF: Does my ass look fat in this?
- BF: Yes it does, maybe you should work out more or stop eating such fatty foods.
- GF: Breaks up with BF because she doesn't really want to hear the truth.
Earnest
- GF: Does my ass look fat in this?
- BF: I love you just the way you are, but if you want to drop a few pounds I'll go with to the gym. I could probably use a little more exercise myself.
Question is will this man be happier in the long run with a woman he has to coax into the truth, or a woman who can make up her own mind. There are +/- with each type of relationship, I just think the one where each partner is honest will succeed longer. It may take longer to find a partner who feels the same way, but once you do chances are it's the real deal.