Tell me if i'm bi-sexual

[refresher 711]

This is really embarrasing..... but i have been having these strange feelings for another girl, i really dont want to be like this...the problem is... i dont know if this is normal, i feel really stupid, but i'm very confused at the moment, and it doesnt make it any better when this girl is staring at me every time i look at her...I just dont know what i should do??? Am i INSANE??? I would greatly appreciate your help on this matter, as i cant share my problem with family or friends.

[Xox]

No you are certainly not insane. It's not weird to be having these strange feelings. It's not "abnormal" either. It's actually quite normal for you to be feeling something like this. But can you please define what kind of feelings you are getting? And why do you say, "I really don't want to be like this." And don't feel embarrassed.

[ExoByte]

You're asking if you're insane because of potentially being Bi-Sexual? You're not insane for maybe being Bi, but you could be labeled as such for asking that question! Confusion is understandable, especially with something such as this. A new experience like this can take its toll on anyone. But are we still so ignorant that we must view a person's sexual orientation as "wrong" or bad? You yourself believe that you don't want to feel the way you do, but can't help it. So, you shouldn't be condemned for your feelings. That said, Ironically hypocritical at that, what I think is wrong, is that you feel stupid over this. Perhaps is just a curiousness that has set in, a phase that will pass with time. But if its not, while you may have difficulty speaking to your family or friends about it, you should feel comfortable with yourself, about something that is part of you and that will define you. That said, I personally don't think your problem really is a problem.

[Adrenaline Junkie]

Yeah, like Xox said, don't feel embarassed about this. These feelings probably feel strange to you, but it does not mean that you cannot explore them. Its probably not wise to start talking to this girl about your feelings, its better to gain an understanding of these feelings first before taking any course of action. I suggest you maybe try some meditation or sit down and have a long hard think, it will likely come to you eventually. If your having weird feelings, it could be just something emotional, or it could be love, but do not jump the gun by assuming that you fancy her. Gain an understanding of these feelings, then you can define the situation and decide what to do from there. Don't be scared either about any of this, its perfectly normal to feel this way, but don't see it as something to be scared or fearful because there is nothing wrong with having such feelings. Just figure them out, take a long and hard think about it and i'm sure the answer will come to you. If you need any help, i'm just a PM away. Please do feel free to should you need to talk about anything.

[Universal Mind]

This is really embarrasing..... but i have been having these strange feelings for another girl, i really dont want to be like this...the problem is... i dont know if this is normal, i feel really stupid, but i'm very confused at the moment, and it doesnt make it any better when this girl is staring at me every time i look at her...I just dont know what i should do??? Am i INSANE??? I would greatly appreciate your help on this matter, as i cant share my problem with family or friends. Do you desire to do anything sexual with her? I think that is the key question. Then there is the question of whether having sex with her would be fun because that is a form of sex your brain finds naturally erotic or if it just seems exciting because it would be such a crazy and off the wall thing to do. Do you ever desire to do anything sexual with any other women? If so, do you know what it is about it that is appealing?

[NightLife]

If the girl has a pretty face, maybe that's why you look at her... It doesn't mean that you're bisexual... Maybe you have the feeling that she's bisexual/lesbian so you want to leave a good impression... Anyways, being bisexual is not a bad thing...

[ninja9578]

Where's guerilla?

[Marvo]

This is really embarrasing..... but i have been having these strange feelings for another girl, i really dont want to be like this...the problem is... i dont know if this is normal, i feel really stupid, but i'm very confused at the moment, and it doesnt make it any better when this girl is staring at me every time i look at her...I just dont know what i should do??? Am i INSANE??? I would greatly appreciate your help on this matter, as i cant share my problem with family or friends. UNDER 15 ALERT Anyway, I'm 16, and I figured out I was a bisexual when I was 14 years old. It was rather easy, because I knew a bunch of gay and bisexual guys (and many other straight) through a gaming community. You're more comfortable with yourself being bi, when you're comfortable with others being who are bi/gay.

[Bearsy]

I'm confused as to why you "really don't want to be like this". There's absolutely nothing wrong with being bisexual. I realized I was at 17, and I was thinking about it around 16. You are definitely not insane, and I truly hope you didn't learn that from your parents Good luck sorting out your feelings!

[ninja9578]

Yeah, being bisexual is great, it literal doubles your chances of having a date on Saturday night

[Mitzie]

I think a lot of girls go through a phase like this, I know I did, I just never came out of it. Almost every other girl I know has felt this way at some point in her life, sometimes it's random, or triggered by an event involving a guy. Like if you just broke up with one, or the one you liked turned out to be a complete ass. If you don't want to feel this way, then fine, but try to be careful with what you say because some people might take offense to it, luckily DV is full of understanding people. I think I know one girl who claims to have never had feelings for another girl, I believe her, but she's the only one. I wonder if you posted this because you really are concerned or more because you're curious. It's easy to think you have feelings for another girl, just remember that there are other reasons you might feel this way other than by being bi or a lesbian. Besides, even if you are, it's awesome! As ninja9578 said - doubles your chances of having a date!

[refresher 711]

Thanks for all of the great advice. in answer to the various questions asked; i constantly think about this person my feelings are more on the lines that i want to have a relationship-(but without anyone knowing) i know its stupid but i'm a catholic, and its kinda against my religion, so its pretty much wrong!?? i have thought about my feelings alot and have decided that they are very real and that its not just a phase. One other thing i have only liked this one girl, no one else. Actually, i dont know, i keep catching her looking at me, when really it should be the other way around.hehe ???? thanx

[Mitzie]

I forgot how restrictive religion is against people's feelings.

[refresher 711]

lol. hehe, your right, its great to get talking to people like you, your very understanding, by the way, if you dont mind me asking, how long did it take you to figure out you were bi?? (if u are)

[wasup]

I totally understand... if I was a girl I would be lesbian... woman are beautiful so there is certainly no shame in liking another girl . If you see that girl looking at you so much... you should talk to her and hang out with her and see if it goes anywhere ... But yeah, if a religion is making you think something natural you feel is wrong, maybe the religion is wrong?

[Alex D]

Sexuality is fluid, especially when you're young. Just go with things and d'on't pigeon hole yourself until your hormones stop running round your body going 'wheeeeeeeeeeee!'.

[Mitzie]

ALEX! Yeah, it took me a while to figure things out, I didn't stress over it. Society is so open about sexuality now that you have no reason to worry. I just started dating the first girl I really had feelings for and went from there - she was pretty open about it too so I think I got lucky. I still like guys too, only because they're too fun. I won't go all Ophelia on this thread though...

[Universal Mind]

Thanks for all of the great advice. in answer to the various questions asked; i constantly think about this person my feelings are more on the lines that i want to have a relationship-(but without anyone knowing) i know its stupid but i'm a catholic, and its kinda against my religion, so its pretty much wrong!?? i have thought about my feelings alot and have decided that they are very real and that its not just a phase. One other thing i have only liked this one girl, no one else. Actually, i dont know, i keep catching her looking at me, when really it should be the other way around.hehe ???? thanx What exactly is it you want to do with her? Is there anything sexual about it? I still see the possibility that you just feel really connected to her as a potential friend you could have a major bond with. If you are not desiring sex or making out or anything, it is not homosexual. I know that when I really want a woman, I have very vivid thoughts about exactly what I would like to be doing with her. If that is not happening, it is probably not sexual. In case you are bi and feel ashamed at all, go to You Tube and search under "girls kissing" and read the comments under a few of the zillion videos you will find. You will see just how much guys are NOT against girl-girl situations. We are big fans of it. Even the holy roller men who speak out against it secretly love it.

[dragonoverlord]

but i'm a catholic, and its kinda against my religion, so its pretty much wrong!?? thanx I bet you there is nothing inside the bible denouncing homosexuality, therefore its probably not against your relegion. When you hear a greasy old white guy saying that stuff it's probably his opinion and not in the bible. Anyway good luck.

[ninja9578]

lol. hehe, your right, its great to get talking to people like you, your very understanding, by the way, if you dont mind me asking, how long did it take you to figure out you were bi?? (if u are) I was 21

[refresher 711]

What exactly is it you want to do with her? Is there anything sexual about it? I still see the possibility that you just feel really connected to her as a potential friend you could have a major bond with. If you are not desiring sex or making out or anything, it is not homosexual. I know that when I really want a woman, I have very vivid thoughts about exactly what I would like to be doing with her. If that is not happening, it is probably not sexual. In case you are bi and feel ashamed at all, go to You Tube and search under "girls kissing" and read the comments under a few of the zillion videos you will find. You will see just how much guys are NOT against girl-girl situations. We are big fans of it. Even the holy roller men who speak out against it secretly love it. yeh, well i do daydream all the time, and i do think of things we could do together, i dunno, she came over to me today and started joking around, she does this all the time, she even touches me on the arm and stands very closely when speaking to me. This kinda makes me like her even more, as i am beginning to think that she likes me, but i'm not sure, but she does smile and talk to me more than she would to others, maybe shes just being friendly, but yeh i do think about stuff that could potenially happen, even though i'm only 16. I bet you there is nothing inside the bible denouncing homosexuality, therefore its probably not against your opinion. When you hear a greasy old white guy saying that stuff it's probably his opinion and not in the bible. Anyway good luck. forgive me, but that is quite true, i dont remember reading anything that was against it, phew....i'll have to get on with my life first, then when i'm near the end of my life, beg for forgivness. There's nothing in the bible, that is against lesbians, though there certainly is something against gays. I dunno about your situation though. Maybe your friend is going through the same phase as you? I suggest you just go with the stream, and if she suggests something (making out, whatever) and you're cool with it, I say do it. Also, I love real lesbian stories which is probably why I am still in this thread. wooowwww.....thanks for the help. Did you tell your parents??? i dont think i ever could...i'd have to keep it a secret

[Marvo]

There's nothing in the bible, that is against lesbians, though there certainly is something against gays. I dunno about your situation though. Maybe your friend is going through the same phase as you? I suggest you just go with the stream, and if she suggests something (making out, whatever) and you're cool with it, I say do it. Also, I love real lesbian stories which is probably why I am still in this thread.

[CoLd BlooDed]

*glances over thread* Hmm... location: Ireland. Very good... very good... Ooh, catholic... school girl? Bi sexual? Bisexual Irish catholic school girl?! Hahaha, sorry, I had to. I don't really have anything to contribute experience wise, but I can say that you shouldn't be ashamed of it. Like many others have said, just go with the flow.

[refresher 711]

*glances over thread* Hmm... location: Ireland. Very good... very good... Ooh, catholic... school girl? Bi sexual? Bisexual Irish catholic school girl?! Hahaha, sorry, I had to. I don't really have anything to contribute experience wise, but I can say that you shouldn't be ashamed of it. Like many others have said, just go with the flow. i know i know, it is funny actually, if i read this thread i'd be laughing like you yeh thanks.....i shouldnt be ashamed!!!....

[7heUsedB3rth]

There's only one way to find out...Namely lesbian porn. WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU??? This person is in a emotional crisis, and all you want is somthing to jack-off to? As for the thread poster, it is not strange. If you feel that this is right, than it is, if you feel it isn't, it isn't. If you like her, than that is that. It's not insane, its nice. If you feel that this is something to be emberresed about, it isn't. I hope you persue your feelings, and skrew whatever other people think! Don't fear the thouht of others. I envy your courege.- BeeT