I don't really know how to word this question but I shall try...

I'm not having trouble realizing I'm in a dream, When I am a dream I notice the existence of myself in the dream, but although I notice I am in a dream I can not gain control over it, Its as if I am doing no more than watching a film through my eyes, People are a little blurry, colors are nearly incoherentley vivid and I know I am in a dream, heck I can even do reality checks, But I still gain no control over the dream help please???