AAAAAAHHH!!! >=O

[nightowl]

Im going to say right now that this is a vent topic and I would love to see what you think or should do. Please bare with me Okay, First of all I am a ladies man. All my friends are girls and I like it like that. I have been good/best friends with this girl since 8 grade (I'm in 10th now) Lets just say her name is Tanya. We've done a lot with eachother like going out with eachother's families, talk on the phone for like 1-2 hours or more etc. Now she's one of those "ghetto" types and doesn't mix very well with others. I on the other hand like to hang out with everybody and make new friends and talk to different people. This is the first year in high school that we've been in one class together ever since we got there. I love that class we're in and the people. They are all really great people, but she hates the class for some odd reason. She specifically states this at times, but I never bothered to ask her since I probably wouldn't understand her reason. Also I think we've discovered something annoying about eachother. I am an intelligent hard-working student and not to sound rude, she is not and makes up stupid excuses for her failure like being late to class. This is her motto "I don;t have to be on time, I go by my own time" or "Oops, I forgot.". When she doesn't understand the math we do I try to teach it to her, but when that happens hell runs loose. She doesn't understand most things and I guess my mind works VERY differently for her so instead of helping her we annoy the fuck out of eachother. Her being too stupid to understand and her possibly thinking Im to arrogant or whatever, I'm not sure(not a mind-reader ) Anyway since then I've avoided helping her and let our other good friend help her(lets say her name is kim). Also she *constantly* copies my papers we do in class and then when we take tests she doesn't understand why she failed(gee I wonder*rolls eyes*) Also the *ONLY* thing she talks to with kim is drugs and shit-talking about the other people in our class and about stupid stuff and they leave me out of their whole conversation for the whole class. And if I was in their conversation they would either be making fun of how smart I am like I was an outcast and/or blame me for something I did not do*that is my pet peeve, do not blame me somethign that I know for a fact did not do* I of course got fed up with this shit and so the next time we worked in groups I worked with someone else who I was friends with and I had a terrific time. Then our relationship sort of wavered. We spent much less time on the phone since we had nothing to talk about often, but still had a good time sometimes(this though I didn't really care much about). So now I've been talking to Tanya+kim and with the rest of the people in my class equally. Maybe slightly more with the other people. I guess this got on their nerves just a little, but why would I rather sit with them and be bored while they ignore me while I can have fun with other friends? Also one of my friends just broke up with her boyfriend in a serious relationship so i was helping her out deal with it by talking to her and went over her house for two days. I talked to her and Tanya+Christine(our other good friend) equally on the bus, so I didn't ignore either one. I guess this got on their nerves also. So today I worked with Tanya and kim and I didn't talk to Tanya a whole lot, but I did talk to kim since she was gone for 5 days. Anyway I talked to my other friends for the last 5 minutes of class and I guess that got on their nerves a little to. Now here's the part I don't understand well. Everyday me, Tanya, and christine walk to our bus and talk. They ignore me the whole way and they ignore me on the bus when going home. I knew something was wrong and so when I went off I said bye to them and they didn't even look at me, So I said "what? No bye?" and then one says bye and then starts laughing. As I get off the other girl who didn't say bye to me said bye to my brother and then I heard laughing. It's obvious what they tried to accomplish. I am seriously considering cutting my relationship with Tanya and Christine. I don't think friends act like that and get either jealous because I decided to be social with my other friends or whatever the reason may be. I found what they did to be hurtful, disgraceful, and especially childish to our friendship and to me. The reason may be that I am to serious or mature for them, but this is ridiculous. In my opinion if this is the treament I will be getting for talking with others then its not worth being her friend. Also Tanya and christine don't like the girl who broke up with her boyfriend at all and might've been mad that I went and hanged out with her for two days. I feel sometimes that Tanya is holding me back at times for who I can be friends with and concentrating on my academics. I probably still want to be friends with her, but a lot less talking and hanging around her. Any feedback I will appreciate and advice or critiscm is welcome. And thanks for reading all that. I just don't know what to do and wanted to come to you guys for help. Also I will possibly ask her later tonight what I did wrong or if she is mad at me on the phone.

[nerve]

...alright..talk to them. tell them how you feel about all this. if they persist with their...ignorance....then perhaps you should ignore them. if they're going to be so immature then why bother. I mean you can still be thier friend of course but..just don't try talking to them if they're going to be that way.

[Seeker]

Good advice from Paperdoll. Be friends, but don't allow anyone to make you lose focus of your school work or your goals. The next 5-10 years are probably the most critical in deciding the path your career and life will take. Don't waste them!

[nightowl]

Thank you so much, both of you. Wise words.... I have decided to take your advices and Im going to call her up and tell her how I feel and that Im not going to put up with something like that again. Im also going to ask her why she did that and I will apoligize for anything that I may have offended her to make her do that. I'm also going to discuss her about our friendship and whether or not she wants to still be friends or not. This is a big step for me and will undoubtly make my relationship with Kim(childhood friend and have absolutely no problem with) change in one or another and might even make it somewhat difficult. BTW others may still reply if they wish or if they have any comments/questions.

[nerve]

best of luck. =)

[Kaniaz]

Originally posted by Seeker Good advice from Paperdoll. Be friends, but don't allow anyone to make you lose focus of your school work or your goals. *The next 5-10 years are probably the most critical in deciding the path your career and life will take. Don't waste them! This is the most wise peice of advice you could ever lay your hands on.

[Lowercase Society]

another thing...its HIGH SCHOOL, dont worry too much about it...

[nightowl]

Well, I've been trying to call her for the past 2 days and no one picked up. I even left a message and I even blocked my call a couple of times and still no answer. To tell the truth I don't really care about it anymore. The first day it was racking my brain, but now I'm over it. I'm just ignoring her now. If she wants to be my friend, then she's going to have to meet me halfway. Thanks for the advice guys