Thread: Cracking The Lucid Barrier, The Easy Way

Congratulations on all your success. (Meanwhile I haven't had a lucid for a long time; note to self, remember to try EFT). I'm glad things are working out for you; see I told you...just keep it up, confidence is the main thing. What have you got to lose? Don't take things too seriously. You know how in relationships they say that there is one who loves, and one who is loved? WEll I always wanted to be the one who was loved, I thought that was the best place to be to protect myself (from rejection or whatever). But then I got into a relationship that went the other way, and I found out rather than being vulnerable position, being the one who does the loving is the most fun and most exciting even tho you can get hurt more easily. It is worth it. (Now ten years later it doesn't matter much either way of course.) I don't know if that has anything to do with your situation, but I think rejection or whatever you fear may not really be as bad as you think, especially compared with alternative of missing out on fun and sex and everything.

Originally Posted by Moonbeam

Congratulations on all your success. (Meanwhile I haven't had a lucid for a long time; note to self, remember to try EFT). I'm glad things are working out for you; see I told you...just keep it up, confidence is the main thing. What have you got to lose? Don't take things too seriously. You know how in relationships they say that there is one who loves, and one who is loved? WEll I always wanted to be the one who was loved, I thought that was the best place to be to protect myself (from rejection or whatever). But then I got into a relationship that went the other way, and I found out rather than being vulnerable position, being the one who does the loving is the most fun and most exciting even tho you can get hurt more easily. It is worth it. (Now ten years later it doesn't matter much either way of course.) I don't know if that has anything to do with your situation, but I think rejection or whatever you fear may not really be as bad as you think, especially compared with alternative of missing out on fun and sex and everything.
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I prefer a relationship where we're both doing the loving, and we're both being loved. I truly believe that's possible, and I've had that a bit before.

Speaking of not giving up: I realized the other day that I had begun to play the dating game from a position of total resignation. I said, "since it is not my fate to get women, I'll try just so I can say I tried."

The problem was, when I tried, I was met with success. And success was way worse than being alone. I said to myself, "I didn't sign up to succeed, I signed up to fail." And so I ran. LOL

Every step of the dating game is frustratingly simple; it's accepting success with women that's hard.

Isn't that weird?

The Purple Knight

Originally Posted by chevalier_violet

I prefer a relationship where we're both doing the loving, and we're both being loved. I truly believe that's possible, and I've had that a bit before.


The Purple Knight
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I don't mean like totally one-sided, I mean like in the beginning in the blind-love stage, one person is the obsessor and one the obssessee. I thought being the obsessee was fun until I became the obsessor, which was much more exciting. Of course that would be the case only when something is reciprocated.